Why do none of my in-laws wash their hands

[mintandcoral]

Need a rant to be honest. Actually sick of their lack of hygiene.

They’ve only arrived today and it’s making my skin crawl. I’ve gone to bed for an early night and I’ve just heard my fil going to the toilet, not flush or wash his hands. A few minutes later, mil comes up. She flushes at least but also, very definitely, does not wash her hands! The toilet is a small toilet along our upstairs landing (separate from a bathroom) and you can hear the tap being turned on very clearly.

We had chicken wraps for dinner, all putting their fingers in the sodding salad. Fil currently has a cold.

Debating whether to say something to my husband but there’s a huge backstory whereby he feels like I’m constantly criticising them, so probably best to keep my mouth shut. I might just passive aggressively repeatedly remind the kids to wash their hands tomorrow.

Not a non washer i shower everyday and wash my hands multiple times a day.

You said this "I only wash my hands after a wee in public places not in my own home". So, a non-washer after using the loo.

And then you said "Everyone in my household has been inside me one way or another i don't think they are worried about my germs its family" as a reason for not washing your hands after the loo, that's as batshit as it gets. I hope you all enjoy your dysentery. Together. As a family.

You are presumably touching the flush that has previously been touched by someone who has wiped their arse. Ditto on the toilet roll.

And how can anyone dry themselves without coming into contact with their own vulva. What do you use, a toilet brush and a pair of salad tongs?

Not washing your hands after using the loo is utter skank behaviour. You’re just as likely to get ill from E-Coli you catch from your own child as from a stranger. “They’re my family’s germs” makes no sense at all. It’s like saying you don’t need to wear a seatbelt in your husband’s car!

You might make someone else sick?

I make my own yoghurt. A couple of days ago, I opened the yoghurt flask and the entire surface was covered in a pink liquid, which I’m reliably informed is mould, ie dangerous bacteria. One of the utensils I used must have had a microscopic speck of something on it. The wooden spoon probably. I have always been pretty scrupulous about hygiene, but this didn’t half give me a visual on how bacteria multiply. Obviously the yoghurt was kept at a warm temperature, but all that does is accelerate the process.

This thread is hilarious.

It’s second nature to me to give my hands a cursory wash after every loo visit, but I have no idea if guests do. And I don’t care tbh.

Some posters seem very obsessed about illnesses. We’ve never had a stomach bug that’s gone around our family. I care more about all the visiting men that stand up to piss and get splashes everywhere. Now that’s minging.

I’m on holiday with DH. We’ve been away three weeks and it’s the longest I have ever spent in his company. I have learned his hand washing standards are woeful. We are in South America so I think we should be extra careful with hygiene etc but he just rinses his hands under the cold tap for a couple of seconds after using the loo then will make me a sandwich! I’m so unimpressed. I guess it’s just people’s habits and it’s their choice but I also find it grim.

Well we are very rarely ill and why would my hand be touching my vulva when im using toilet roll. I'm really questioning how you lot wipe yourselves after using the toilet no wonder you all need to wash your hands

But i wash my hands on my period after a poo before preparing food, before eating, after being outside, after touching animals, the 50 thousand times I wash pots a day, after doing arts and crafts with the kids. Plus a shower or bath daily the reality is i probably wash my hands more then half the people on this thread who think im disgusting

@Maestoso agree. The manky mitts on these type of threads ALWAYS say the same things, ‘I’m never il’, ‘we need germs’, etc, however, Its a first to hear someone confessing to fingering a mans butthole and sounding proud of it 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 that is totally sick and a health hazard
it makes me want to wear blue gloves when out in public 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

I’m genuinely curious, why then are you so resistant to doing it after a wee if handwashing is such a habit of yours?

You are presumably touching the flush that has previously been touched by someone who has wiped their arse.

Yes, this exactly. How can you justify it? How can you bear to walk out of the bathroom with faecal particles/germs on your hands, bleurgh. It's so easy to have a quick hand wash.

In other news, I've never dried cups on my tits, albeit it seems less objectionable particularly if your top is clean (perhaps not if you've worn it while pooing and flushed with the lid up but I digress ...). It has honestly never occurred to me. I have tea towels next to the sink. Maybe that's terribly quaint these days.

Justify it 😂 you know complete strangers don’t actually have to justify their behaviour to you don’t you?

Yes!

I take a few sheets of paper, usually two, and fold them to the size of one sheet, but thicker. I then put them between my legs, hold my flap open with my free thumb, and then wipe my inner labia. Otherwise you’re just drying the top layer. The fingers on the edges will definitely make fanny contact.

Not to me, you fool, to yourself.

Now wash your hands 😂

I'm 45 years old and I have never had norovirus. I always wash my hands when I arrive home from anywhere, and before I prepare food but not after a wee in my own house. Funnily enough there are a few people I work with who are constantly at the antibac hand gel and they get ill a lot more frequently than I do.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ignaz_Semmelweis

^ man who invented “hand washing”. Doctors called him crazy.

If i wee in my own home, i wipe with decent chunk of loo roll. There is absolutely no part of my hand that touches wee/skin/the loo bowl or seat etc. If i constantly wash my hands the skin gets dry & sore so i don't.

I always wash before preparing food etc & if i have a poo.

I get more germs from holding the pole on a train carriage than wiping a wee.

I take a few sheets of paper, usually two, and fold them to the size of one sheet, but thicker. I then put them between my legs, hold my flap open with my free thumb, and then wipe my inner labia. Otherwise you’re just drying the top layer. The fingers on the edges will definitely make fanny contact.

See i think this is gross & unecessary!

Two sheets of loo roll isn't enough. I would use at least 4-5 and i use them to properly wipe between and absorb. I can easily feel if there's moisture left.

I can't see why your method is necessary unless you've got oddly large/closed labia that get in the way a lot, which isn't typical.

I take a few sheets of paper, usually two, and fold them to the size of one sheet, but thicker. I then put them between my legs, hold my flap open with my free thumb, and then wipe my inner labia. Otherwise you’re just drying the top layer. The fingers on the edges will definitely make fanny contact.

See i think this is gross & unecessary!

Two sheets of loo roll isn't enough. I would use at least 4-5 and i use them to properly wipe between and absorb. I can easily feel if there's moisture left.

I can't see why your method is necessary unless you've got oddly large/closed labia that get in the way a lot, which isn't typical.

So even after having it explained multiple times that choosing not to wash hands after using the toilet that you would get faceal matter bacteria on hands from touching the flush and lid then spreading that all over the house, people are still refusing to wash their hands? 🤢 are these people proud of being disgusting and lacking personal hygiene?

If you are getting faecal particles on your hands through contact with the skin etc when wiping, you need to learn how to wipe properly.

If you think the faecal particles are airborne and are reaching the skin that way, they could landing on your skin after washing and not just before.

Why are people so germphobic? Yes, washing before eating & cooking etc are a good idea but some people are clearly constantly scrubbing all the healthy bacteria off their skin. You will get ill more regularly if you do that. We have not evolved to be sterile, we live in symbiosis with millions of bacteria that we need.

Are they grabbing the salad with bare hands? We use salad tongs in this house...

She also said she's had her finger up her husband's arse but I may've dreamt that

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