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Moving house to sleep seperately

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SoTiredAllTheTimeHelp · 31/12/2025 06:12

I'm a light sleeper, and my husband snores. I'm waking up nearly every night and can't get back to sleep. I'm exhausted and it's not getting better

We have a very small spare bedroom (would just about fit a single bed in) but he uses it as his office.

Would it be unreasonable to suggest moving house so we can have an extra bedroom?

OP posts:
Janicchoplin · 05/01/2026 06:41

justasking111 · 04/01/2026 21:22

Tell him about the connection between sleep apnea and Alzheimer's. Which is worse than death.

Yeah I dont think I will. But thanks for your kind words.

Butchyrestingface · 05/01/2026 06:47

themerchentofvenus · 31/12/2025 07:46

Then he loses his office and you get to sleep in there.

His snoring is affecting your sleep badly snd he won't see a doctor? That's just selfish. Is he worried abour being told to lose weight?

That's what I initially thought. But on reflection, HE should be sleeping in there, not the OP.

So three options avail:

  • move house (an absurd choice if you are otherwise happy where you live given the upheaval and cost involved)
  • He goes to the GP (bear in mind this may lead to improvement but not necessarily outright cure)
  • He shifts into his little office to sleep for the time being
NavyTurtle · 07/01/2026 11:45

SoTiredAllTheTimeHelp · 31/12/2025 07:44

Thank you, I've just had a look at foldaway desks and didn't realise there were so many options (some look really nice!)

Thanks also for the bit about sharing a bed, I've felt so bad suggesting it, as I love him and don't want to upset him, but it's nice to know it's 'normal' to sleep seperately, if that makes sense!

My husband and I have had our own bedrooms since we got married 18 years ago. I could not bear to have to sleep next to someone - holidays have to be single beds, but in the same room is a nightmare. My room is large enough for a double bed, a sofa, large tv and all comforts, its my sanctuary. His is the same. Both very large rooms with vaulted ceilings so neither of us had to go for a smaller room. We would not have it any other way.

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