To be fed up of bossy two year old

[beingbossedabout]

Will probably regret starting this thread as toddler threads here often go mental but my two year olds bossy behaviour is really getting on my nerves. It started with just being ordered to ‘sit there mummy’ and it’s evolved to dragging me around, taking a finger and pulling me, trying to shove me down on the sofa if I need to get up, and getting very irate when I don’t do as I am told, it’s tedious as hell. When does it end?

I think they go off you about age 13, so then. Our DD, now 8, was just like this and still is tbh. One of life’s narrators, could honestly host a talk time radio show. Exhausting.

I meant the book you mentioned not one you've written.

Good luck with it all.

My two old is an absolute dictator. Sometimes we step in and redirect/refuse if it’s getting too much, and we don’t obey if it’s not convenient but despite a lot of people in here who say following is teaching them to be rude and demanding, I see it as a positive. He’s learning that his words have impact, and that he can affect the world around him: why would I want to quash that? I want him to be bold and confident. Yes I am teaching him to be polite and as he grows we will teach him how to shape and mold those demands/requests. But for now I’m happy to follow some of his demands to show he has a place in the world and can directly affect it.

The apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

What is even the point of this thread? You clearly are not interested in other people’s views.

Exactly what I was thinking.

No. I didn’t ‘misspeak’.

‘Respectfully saying no’ can be modulated according to age, context and misdemeanour from serious face sing-songy when they’re two, stern words and tone when they’re older to full bollocking when they come in unexpectedly drunk at 16 on cheap cider and puke on the carpet.

It’s all ‘telling off’ to your child. It lets them know you’re in charge and you’ll not put up with nonsense.

There is no magical ‘developmental’ milestone when you can start. It’s all about setting expectations and communicating disapproval in the most effective age-appropriate way along the road.

It's funny because this is probably how either you've behaved towards him and he's copying or he's seen others treated this way

I’m not interested in people bitching about my parenting or being unpleasant about a two year old, that’s right.

Who bitched about your parenting?

So no one’s claimed it’s because she has no boundaries and unruly toddlers are the scourge of society? Have another look.

No.

um.. who is the parent and who is the child? Does the word "no" mean much? Keeping calm thru a toddler tantrum is better then being controlled by a 2 yr old.

No, no one said she has no boundaries. What people said is you need to set boundaries.

Why are you offended by that? It’s a parenting forum!

And no one said toddlers are a scourge.

If she remains like and starts to order her nursery/school pals about then she'll soon get a reputation as a 'bossy boots' and nobody will want to play with her. The best favour you can do her is to say a big fat no and remain stern and steadfast.

I really don’t see point of your post. You say you are fed up of being pushed and pulled but in next breath don’t want to do anything about it. When she’s 3 at nursery and pushing other children it won’t seem cute.
Teaching little ones not to push and pull other people is parenting, how else do they learn what’s acceptable.

Mine manages to get experienced nursery room leaders to follow her assertive requests. She just issues them so calmly, and reasonably, with total expectation that she'll be obeyed...

I'd like to think she is modelling my parenting to others... 😂

When my little dictator was about 3, a friend we had saying gently suggested that he probably shouldn't throw his boomerang in the kitchen as it was more of a park toy.

He looked friend dead in the eye and bellowed 'Mummy, Jon said he'd take me to the park!' and just put his shoes on and waited with an expectant expression while my poor bewildered friend looked at me like he'd been absolutely had (which he had, tbf).

Toddlers cannot really conceive of others having feelings or experiences different from their own - it's just something they learn as they begin to see others as people in their own right!

This will sound stupid but I’m quite looking forward to this 😅 My daughter (19mths) seems to be developing into a ‘typical’ toddler with tantrums, leading me over to stuff and wanting lots of attention. By contrast my son at that age was very placid, totally content to play alone and didn’t want cuddles or to be held much. I felt a lot like a spare part 😂

I've got a 2 year old. Very bossy too! I hear ya!

Just today, husband running her bath:

"Bath with mummy. Daddy OUT the bathroom. Daddy get milk!"

Your son sounds wonderful 🤩🤣

What seems funny and cute now, will be seen as obnoxious in a couple of years in a reception classroom. You need to remind your child that you are the mummy!

What was the purpose of your thread then? I'm slightly baffled.

Erm then be a parent and stop the behaviour. Our youngest girls twins are 2 next a 3 and none do this..mummy ain't jumping everytime, I will play with them once I've got my jobs done they know that but nope only bossy one allowed is me lol 😂