Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

I have worked part time for years and it has literally never crossed my mind that a friend working full time would subsidise me. Either I can afford to do something or I can’t. A friend’s income doesn’t come into the equation.

I work part-time for medical reasons but I would never expect anyone to subsidise me (DH doesn't count because our money is joint).

If two friends decide to buy a house would it be reasonable for the higher earner to pay more of the mortgage? No.

No

I can't believe the number of people trying to make this something it isn't! Sure, if someone jumps in demanding a free ride, they're a CF. But have you never heard anyone saying "I'm going your way, I can give you a lift"?

See the difference?

If say full timer is planning to go away and wants company but knows part timer will struggle to afford it they could ask the part timer to pay additional cost of attending rather than half. But it should definitely come from full timer and costs while away should be 50/50.
if it’s a joint decision or part timers idea then 50/50 but full timer could treat part timer to a meal whilst away but should not feel in any way obliged.

I can see a situation where the more comfortably off might offer, depending on their other circumstances, but absolutley no "should" about it.

Not that this has much similarity to a holiday, but ... yes, and it happens quite often. Usually, the higher payer holds a bigger slice of the equity. Sometimes it's because the lower payer put down a large deposit.

I actually have a similar situation currently.

There's somewhere I'd really like to go. Friend expressed and interest, but has got less interested since finding out the cost.

I could (and probably will) go on my own, but it has occurred to me offer to cover the full cost of accomodation becuase it's basically the same whether I go alone or with a companion.

I don't really know what the "right" thing to do is. Would accepting make friend a CF?

No

I think it is fine in this instance. If i was considering going on my own anyway I would offer for friend to just pay the difference and obviously they would have to pay any other costs they incur. If you would prefer to go alone its different. Its only cheeky if the friend expects it or asks you to pay.

If we take one of the DCs friends away with us we only ever ask for them to pay the difference (if its material) plus their spending

Hell no!

The only time this would be ok to split unevenly is if the higher earner wanted a better holiday and the lower earner couldn’t afford half. The higher earner could offer to pay more but accept it if the lower earner wasn’t comfortable with the inequality

No way

For me it would depend on a few factors. I earn more than my friend. If we were going on a holiday I wanted to go on, or that was more than she could afford, I would pay more. If she said, I’ve got X amount, let’s go on holiday, and I found one that cost slightly more, I would pay the difference. If she said, I’ve found this holiday, it’s 2k, you pay 1500 and I’ll pay 500 because you earn more, then no.
I’ve booked us tickets to a concert later this year, we both wanted to go but she couldn’t afford it. So I’ve just paid for them, because I can afford to and because if I didn’t then neither of us would go, and I want to go. She would do the same for me.

In one word, no.

Though in more words, I’d never expect someone who earns more than me to pay more for a holiday we have both jointly decided to go on. It’s not the higher earners place to have to pay more.

Absolutely no!

Nope, not at all. The holiday should be planned to be affordable to the less well off person though.

Of course not!

Absolutely not. Why is this even a thing ?

Not a chance. I go on holiday with a group of friends and we all have different income levels. We all.pay the exact same.

This is a joke surely?! Based on that logic, should I quit my job expect that everything everywhere should be free for me?

No!

Nope

No.