Adult children moving abroad

[Someday111]

Is it right for adult children to move abroad on their 40’s, when they have school age children, and very little money to support their family. Especially after you have provided financial assistance, as well as free child care for their children.

Its completely up to them.

It's their choice. Do they have jobs lined up abroad?

Was the childcare amd assistance supposed to a bribe so they remain where they are?

They are living their own life and doing what they feel is best for their family.

It is right for them, as adults in their 40's, to do what they think is right and make their own decisions and mistakes, regardless of what their parents think. You need to elaborate on the situation as from reading your initial post it looks like you have more input in their lives than maybe they want.

Completely their choice. Why do you think it wouldn't be right?

Surely most destinations require proof of cash and a confirmed source of income to support the family after they move?

Completely their choice

Their life, their choice. I say that as a mum whose son lives in Australia.

Wait - are you my ex MIL trying to stop us moving abroad with your stupid blackmailing ways 🤔

Yes, they must have free will to do as they choose.

Oh dear. Maybe not sensible if money to support but it’s not “wrong” and you sound like maybe you’re the reason they’re moving away

One of mine lives abroad, her decision (she met someone from there)

It might not be sensible if they don’t have funds to support their family but in answer to your question it’s not wrong.
Given that they are in their 40’s they don’t need to ask your permission

Who decides what’s right?!

What do you mean by “is it right”? Why would it be wrong?

Why is your question loaded with emotional blackmail?

Ah OP a big hug as if this is one of your kids and you have relationship with grandchildren it’s bloody hard when they move away. Particularly if you have been such a supportive Grandparent. But you have to hold your tongue and let them go.

Of course adults can move where they want. If they’re asking for financial assistance of course you can say no.

Curiously how many years after the childcare would you allow them to move?

Yep

Sorry girl, you have to let them go x

So you think you get a veto on where your fortysomething children live?

Yes, it’s absolutely fine for them to do this.

Oh look. Another provocative post from someone with no posting history. There have been loads the last couple of days.

Especially after you have provided financial assistance, as well as free child care for their children.

What has this got to do with them moving away?

Did you think doing this gave you some right to an opinion on where they live?
Were you buying them as carers for you further down the line?

You seem to have confused their life for being yours.