Why do none of my in-laws wash their hands

[mintandcoral]

Need a rant to be honest. Actually sick of their lack of hygiene.

They’ve only arrived today and it’s making my skin crawl. I’ve gone to bed for an early night and I’ve just heard my fil going to the toilet, not flush or wash his hands. A few minutes later, mil comes up. She flushes at least but also, very definitely, does not wash her hands! The toilet is a small toilet along our upstairs landing (separate from a bathroom) and you can hear the tap being turned on very clearly.

We had chicken wraps for dinner, all putting their fingers in the sodding salad. Fil currently has a cold.

Debating whether to say something to my husband but there’s a huge backstory whereby he feels like I’m constantly criticising them, so probably best to keep my mouth shut. I might just passive aggressively repeatedly remind the kids to wash their hands tomorrow.

So you wash your hands for practically everything else, risking drying them out and killing good bacteria, but don’t wash after a wee …

That’s irrelevant. You may as well say that because you wash your hands a gazillion times a day you don’t need to after a poo.

I have never said that read the thread 🙄

I wash my hands when I see necessary after a wee I don't. Before food I do. After being outside I do and after touching animals I do. I also happen to wash my hands more as we don't have a dishwasher

I have managed to get to almost 40 without touching my vagina or urine when going for a wee. I honestly don't know why you are finding this so challenging no wonder you wash your hands after weeing if this is something you struggle with

It doesn’t matter how many times anyone washes their hands, it’s when you wash your hands and you still seem to think it’s unnecessary to wash your hands after a wee.

Not flushing at night is one thing - provided its just pee and you shut the lid after. But not washing your hands - yuck!
I'd get a large 'now wash your hands' notice for the toilet door, and draw their attention to it.

Well if you look at public health advice about when you should wash your hands, ‘after using the toilet’ is at the very top of the list. So it seems to me that I’m not the outlier here.

I did not say it was ‘ impossible ‘ did I ?

So fil is hugging your dc /touching your soft furnishings with dick hands? Fucking grim.

God no we will have to disagree on that one I’m afraid !

Just a message of solidarity. I’m in the same boat. In laws are gross. No hand wash in the bathroom, only occasionally a towel. Limited cleaning (none most of the time), we used to be expected to sleep in effectively a dirty bed when we stayed over as they just kept the same sheets on without washing them between guests visiting. They don’t shower when we are there. I have to ask for hot water to be turned on to shower and bath is dusty. Let’s just say I absolutely hate it!! And wash everything when I get home.

I think it is a bit odd that you’re getting urine all over- and indeed inside- your labia though. Seems to defy the laws of gravity.

No.

You asked the question and I replied to you. Most of us are not feral and follow basic hygiene standards that even third world countries try to follow if they have running water.

Well the last bit of wee definitely dribbles down towards the vaginal opening, that’s not gravity-defying. It literally is gravity! Why do you bother wiping at all if the urine doesn’t get anywhere else?

I have this sign in my downstairs loo to help remind guests.

Love it ❤️.

I pat my urethra dry after urinating.

So when you wee, it erupts from your tiny urethral opening with the force of a jet wash, and then stops instantly. Doesn’t trickle?

You’re young aren’t you?

Some of these replies must be trolling. Imagine being so determined to be unhygienic and happy to spread faeces bacteria around the house.

Ha ha ha! I really don't believe some of these replies about people who don't wash after wiping.

It's gross and goes in the camp of people who use handkerchiefs. Also gross.

Unless you consider 46 young.

whilst the whole area is obviously patted, as part of drying, what I don’t do is part my labia , hold them apart with my thumb and dry the inside of them, no.

Btw if there is ie thing in life within your gift, it’s how you wipe your genitalia. But that doesn’t mean your way is the only way 😂

Bully for you. I dry right down to my vaginal opening, and it’s difficult to do that without coming into contact with the rest of your bits. Ditto if you were inserting a tampon. I understand that some people consider flaps to be ugly, and even have surgery to reduce them but let’s not pretend they exist. I have a hip problem and can’t open my legs wide. There’s no way to reach my vagina without nudging a flap, sorry if that makes me freakish.

I have no problem with labia,

you better be careful letting urine anywhere near your vagina- that’s sure UTI. Which is exactly why they don’t naturally come into contact with each other.

of course, it seems highly unlikely urine is getting anywhere near your vagina