Why do none of my in-laws wash their hands

[mintandcoral]

Need a rant to be honest. Actually sick of their lack of hygiene.

They’ve only arrived today and it’s making my skin crawl. I’ve gone to bed for an early night and I’ve just heard my fil going to the toilet, not flush or wash his hands. A few minutes later, mil comes up. She flushes at least but also, very definitely, does not wash her hands! The toilet is a small toilet along our upstairs landing (separate from a bathroom) and you can hear the tap being turned on very clearly.

We had chicken wraps for dinner, all putting their fingers in the sodding salad. Fil currently has a cold.

Debating whether to say something to my husband but there’s a huge backstory whereby he feels like I’m constantly criticising them, so probably best to keep my mouth shut. I might just passive aggressively repeatedly remind the kids to wash their hands tomorrow.

If serving salad, or anything, put portions on each plate, never a communal bowl. Always portion everything- it makes more trouble but will save diarrhoea and sickness iver Christmas.

How are you supposed to wash dishes without a dishwasher if you need to have the water so hot you can’t put your hands in it ?

It was ever thus though wasn’t it. Blood stained apron was a sign of how good they were, wasn’t it the nurses/midwives who were washing hands and their patients didn’t succumb to as many infections?

This thread is completely batshit . So many posters harranging one person. So she has different levels of hygiene to you, she’s said she and her family are rarely ill, why does it bother you so much? Just think of all the people living in areas of the world, and within this country actually, where even the most basic level of hygiene is impossible.

While I applaud good hygiene at home and elsewhere, I wonder how many insisting that hands MUST be washed after a wee at home, before preparing food etc (quite rightly) regardless of what you may or may not have touched, also have dogs rubbing their arses all over your carpets, sofas, beds etc? How does that align with the hygiene issues?

The opening of the urethra is about 1cm above your vagina. Liquids run down. UTIs are caused by germs entering your urethra, not your vagina. Unless you’re a man, urine will almost certainly be going near your vagina.

Marigolds - radical 🤣🤣

I would never eat a salad someone had their fingers in. I have a bit of OCD though.

YANBU! I could have written this myself. My MIL hardly ever washes her hands, after the toilet, before food prep, after picking up dog poo (with a bag not her bare hands 🤣), it all absolutely disgusts me.
The only time she was better for a short time was when we had our newborn. My DH and I basically drilled it into her head to wash her hands. As he’s grown she has began to not care again. I find it sickening, it’s very hard to deal with so I totally get listening out for them to wash their hands and raging when they don’t!

Hrft but i am a handwasher.
I wash my hands coming in from shopping, work or anywhere really.

I wash my hands after the loo everytime except the 3am wee, bc it does disturb DC who gets restless in the early hours.

I'm not always sure handwashing in public loos is very hygienic with poor drying facilities, so occasionally I will use a wet wipe instead. When I visit friends I often find they dont have soap or clean towels for handwashing. I don't visit much now.

My elderly pa has to be reminded continually to wash his hands post loo.

He got a really bad infection that almost killed him.... Fecal matter was culprit after he'd been tested... Still he doesn't believe his lack of hygiene had anything to do with it..

He's not that 'obviously' unhygienic showers several times weekly, fresh clothes most days... It's just not the post loo hand-washing🤮

@Itsmetheflamingo you think pee getting near your vagina is going to cause a urinary tract infection? It seems like you could do with some science lessons including a diagram so you know where everything is and how gravity works...

I'm a constant handwasher because of the dog and cat and lavatory visits too, of course.

We always wash our hands when we get in from being out and about or work too and think this may be the reason we are rarely ill.

Various gross behaviours over this holiday time have really made me think of this thread. I have started to insist on the proper serving utensils being used with communal dishes by my nearest and dearest with some success (rather than just spearing what you want to eat with your own used fork) but I still really struggle to embarrass the elderly relatives by asking them directly to go back and wash their hands. Infuriating.

Urggh

Yes that’s exactly the kind of thinking that makes other people ill. We all need some germ exposure yes but we all get them from the environment all the time and other people.

Other people’s avoidable passing on of their toilet germs and all the germs they collect in the toilet by not handwashing aren’t some kind of wonderful healthy gift they need to
force on the rest of the world.

Just adds more stress to our immune systems and more stress to our emotional experience of trying to stay not sick, especially if we’re immunity compromised ourselves or we live with people who are. It’s colossally selfish. Not aiming at that quoted PP in particular because there seem to be loads of people who think like that. it really winds me up.

Do they use hand gel instead? Maybe they're just saving water if they have both hD sex and both doing clean up straight after each other?

I was brought up and also brought my children up to flush then wash. It is really basic and if done every time it becomes a habit so you don't have to even think about it. I find not flushing disgusting and certainly do not want to see results in my toilet. Not washing hands can cause illness especially with children about, It is a foul habit and I would put up signs in the bathroom/toilet.
They can be got from Amazon and can be funny if you do not want to offend the dirty ones. Just my habit and personal opinion.