Dh won’t ice skate

[Alwayseatingpringles]

Dd, 7 desperate to go ice skating (has only done it when little on a kids ice rink, holding onto one of the penguin things.
Now she’s a little older, there’s a bigger rink nearby at Christmas. She always asks Dh to go with her and he says no.
i do so many things with Dd, I don’t want to
ice skate, but I feel bad for Dd
Should she try on her own and we watch? I know she would probably need help, all I see is dads helping their kids

Would your Dh do it?

Aibu?

Ice skating is an activity that no one should be pushed into doing if they don’t want to.

I signed my kids up for lessons when they were younger. She'll be able to learn better that way.

You husband doesn't want to do this and he's within his rights...it's not that easy, especially being responsible for a child.

You are being so unreasonable OP

if DH doesn’t do other activities then ask him to find something else to do with DD

But you can’t force him to do ice skating if you also don’t want to. Ice skating can feel dangerous and uncomfortable - you can’t force him

you wouldnt force him to take her diving or climbing if he was a nervous swimmer or had a fear of heights… would you???

give her separate lessons.

I love ice skating but that’s by the by. The answer is always to take her with friends her age or to enrol her in lessons with her age group.

Nope. He wouldn't. But also couldn't as he has a prosthetic leg. It ruled out taking the dc swimming too. Not practical at all.

But he did take her to some of her ice skating lessons that we signed her up for.

Ice skating is not dangerous if you can skate, certainly no more so than riding a bike. It helps if you can already roller skate.

Sorry I pressed yanbu by mistake.

YABU. Unless he's Robin Cousins or someone

Yabu since neither of you want to do this activity. Its a bit hypocritical to say you won't do it but he should

He should have a look at activities he can do with dd to give them some time together though, something they would both enjoy

Thanks Captain Obvious!

As a skate parent (DD has been in lessons since she was 3), I say this from experience. Don't sign her up for skating unless you're prepared for her to be good at it and start competing with all the expense that entails 😆

Why is your title ‘DH won’t skate’….? You don’t want to do it either. Doesn’t matter if you do other activities. I do plenty of activities with my DDs but I don’t ice skate because I dislike it

I take our kids as my DH refuses to (bad knees and ankles) luckily I don't mind it even though and Pretty rubbish to start with.
If you don't want to go either looks like you'll have to distract her with another activity the Rinks you mention will be closing imminently anyway

She can't skate on her own. She needs an adult who can stay upright on the ice to support her. Ice skating is tricky, last time I went some adults never let go of the side the whole hour. What's the point in him taking her if he's going to be like that?

??

Why not both do it with her as a family outing?

Can either of you ice skate? If not, then its far wiser to get her lessons than have either of you take her.
But if you do go, wear helmets! I think it's crazy that people don't wear helmets when ice skating in the uk, in my country they won't allow you on the rink without a helmet - prevents so many injuries.

Don't blame him - or you. I did it once, never again!

Apparently not obvious to the posters who say it’s dangerous.

i see lots of people suggesting ice skating lessons. Don’t they get ice skating lessons at school?

Holding onto an adult is not a good way to learn, and can just result in worse falls. Better to start with pushing something on the ice, like a chair or a skating aid.

You're joking right ? You feel bad that she sees people queuing for a turn and she can't go and you're cross with her dad about it , despite, the reason you won't (won't, not can't being the key thing here ) take her being exactly the same as his. It's hypocrisy. The fact you do other things with her doesn't change the fact that neither of you will take her for the same reason. Ofc yabu. If you asked am I being unreasonable being annoyed her dad doesn't do activities with her and I do, well that's different isn't it

It’s very poor your DH doesn’t do much with his DD. But ice skating is a thing that lots of people do not want to do and it’s not unreasonable that he refuses a particular activity.

But if you’ve want him to be more likely to agree to do this you need to get him to do more with her in general so he has a better bond with her and is more invested in her emotional well being.

Agree with other posters, you're taking the piss expecting him to do it when you won't. Your problem is the unfair activity division. And lessons sound like a good idea.

I'm a good skater I still fell as and broke my arm

We take our twins ice skating fairly frequently so yes, DH take them and skates with them. But I understand why some people really don’t like it. My kids are nearly 8 and they can do it by themselves but I think they do need an adult on hand on the ice incase they take a tumble – some falls can be harder than others.

I would expect your DH to take her as a one off and give it a go, yes, unless he is really anxious about it.