To find it laughable that people call it “self-care” to ignore others?

[PoliteEnoughNotToGhost]

I keep seeing people act like ghosting, avoiding messages or pulling away from loved ones is some kind of empowered boundary. But since when did basic decency or communication become optional in the name of “self-care”?

Isn’t it possible to look after yourself without treating others like they’re disposable?
AIBU to think that a lot of this is just emotional laziness dressed up in self-help language?

There’s boundaries and then there’s just dumping friends and family because you are very wrapped up in yourself. There’s definitely a difference.

Self care to me is prioritising yourself at times when you need to. For me I might mute a group chat that is overwhelming. I might say no to some events rather than squeeze them in. I wouldnt ghost a close friend or relative reaching out to me directly. I dont think that is what most people mean by self care.

Self care might be I dont go to the work Christmas do I wont be missed at. Doesnt mean I would not attend a one to one catch up with a good friend.

I’m so glad I don’t have friends like this. If I did then I don’t think we would remain friends for very long!

I haven't experienced this or noticed it being a "trend". If this is happening to you repeatedly then you probably need to ask yourself why.

It depends on the circumstances and situation. There is no blanket answer here imo