Dh won’t ice skate

[Alwayseatingpringles]

Dd, 7 desperate to go ice skating (has only done it when little on a kids ice rink, holding onto one of the penguin things.
Now she’s a little older, there’s a bigger rink nearby at Christmas. She always asks Dh to go with her and he says no.
i do so many things with Dd, I don’t want to
ice skate, but I feel bad for Dd
Should she try on her own and we watch? I know she would probably need help, all I see is dads helping their kids

Would your Dh do it?

Aibu?

Get her lessons
An currently typing with one hand after braking arm ice skating. But I chose to go. No driving for at least, 2 months

I really like ice skating, but it can be quite scary with kids ime.

I didn’t pick it, we have ice rinks near us at Christmas that most people go to, she keeps asking. I do lots of mum daughter special things and majority of everything with Dd, whether it’s my thing or not, because she wants to, it’s just this one thing. Just a bit sad to see them all queuing up and she always asks

He should be doing other activities with her and not leaving it all to you. Refusing to do a particular activity is one thing, not doing any with your child and leaving it all to your partner is him being a bad parent and partner. He needs to step up.

Why should he clamber around with knocked knees and trembling ankles just so your daughter can skate? She will survive being told no.

Then the issue is (as predicted) that your DH doesn't do anything with her, not the ice skating in particular.

Ask DH to do something you usually do with her and you take her skating

If you want her to do it then go do it, shouldn't be annoyed because a parent doesn't wish to. There are some things hubby will do with ours that I wouldn't and vice versa and some things we wouldn't want to do at all. Part of life is you can't always do everything you want when you want

I think the key question here is "Is your DH good at ice-skating himself?" If he is, YANBU.
If he isn't, YABU. I'm very good at ice-skating and have spent many hours skating with my kids and helping them get good at it. However, I'm terrible at many other things and the only solution would be "pay for lessons" if they wanted to try a sport that I can't do myself. So, if your DH can't ice-skate himself, there's no point him unsuccesfully trying to help a 7 year old while being unable to keep his balance himself. So, if he cant ice-skate, pay for lessons for her.

Handover some of those activities to your DH and then do ice skating with her instead.

You can't expect him to want to do it if you feel the same way.

It's also OK if she doesn't skate just yet, maybe you can look into lessons or she can try it herself when she's older and doesn't need supervision.

Dh skates with our dd but he hates every second of it. I prefer not to as my ankles haven't properly recovered from an accident a few years ago. I would though if I was the only option.

In return I do all the "nasty" roller coasters at theme parks with the kids, the ones that throw you upside down and spin you around.

Whats the reason your dh doesn’t want to ice skate?
You said you do a lot of one on one activities with your daughter so why not ice skating?
Then Let your daughter pick another activity or two to do with Daddy.

I went once and said never again! Its was a horrible experience.

if neither of you want to skate, get her lessons and let someone else teach her.

if he’s nervous she won’t learn anyway. and if she really wants to learn he can’t teach her proper technique.

i’m a trampoline coach. I see parents “teaching” their kids at trampoline parks. Scares the hell out of me.

I love ice skating- my attempt at taking dc was a disaster as I can’t skate and couldn’t balance while trying to help them let go of the barrier.

if you don’t know how to do something safely pay someone who does. At least until she gets the basics.

YABU. So what if you do other activities, you could do this one but don't want to, same as how DH doesn't either. You can still hire a skate aid for her (lots of rinks have polar bears or snowman for bigger children) so not sure what your point was about she only got to go when little with a penguin skate aid.

Ice skating is scary - and I was a very proficient roller skater. Sign your DD up for a class or 2

I don't think you can really blame him when you don't want to either, unless you have an injury or disability that means you can't and he could.

However, when I've taken mine I've shuffled along the wall for the full hour while then were skating freely about 20 minutes in, so I now watch from the side. They're 6&9.

Does she have a friend/older cousin you could borrow? Then maybe the kids could go on together while you watch from the side.

Just because you'd prefer not to skate doesn't mean he has to take part in an activity he's uncomfortable with, YABU. It's ok if this is something he doesn't want to do, many of us wouldn't. I'd be worried about injuries.
It's also ok if she doesn't get to do everything she wants. If it upsets you that much then you go with her or arrange lessons.

Can you not invite one of her friends and you just watch?

It sounds like the issue is that your husband doesn't get involved with the other activities. Can he not facilitate one of the other activities so you can try the ice skating?

DH did, it was me that said no. I’m worried I’ll hurt myself/break a bone. DM relies on me. (Yes I could incapacitated some other way I know).

I went ice skating once with the kids and it was horrific, never again.
You can't criticise him for not doing it when you won't either. YABU.

Neither would I. Ever. I would fall over and someone would skate over my hand and slice off my fingers😱.
Find something else she can do with her Dad.

If it was a different activity I might see your point but ice skating sucks! It’s difficult and uncomfortable and you can really hurt yourself, I always remember the time I went with my Dad and he went over backwards and cracked his head on the ice. So I think YABU

I skated for years and went through my badges, so I actually love skating and think it's a great hobby. Stick her in lessons.