New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Jeez, you were really silly to agree to this, the pup has only been with you for one week, return to breeder so it has the best chance of the new home.

Hopefully you bought from a responsible breeder who will welcome the pup back and find an appropriate home. You will lose out financially but the priority at this point is the pup's welfare.

Your kids will get over it. Your dh bloody better get over it, he cannot expect you to live like this for the next 10+ years. You tried it didn't work.

@Doggynono so all he cares about is his money? Does anyone in your family treat you with any respect? Doesn’t sound like it. Honestly, you would be better off without him and maybe you can bring the kids up to treat people better than he treats you. So sorry.

Crate training is fine for sleeping in so ignore anyone saying you’re being cruel, etc. I picked my new puppy up 3 days ago and she sleeps in a crate at night, he’s sleeping 7 hours without a peep out of him and I know he’s in a safe place.

however you have a bigger issue than that. He really should go back now while he’s small enough to find a new home quickly. The problem with trying different remedies is how long do you give trying different stuff? If none of it works you have a six month or 8 month old dog which will be a lot harder to rehome. Talk to the breeder, maybe she had more enquiries than puppies? You might even get some money back. But if you don’t that’s your Dh’s problem. I can’t believe he said you have to pay him, just say no! He’s being outrageous.

Get some advice regarding the antihistamine too because one like piriton will treat the symptoms but you need a daily one like clarityn to build up and make an actual difference to the reaction.

Re the dog. I think you need to keep it. Giving it back will make you the bad guy forever. Make your DP and kids do everything! Don’t give in on that. Stand your ground. Keep the windows open and read up about ways to reduce your reaction (like regularly bathing the dog, keeping it out of the room you sleep in etc).

Why should she live on multiple medications that make her feel crap and also have other side effects just to keep a nasty man happy? And no it’s not always the dander it’s the saliva and the airborne everything that comes off a dog no matter how much you keep them clean! If her eyes are swollen and streaming and she’s affected in her breathing that’s a MAJOR reaction that can easily turn into anaphylaxis!

the answer is to get rid of the “d” p !! And he can take the dog with him

Correction: a break up would cost him more.

Also, @Doggynono if I had a £ for every time someone has told me to get this or that hypoallergenic dog I’d be very rich. But still allergic. The way we found out I was allergic was my parents’ friend’s poodle. Everyone is different. You might find one you’re ok with, but equally you may not. And over a period of time you might get worse or have a sudden bad reaction.

You can get an anti histamine injection from a doctor, that should work. I know someone who really reacted to a cat, think hospiltized, it was an indoor cat, she gets anti histamine injections and they all live happily together in an apartment.

Why would you need to hand him £800? Did you agree to paying him for the dog if it didn't work out and needed rehomed?

You are not rejecting the pup for no reason, it is impacting your health. He knew the risks but pushed it, it is his loss to bear.

You are talking out of your arse!! Most people’s allergies get worse not better! Especially when they are exposed daily!
“Sniffing” a bit is very different to the severe reaction op is having and she doesn’t even want the dog!! She will end up looking after it because the “d”p has already bitched and moaned about looking after it at night! Who looks after it during the day when he’s at work?! Cause it won’t be him or the kids!

@TheHungryHungryLandsharks I doubt this breeder was that discerning

Hypoallergenic dogs are just breeds that produce fewer allergens.

The ones to really avoid are cockapoos and labradoodles as anyone who knows the basics of genetics will realise that these cross breeds may not inherit the right characteristics

The thread should be 'my husband has bought something that's making me ill, is getting annoyed at me for it, is expecting me to maintain it, and is now trying to make me pay to have it removed. Aibu to want a divorce'

And the answer would be yanbu. His behaviour here is absolutely awful.

I'd remove the dog, a poodle cross that's already part trained and only being re homed because of allergies, should be easy to rehome if its still young. You've already said your husband won't be spending much time with it because of his work and your kids aren't mucking in with the hard work. It's madness to keep it, cross your fingers that your allergies will improve...what if they don't??

It will also make it easier if you ever want to split

Am allergic to both cats and dogs, hopefully in time you'll be the same as me, build up a natural resistance. I've lived with both animals all my life and after about 3 weeks, fine for the most part, as long as don't stick my face in their fur! It's when I stroke other dogs or cats that I suffer. Oh, when I went to uni, I had to start all over again when I went home for holidays. Weird and amazing the human body. I never used antihistamines though.

Good luck OP. Please don't take any nonsense from hubby, it was his idea, he needs to cut you some slack when you've not wanted one for a valid reason.

If you have allergies to dogs etc it doesn’t matter what breed they are! 😂🤣🤣 a poodle isn’t “hypoallergenic” they just shed less hair but the skin cells and the saliva and everything else people are allergic to are still there!! Even if you have a bald cat of you have allergies to cats you will still react to them and it makes life miserable long term!! The medication makes you feel crap and the reactions which you still have when you’re taking the medication still carry on!

Please don't return the puppy to the breeder. Anyone who charges £800 for a mongrel and says its hypoallergenic are not the type of people that care about their animals. Get in touch with your local rescue.

I don't think there is anything hypoallergenic about any pets. It's a con.

I am allergic to cats and dogs but have owned a dog all my life and had a cat for a while. I discovered with the cat (the main allergy) that after a while I didn't react any more beyond a slight sniffle. For me having a dog is essential to my quality of life, so I just deal with any allergies. The rule in my house is no dog on sofa or bed, and I don't have carpets, so the floor can be kept clean and hair free. I try to avoid touching the dog with bare skin as it can give me a rash.

I guess for me it is fine to make the adjustments as my dog is so important to me. For others they may be too much.

@tinyspiny perhaps not, but wide sweeping statements about how no 'reputable breeders' breed near Christmas is silly.

These threads always become suspicious when the OP can't help but over egg the pudding

It doesn’t make a difference what breed you get - with severe allergies you have you will carry on reacting and long term you will be miserable and also you can GUARANTEE that YOU will be the one left to deal with the dog!!! Even now your nasty arsehole of a “d”p is being as horrible as he can and doesn’t want to help stop you reacting to the dog - he doesn’t care!! Seriously put yourself and your kids first and tell him to leave and take the dog with him!! Going on at you for 10 years knowing you have allergies to dogs?!?! He’s a narcissist!

Most anaphylactic reactions are food or insect bites. There’s no need to scare the OP with talk of life threatening allergic attacks (and before you announce I can’t know about allergies my DD has personalised immunology for her severe hay fever, but has also out grown her egg and diary allergies, and I’ve a multitude of allergies myself). The OP asked if there was anything else she could do. Hence the advice. Getting rid of the dog is def an option, but I’d recommend getting rid of the so called DP as well.

@Wheresthebeach perhaps you need to google how many people die of asthma attacks every year? allergies to pets bring on asthma / constriction symptoms. add in a cold or chest infection and before you know where you are you are really in trouble with breathing.

the OP isnt going to get used to it, grow out of it or anything else. they are just going to get used to feeling shit around the dog. and they are taking a massive health risk for what? because their dick of a partner is just that, a dick.

What a way to live a life!

You can’t tolerate the dog, but money is more important!

good god!

If you’re using herbal remedies go to a naturopath / herbalist for a consultation DONT just take any old shit off the internet!! This is just the same as medicating yourself with things you’d go to your gp for!! You don’t mess with herbal medicine as you have no idea what it is from the internet - this link doesn’t even say what the whole lot of ingredients are! - a herbalist can be great but they prescribe medication specifically for YOU and customise it for you! Taking into account any other medical conditions etc which the internet doesn’t!!