Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

only if the other person has won the lottery , otherwise that’s absolutely ridiculous. Both parties should pay their own way equally x

No 50/50

Definitely not - when I read the Op I was thinking wow this sounds absurd, why anyone would even suggest or consider this?

Then I realised I have been in a somewhat similar situation. So for for years I (stupidly) picked up the tab for every single dinner/coffee as my friend worked only 18 hours a week. Even when her kids were there I’d pay for them all.

I would never do that again -working so few hours was a lifestyle choice for her, so she could still receive various benefits.

She still works part time even now her kids are 13+ and that’s up to her, but I shouldn’t have to pay for it.

I had started to ignore when the bill comes out and she would look at me like a lost puppy. I’d say clearly to the food server that we were splitting it. Probably why I don’t see her much now lol

No, but the budget needs to be set based on what both people can afford.

And it's fine for the higher earner to choose to pay more. I'm happy doing that for good friends, especially if the alternative is not having that time/experience together. I wouldn't appreciate that being the expectation or taken for granted.

No, not unless the one who earns more really wants to go on a holiday that they can afford but the friend can not, and is willing to pay more to have a companion because they don't like holidaying alone. In that case they could do something like pay for all the accommodation because that is where they really really want to go, then invite the friend to come and join them and friend just needs flights and spends.

Why does the part timer work part time?

Is it the fault of the full timer?

No why should they just because they earn more. Not their fault that the other preson works part time. But if the higher earner knows the other one don't earn that much for reasons they can't work longer. And the high earner asked them to go away with them knowing they couldn't afford it. Then maybe help them out a wee bit towards the holiday.

Nope each pays for themselves or split 50/50.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

What are you unsure about?

I am intrigued by your thought process here?

No

This would be akin to asking the highest earning neighbour in my street to pay for my mortgage - If you can't afford something it is your problem, and yours only.

Not unless there is some other reason why the person who earns more wants to treat the other person e.g. a birthday or a particularly big bonus or pay rise. Or perhaps if the holiday couldn’t happen if the other person paid half but you really wanted to go.

No definitely not. When you go into a shop you don't pay more for an item because you earn more than the next person do you?

No. They should pay the same. Then if the richer one wants to buy meals or drinks or treats for the other during the trip then they can. And say they don't wish to be paid back.

But if they don't offer then it should be halves and pay for own food/drink. Why should someone automatically subsidise their friend's holiday just because they're more financially successful?

Absolutely not! If it was 2 people in a committed long term relationship/marriage I could understand it. But for a friend? No way! No one is responsible for a friends finances/lifestyle choices. If the part time person cant afford the holiday, either find other work or don't go. Never heard anything so ridiculous in my life.

Of course not.

Absolutely not! Both friends should pay 100% of their own costs. If you can’t afford to go, you don’t go.

Nobody should expect the higher earner to pay more but I often subtly contribute more to meals and holidays with certain friends as I know it makes their life a bit easier. They’d never expect it and I never make a thing of it. In fact, most of the time they don’t even know.

The person who is earning more is already subsidising the person who earns less. What more blood could you possibly want out of that stone??

No, absolutely not 🤔

I would pay extra if the part time person were disabled and couldn’t work more hours. Not otherwise.

Another question would be…what if both work FT but one is in a high paying sector and the other isn’t. If I were the higher, I’d help out (subtly) but if I were the lower I wouldn’t expect or ask for anything.

It depends.

The default, obviously, is that they pay equally.

If they are incredibly good friends, and the one who has less money is happy to risk the rich friend laughing in her face, then the poorer one could say "I can only afford to go if you subsidize me, I'll pay 50% of my share, you pay 150% of your share."

I might offer if it was a very close and long-standing friend under special circumstances. Otherwise absolutely not.
I get tired of splitting the bill at restaurants when I only eat 2 child's portions and don't drink too.

100%. If you are well-off and have others less fortunate around you then do things like -

(1) 'Forget' who paid last time and pay for a meal out even though it's not your turn
(2) Try to always get the first round in
(3) Lean towards cheaper drinks when it's not your round
(4) When a taxi is £22 say "give me a tenner" and then make up the difference and leave the tip.

No, you both want to go on holiday so you pay half each. If you cannot afford it then don’t go! Is there an option to add in another couple to reduce the cost?