Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

When I have been better off I have paid more, but it really depends on the background to the relationship. I now live with the same partner who has done better since and the roles are reversed.

Absolutely not. What a liberty. Go on a cheaper holiday that the lower earner can afford.
totally different if in a relationship as that’s a partnership.

The person expecting the full timer to pay 75% is either a chancer or thick. Sorry if that offends anyone.

No, 2 friends pay 50:50 (I.e. for themselves). Husband and wife or similar set up would pay together so yes if one earns more, they may end up paying more towards a holiday.

No, if you can’t afford it don’t go.

I work part time because I have young children and my best friend works full time, there is no way I would expect her to pay more than me no matter what she earns,

Definitely no. If the lower earner can’t afford then she should make sure that they book something she can afford!

If the part timer wants to go on holiday they should pay for themselves, if when they are away the full-time wants to " treat" them to a day/ night out, that would very kind but should not be expected.

No, pay for yourselves or go 50/50. If you want the higher earner to pay more then are you also expecting them to pay more for joint excursions and meals out and souvenirs?

As long as both of you are going on a holiday that you can individually afford then ofcourse each should pay for their own holiday. And, you shouldn't be going on a holiday that both can't afford. The person who earns more may choose to treat the other friend to one or two meals or drinks.

If the person who earns more chooses a holiday that the other can't afford, then there should be a discussion on how it would be financed.

Partners is different. The OP is talking about 2 friends not a couple

This is basically the benefits system applied to friends.

I can tell you that not many people who have chosen to work their arses off at school, in further education and then at work in order to secure a high wage, feel magnanimous about paying lots to fund the lives of people who haven't.

PS. I am not wanting to open a debate about hard work and high pay; obviously many people do the former and don't have the latter. I would argue that those with the talent to do the roles that command the highest rates of pay, will still have had to work really hard to be in that position. Yes, there will be exceptions.

I have gone on holiday with a friend who makes significantly more. She wanted to go and stay somewhere totally out of budget for me so offered to cover accommodation costs for us both. I otherwise would not have gone at all and she really wanted to go together so I didn’t feel guilty. I think it depends on the situation and what is agreed beforehand.

No..

No way it's 50/50.

No. 50/50. Working full time doesn't mean they are loaded. I would say if the other could afford to go part time then maybe they may have more money than the full time person!

If i was planning to go on this particular holiday alone in any case and a friend coming would only increase the cost by a certain amount I might, depending on whether or not I could afford it, and how close i was to the other person, offer to pay what I originally expected to and let the second person pick up the extra. But definitely not expected - no should about it.

@AtomHeartMotherOfGod

". I am not wanting to open a debate about hard work and high pay;"

you mean, you don't want to hear opinions that differ from your own assertion.

you did not hesitate to assert your own opinion.

Sorry this happened to you. I call this financial cannibalism and frankly it's happened to me loads since I lost my parents in my 20s - everyone assumes I'm minted. On an orphan forum I found out it's pretty common. It's insane that people think it's ok to profiteer on people while they're at their lowest ebb (grieving/divorced). Frigging vultures!

I think some people could do with being offended based on the original post 🤣

See this I agree with.

Depending on the type of accommodation, it will cost the same for 1 person as it does for 2 and if it meant paying an extra £xxx to go to a nicer hotel that the other person had no issues with it, then definitely ( same as going out to eat, if someone says local spoons I would say no and prefer we go elsewhere but then I would simply cover their meal), otherwise you can get stuffed if I’m simply expected to cover your holiday simply because I earn more. As someone upthread pointed out, earning more doesn’t equal more disposable income

If everyone that thinks a lottery winner should treat them got their way, they wouldn't be a lottery winner for long

Generally no.

but if wealthier friend X wants to holiday with Y but go somewhere out of budget for Y, X might offer to help Y afford it in order for the holiday to happen at all. It’s a way of X getting the holiday they want if they don’t want to go on their own.

alternatively they should go on cheaper holiday Y can afford.

Sorry I don’t mean YOU can get stuffed😅 I meant whomever is expecting it… I read my post back and it seemed as if I was saying you personally should get stuffed 😆

Laughable . Absolutely not