Why do none of my in-laws wash their hands

[mintandcoral]

Need a rant to be honest. Actually sick of their lack of hygiene.

They’ve only arrived today and it’s making my skin crawl. I’ve gone to bed for an early night and I’ve just heard my fil going to the toilet, not flush or wash his hands. A few minutes later, mil comes up. She flushes at least but also, very definitely, does not wash her hands! The toilet is a small toilet along our upstairs landing (separate from a bathroom) and you can hear the tap being turned on very clearly.

We had chicken wraps for dinner, all putting their fingers in the sodding salad. Fil currently has a cold.

Debating whether to say something to my husband but there’s a huge backstory whereby he feels like I’m constantly criticising them, so probably best to keep my mouth shut. I might just passive aggressively repeatedly remind the kids to wash their hands tomorrow.

@KitsyWitsy yes OP has said they put bare hands in her salad.

I have large, closed labia. They're not "odd" thanks. They come in all shapes and sizes, just like noses, breasts and penises.

I am thinking maybe I dreamt that too, because it’s too disgusting to be true - twiglet finger 🤮🤮🤮

You might have to start reminding them before dinner like children.

”Dinner in 10 everyone go wash their hands ready”

Gross. Weirdly the one place I don’t wash my hands is the public toilet I use hand sanitizer there as I don’t want to touch the dirty tap to tie it off after washing my hands and then the likely dirty door handle. Though mainly I use a public toilet maybe 5 times a year tops luckily.

This is the weirdest way of wiping after peeing I can even imagine, let alone been told of someone practising 😭

I was just thinking this, a 10 second hand wash does nothing germ wise, plus you need hot water and mine takes that long until it runs hot .

Yep, OP said they had their fingers in the salad!

It's OK, I'm not judging you, I'm just calling a complete stranger a liar.

And this is why I hate eating out 😭

Does your husband rush off to wash his hands if he actually touches your bits during sex?

Same I've never had norovirus neither has anyone in my family. Yet one of my friends who is always washing her hands and using anti bac is always ill

Because i don't think its necessary after a wee in my own home. You can over wash your hands. I do it enough during the day without doing it for a quick wee

Good point, how do germaphobes have sex?

We wash our hands afterwards. Doesn’t everyone?

I would hate this so I feel for you. I get some people don’t want to wash hands too often but washing hands after going to the loo is just standard isn’t it?

I have frequent and regular sex since my mid teens and still manage to wash my hands when l go for a wee.

We are so lucky to have flushing toilets, running hot water, soap and clean towels.
I wish people would appreciate this.

In third world countries, many of the deaths are caused by lack of sanitary conditions besides lack of food.

Hand washing is going to happen at some point surely? You don’t have to ‘rush off’. How ridiculous. But neither do you ‘wander off’ to, say, get your kids ready for school or work on your laptop or make coffee. You generally wash your hands first. Don’t you? Oh God, I hope so🤣

Even a ‘quick wee’ involves the mechanics of pulling up/down knickers, wiping, touching the loo handle.
Would you then be happy to go and make yourself a cup of tea or take some biscuits out of the tin without washing your hands?

DM once said about a cake she had made "I can't remember if I washed my hands, but it doesn't matter because I always find unwashed hands make the cake taste better".

And got arsey because I wouldn't eat it 😅
Sorry to ruin your NYEs but this thread gave me the flashback!

No i wash my hands before I eat. Don't you?

My friends - a married couple - are like this too. We went in holiday and the accommodation had a loo with no sink next door to the kitchen. The husband would go to the loo and come straight out to cook dinner for us all.

They also proudly declare how ridiculous it is to wash vegetables.

On the other hand they don't seem to get ill often, which mystifies me!

Yes theyre probably trying to be quiet and if anyone raised it would seem like they can't do right etc..

But clearly they've done something more annoying.

If this does annoy u in of itself you can makd a thing of reminding the kids infront of them like we always wash our hands after the toilet right, its very important and maybe throw in a stat about germs.

Ok I mean wow if theyre cooking right after then thats another level. Offer sanitiser ;)

Poo and period 100% at home. I don't always my hands at home after a pee when fully conscious, i.e during the night/half asleep I can't always guarantee I'll remember.

The worst is when you are in the toilets at work and you hear the next person do their business without washing and walk straight out 🤮. I bet they are the ones who eat at their sandwiches at their desk.