Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

Absolutely not! Especially as it's because one is part time as opposed to a lower paid role.

No way equal even down to eating out or excursions

Cheeky fucker 🤣 I actually had a mate like this, expected me to pay for the expensive rounds and didn’t bat an eyelid at letting me pay for dinner and “forgetting” to transfer her share.

I ditched her and told her why but she’s complained to mutual friends that it is “unfair” because I earn more. Lazy cow needs to work the hours I do then

At the start of the thread, I was expecting a major drip feed by the OP that somehow justified it, (like some of the posts above) but the only additional posts have been to emphasise even more.
The fact the person who is working part time, has enough 'non-allocated cash' each month to be saving for something else gives even less reason why they should be subsidised.

I had been expecting a sob story about the PT person not being able to work anymore hours because of X, Y, or Z.

The person on lower income can absolutely choose to work fewer hours, or can choose to put aside some of their income for something else, but, having made those two decisions, most of us would accept that this year a holiday wasn't affordable so we wouldn't be going.

It’s 50:50

Definitely not!

The answer is a definite NO....Why should the higher earner put their money towards someone's holiday. I am actually dumbfounded you ask?

Absolutely not

Partners yes, friends no. Would have assumed that was obvious.

Seriously???? That’s the first issue that came to mind reading your OP. How could that not be the issue.

The only way I see around this is if the person suggesting the holiday (who has more 💰 ) really wanted this particular holiday, plus really wanted the “poorer” friend to come, might offer the “poorer” friend only pay the difference between one v’s two people taking the trip.
That could be considered a gift. That said, as the “poorer” friend, I would never suggest this. Holidays together typically would be 50/50

No

I don't think it should be expected, and if I was asked I probably would think it wasn't right to ask me. I went on holiday with my friend in August. I paid for her because of the difference in our financial positions. But not because I was asked or it was expected.

No. You go on a holiday that the poorer person can afford.

Definitely not. None of friends business has much each other earns. However if I was more financially advantage I would probably treat a friend to a drink or meal if I could do it without offending them

Purely because they earn more? Absolutely not.

Last year I booked a center parcs type thing and invited my friend after I'd already paid. I didn't expect half from her but she paid for one of the meals out for everyone. We've both only got one kid who've known each other since nursery so she was doing a favour for me coming. I go every year and it's not the sort of place she would usually go to so I found our setup fair. But in general, no, it shouldn't be the default.

I don't vote because I can't work out which way is which.

Holiday gets split 50:50 The holiday doesn't get subsidised because one person is saving for something. If they can't afford the holiday, they stay home.

If I was the higher earner I'd be more likely to pay for some extra drinks or pick up an extra meal tab, but the holiday would be 50:50

No! Why should they?

If we were talking 2 people in a committed relationship who share finances then that's a different matter but friends? No. If you can't afford to go on holiday with your mate then you book somewhere cheaper or don't go!! End of.

No, expense should be share 50 50 unless thw petson who earns more want to treat the friend but it should be his/hrr choice

Definitely not!

Nothing wrong with a long-standing very wealthy friend offering to pay. However, note I said wealthy and also offering. Huge difference from a friend who has more money purely because she works extra hours or just has a better paid job.

This thread shows the increasing entitlement and expectation from many. Whatever happened to accountability and sorting out your own finances if you are not happy with them.

50/50 even if you are partners.

I voted YABU if it’s based on income alone. But it depends on the circumstances ie if the lower income person is being a CF or if the higher income person is benefitting in some other way.

I have been the voluntary bank roller in this situation. I was going to book a mini-break for £500 (2bed) but for £750 I could get a 6-bed so offered a friend and her family to come if they paid the extra £250 as I knew they were short of cash and I would have a better time with company.

Generally, absolutely not - although if there’s an enormous difference in wealth then there’s nothing wrong with the richer party paying more IF they want to - eg we do have some extremely wealthy friends (think multimillionaire level) who have insisted on ‘booking the villa’ on a shared holiday, because the cost was a drop in the ocean to them but impossible for us. Very generous of them and we in no way expected it - but they insisted so we could join them.

If I was ever in the same position (not that I would be 😂), I would love to treat my friends in the same way. I did once pay for a close mate’s flight to join me on a big birthday as she couldn’t afford it.

They don’t have to but I do (sometimes) as I know some people wouldn’t be able to afford things. I recently paid for accommodation for a city break with a friend who lives abroad. She paid for her own flights. She wouldn’t have been able to come otherwise. She was very grateful.