Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

Some men maybe but certainly not all in my experience.

Ha! Absolutely not!!! Unless the friend who pays more is getting a better room away from the other one...

No. If you aren't life-partners you should pay the same, unless you are renting a self-catering house with one master en-suite bedroom and the 2nd bedroom is small with a single bed, in whic case the person with the bigger bedroom could pay a little more (no bigger than a 47.5%:52.5% split) but the cost of the holiday must then be budgeted to the affordability level of the less-wealthy friend and the wealthier friend must not pressure the other person into spending more than they can afford. They may choose to fully fund (for both) some kind of "upgrade" if there's some aspect that they want which their friend can't afford, but they shouldn't be expected or pressured to do so.

Wtf no

No. Although if budgets were wildly different but I really wanted to them to come on an expensive holiday of my choice and they were pushing for a cheaper one I might offer. But more likely I'd go with the cheaper option instead.

No! If one party can’t afford the holiday, they should make that clear and withdraw from the holiday before booking.

All those saying No - the scenario outlined is the higher earner considering a solo holiday. You pay a big premium for single packages. The difference is often just 10% less than the price for two.

Imo, it's unfair to insist on 50/50 if you were going to pay 90 anyway and the other person's hard up. I have done this a couple of times - paid for two instead of just me - and the friend got a free trip, on condition they bought us a good dinner or something. I felt like having company, they felt like a holiday, all good.

It is up to either person to pay what they want it is a choice, a higher earner should not be expected to pay more if they chose to that is up to them that is the difference

but how on earth can holidays be nice if it has to be this complicated? it wouldnt be worth it to me

No. Just go somewhere you can both afford.

There's something a bit icky about that, I feel. It's almost like a Victorian paid companion setup.

No, the point is that I was going to pay anyway. It wasn't "Let's go away together", I was buying a trip for myself. It just happened that another person would only cost £50 more, so I asked a friend if they fancied piggybacking on my holiday. Which is much as the OP outlined.

😂 FFS. Would you feel the same if your friend had a restaurant voucher for two, and invited you?

Do you want some ice cream to go with that huge dollop of cheeky fuckery, op?!

No way.

Person with less money needs to say if they can’t afford it and either suggest cheaper alternative or pull out of the plan altogether.

If person with more money is very keen to go with original plan, then they might offer to sub the friend, but they are under no obligation to do so.

As a general rule it should be 50/50. But if the full timer wants to pay more if it meant the part timer can afford to come and they will both enjoy it then fair enough. It's their choice.
E..g if the full timer is looking to go away regardless and will cost £600 to go alone but the same package holiday will cost £900 for two people to go. They could say they would pay £600 and the other person pay £300 rather than both paying £450 each.

No. The price of things doesn't change according to how much you can afford.

I’m going to message my rich friends and see if they want to go to Barbados with me….

No. Wouldn't even cross my mind.
Who in the batshittery comes up with a suggestion such as this?!

No. When it's friends you split the cost equally. Partners is different because there is usually at least some element of shared finances in a relationship, but with friends you both pay your own way and cut your cloth according to what the less well-off person can afford.

It would be different if the wealthier friend wanted to stay somewhere more expensive and offered to cover the additional cost but that isn't the expectation.

No. It’s 50/50 or the trip doesn’t happen.

Imagine this scenario: you're getting into an expensive taxi on your own and a friend jumped in. Would you be happy if they said to you "I'm not paying anything because you were willing to pay the full amount when it was just you"?

I suspect not. It's cheeky and very entitled IMO.

Sorry, replied to wrong post but couldn't delete!

Not if they just decided to jump in, but there’s an alternative scenario where I want to take a taxi, my friend is happy with the bus, so I offer to pay for the taxi as I don’t want to wait for the bus and it’s unfair to make my friend pay more when they’re happy with the cheaper option but I’m not.

It would be very entitled of the friend to say that.

But there is a middle ground.

If we’re going to the airport I want to get a taxi. Not get the bus because they can’t afford to split the taxi fare. And I don’t want to eat at the cheap buffet every meal either, or forgo the local sights.