Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

[Libbykitty]

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

100% no.
Different if you’re married.

If married and there is an agreement that one person is earning more and the other has reduced hours because of family ‘work’ eg childcare, any care, DIY, running house etc- then all money earnt by both parties should be pooled each months; so all money in is considered joint income. Then all budgets can be spent on whatever like holidays and I think an equal split is fair.

Oh sorry I didn’t understand the friends not partners but if you mean you’re not even a couple this is a wierd question!!

I’m a vote for 50/50 each pay for yourselves. It’s weird that earnings would even come into it tbh

The holiday should be split 50/50. Can’t believe this is a real question to be honest.

God no! Absolute madness to expect that - and if you have a friend telling you then then you don't actually have a friend at all.

If the part timer can’t afford it then they need to save harder. Why should the full time person pay more just because the part timer is also saving for something else? What about when you’re actually away? Part timer “oh I can’t afford to eat out every night cos I’m saving for (whatever they’re saving for)..” full timer “that’s ok I’ll pay” then before you know it you’ve paid almost all their holiday accommodation, travel and expenses. Anyone who would let a friend pay for all that when they could pay themselves but are choosing not to aren’t really a great friend

I'm a high earner and like to travel. Sometimes in the past if I wanted a friend or partner to come with me who couldn't afford it I paid for some of the costs like accommodation myself or do things like use my avios to subsidise both of our flights. But that wasn't 'calculated' based on income, I just offered and then would see if the other person could afford to come. I'd be a bit pissed off if the other person expected me to do it.

I've put this in past tense as I'm now a single parent so I've got less disposable income.

Funnily enough nobody has ever offered to subsidise me apart from my own parents, even when I've been out of work.

I voted YABU because it sounds like an expectation and as a PP said you choose to work less and possibly a less stressful job.

Not a chance. I used to holiday with my friends, all with different incomes and if we couldn't afford to pay our share then we stayed home.

You don’t pay more for cornflakes because you earn more! Of course you should pay 50/50. Hope no-one gives this idea to the Labour government.

If that's how you frame it to the friend, then yes, pay more. I've occasionally paid for a friend to come on a holiday I planned to do solo, as the price differential was negligible.

If you approach it from the view that the higher earner should pay more, it's all kinds of wrong and will cause problems.

No, you each pay 50/50. Unless someone offers to contribute more.

So don't go on holiday together.

I did read an article or possibly a Mumsnet thread recently which was a bit of a salutary tale covering this issue. Group of friends who always ended up subsidising one of the friends because she ‘couldn’t afford’ the things they wanted to do. On occasion they would also down grade their plans because ‘it was too expensive’. Then a few years later the ‘poor’ friend upgraded their house to a bigger one and bought a top of the range car car and it just turned out she was actually putting her disposable income into savings. Obviously that’s fine but if you want to do that don’t accept money off friends to subsidise your social life.

I knew one like that. Often ‘forgot’ her purse, took drinks off of otters then went home before it was her round, had to be chased on numerous occasions to pay for her share of a bill somebody had put on their card or for gig:event tickets. Constantly pleading poverty - and now she’s the first person who’s taken early retirement at 58!

No way, definitely 50/50 if this is a holiday with a friend. Otherwise its simply not fair and resentments will develop.

No. Not between friends. (But in a marriage/long-term serious relationship, then I say yes.)

You need to grow a pair.
And stand up for yourself.

Don't pay for them.

No, but occasionally wealthier friend might pick up a coffee tab and expect nothing in return.

No. Among men it would be thought insulting if someone tried to show off their greater wealth in that way.

50-50. Why unequal?

That’s one solution of course, but it’s a shame.

It shouldn't be expected, but there are situations when it makes sense.

Person A has budget A and suggests holiday they can afford.
Person B has higher budget B and wants a higher standard.

If person B can get their preferred holiday for themselves as solo traveler for budget B, and than add person A for budget A, why not? In a good friendship they can communicate and enjoy a nice holiday.

If it’s got 2 bedrooms and one is a lovely en suite room and the other is a kids bunk bed room the one with more money could pay more to get the good room but otherwise I can’t think why it wouldn’t be even.

Earnings aren't relevant. Two adults going on holiday together pay half each. If one can't afford their half you look at cheaper holidays.