To want a card that says ‘mummy’

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I’m aware this might be extremely precious and if it is then I’d like to be told as much.

Last Christmas, DH got me a card that said ‘happy Christmas mum’ on the front. I told him at the time that, with DCs 2 and 4 at that stage, I’d have liked a ‘mummy’ card. I’m aware they won’t call me mummy forever and I wanted a ‘mummy’ card - I hopefully will have many years of being ‘mum’ but very few where I’m mummy.

Roll on to my birthday in the Spring and I got a ‘mum birthday’ card. It wasn’t a falling out but I reminded him, for the small window I’m ‘mummy’ I’d like a card that says mummy on it not a card one would get their elderly mum.

Roll around Christmas and my card from the kids says ‘to a lovely mum’

AIBU to be a bit upset? We don’t have money for presents this year and I didn’t want anything that cost, but a card saying ‘mum’ on the front feels a bit tone deaf after what I’ve said.

Eldest won’t call me mummy for much longer and it made me sad. I know many have bigger crosses to bear but still

I’m with you I also want mummy

Given that you care about it and have askd nicely and it’s such a small thing, YANBU to be disappointed that it hasn’t happened, regardless of whether it’s precious or intrinsically U or not.

Are you serious? Get the Sharpies out if it bothers you that much.

Sorry but I think yabu

Of course YANBU.

Yes id be miffed as its showing that your husband doesnt listen or care about the things that actually matter to you.

Sorry, but I think it’s very precious indeed. How is he otherwise, as a partner and father?

It's a weird world we live in when kids no longer make their parents a card, and they're instead bought from commercial outlets.

Ask him to encourage your 4 year old to make one.

Surely you'd actually prefer a card they made than one he brought? Maybe instead of asking for a mummy card get him to make one with the children. I'd much rather a card made by my child that said mum than one he brought that said mummy and your children are a great age to be making cards.

I've never been a mother, unfortunately. I think you're being completely reasonable to want a "Mummy" card, particularly when you explained your reasoning

I'd be tempted to get your husband a card with "Pa" on it...

I think you need to get a grip.

Seriously.

I think there are just more "Mum" cards than mummy ones in the shops, so imagine that's why. I'm sure I had one with a dinosaur and "mummysaurus" on it at one point

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Double post

Is it so you can post it on social media? Surely you just buy the card yourself?

I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all and your DH is either mean or incompetent to have failed to meet your very small request twice now.

I had similar. I said: "This card is not a reflection of my relationship with our daughter. I am her mummy. This card is a reflection of your relationship with your mother." He had been told nicely the previous year.

Why is mummy so special?

I am still 'mummy' to my 10yo at home, so it can last longer!

It's a little thing, but it shows he is not listening and remembering. Did he mention it e.g. 'there were no mummy cards' or just forget? Home made cards are the way to go! Or even go on Moonpig or similar.

YABVU. I've never heard such nonsense.

I think you are overreacting OP. Chill out and enjoy your card.

Before your next birthday/event and mothers day tell him again RIGHT before he buys it! Even send a link! It’s annoying he wont just do it.

You've asked him several times now and you can definitely get 'mummy' cards in the shops, so I'm not holding with the excuse that there's more 'mum' cards available. It's just a little bit of effort on his part that makes a big difference for you. YANBU.

Entirely fair!

I’m not going to divorce him or anything mad.

Just asking if it’s completely unreasonable to ask if I want to be ‘mummy’ for the tiny window of time I am mummy.

My dh refers to his mum as mummy, doesn’t have to have a shelf life (he’s retired, she’s passed away!) my dc (adults) call me mama