To want a card that says ‘mummy’

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I’m aware this might be extremely precious and if it is then I’d like to be told as much.

Last Christmas, DH got me a card that said ‘happy Christmas mum’ on the front. I told him at the time that, with DCs 2 and 4 at that stage, I’d have liked a ‘mummy’ card. I’m aware they won’t call me mummy forever and I wanted a ‘mummy’ card - I hopefully will have many years of being ‘mum’ but very few where I’m mummy.

Roll on to my birthday in the Spring and I got a ‘mum birthday’ card. It wasn’t a falling out but I reminded him, for the small window I’m ‘mummy’ I’d like a card that says mummy on it not a card one would get their elderly mum.

Roll around Christmas and my card from the kids says ‘to a lovely mum’

AIBU to be a bit upset? We don’t have money for presents this year and I didn’t want anything that cost, but a card saying ‘mum’ on the front feels a bit tone deaf after what I’ve said.

Eldest won’t call me mummy for much longer and it made me sad. I know many have bigger crosses to bear but still

I think if you've asked for something multiple times it's ok to be a little disappointed that he hasn't done it.

But this is a very insignificant thing to be bothered by. We're talking months between Christmas and your birthday and even longer between your birthday and this Christmas - He could have genuinely forgotten.

A 'mum' birthday card isn't something people people only get for elderly relatives.

If it meant that much to you, you could have reminded him, or suggested that they made you one.

Well, if it's about the relationship then "Mother" would surely do. Still, how hard can it be for the dh to write mummy on a card and let the kids decorate it? But I don't know if that would make the OP happy. I think it's really a bought mummy card she wants. Her DH should just make them printed- like hundreds of mummy cards so she could get one every week.

Ur husbands a dick

I think you need to explain the importance to your DH again and if he doesn’t follow this then he really is very thoughtless. It’s an easy win for him & means something to you.

My teenager still calls me ‘mummy’ although the younger one doesn’t. We aren’t posh so it isn’t like the king* calling the queen ‘mummy’. It doesn’t necessarily stop young but I appreciate it does generally transition from mummy to mum.

edited to say *Prince Charles at the time

Nothing wrong with the word 'Mummy' - I never called my mother anything else, except for 'M' if I was joking with her! After all, the then Prince Charles called his mother 'Mummy' at one of the Jubilee events! Encourage them to keep using the word - it's so much nicer than 'Mum'.

Shortly before your next birthday, write MuMmY on the bathroom mirror in blood, in big crazy script, and on the walls in various jagged smears, and perhaps set up a sound system with a weird manic voice hissing "Mummy, card, mummy, card" all night long, to give him the hint.

Oh dear god, what have I just read?

Meanwhile, I have a rule that if dd ever calls me mummy, she’ll be grounded for a week!

My 15yo and 12yo still call me mummy. I didn’t even think it will change…ever.

You've got far too much time on your hands if you've even had the smallest amount of time available for this to cross your mind never mind make it into such a ridiculous issue.

Mummy is a stupid term and not one my children have ever used thankfully.

Good luck to your children, sounds like you're hard work and they're going to have a lot of pandering to you to do

No need to be spiteful

I cannot see why it's so Important to you if the card isn't actually from your children.

Did you get a mummy card for Mother’s Day @Cheepcheepcheep

i know what you mean. I’m mummy. Not mum tho mini blondes is now 9 (yesterday) and last few weeks it’s been the odd mum

ive said I’m mummy at home but if wants to say mum when out in public - I’m ok with that (well kind of ) 😉

I’m 50 and bought this for my lovely Mummy this year! Never too old, op 😆

Reminds me of being 10 and making mother's Day cards at school. We block printed 'Mum' on the front and I surreptitiously added 'my' before putting it in the envelope. It looked daft but no regrets!

My dc are 22 and 20 and I'm still Mummy in cards which I find very sweet though I have always left what they call me up to them fwiw.

My kids call me muffsies, my second son came up with it when he was about 10 and it's stuck ever since. He and the eldest two are in their 20s now, and they still call me muffsies, even in front of friends.

There's no muffsies cards so they just get a blank card and write it inside. Yep, my family are odd! But it's nice to get a personal card, so i can understand why you want one that feels more personal to you.

Hey @Blondeshavemorefun. I didn’t, alas. Had a mini grump about it after the kids were in bed but I guess it’s just never going to sink in at this stage. DD (all of 5.5) did call me ‘mum’ the other day so guessing the ship has sailed a bit, not worth making a fuss. As I said on the thread at Xmas, he’s generally fab so I guess I just need to let this one go. Happy birthday to mini Blondes btw! (Name changer but we’ve chatted before ☺️)

Remind her gently it’s mummy when she calls mum

sorry you didn’t get a mummy md card

I do sometimes think about changing my name / but Been blondes for over 20yrs on mn so cba

people know im me lol

"Remind her gently it’s mummy when she calls mum"

To reinforce the point, when she calls mum, stagger into her room, dressed in a tight waddling of filthy, decayed bandages from head to foot, while muttering in sepulchral voice:

"Nek tem chu Ahnk! She who will call me "mum" and not "mummy" - she has given her finger against Horus's Enclosure in the Cool Waters... She is one accursed, she is one who eats her own body, she faces all damnation."

My 23yo still calls me Mummy.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. I felt the same.

However at 9 and 11 my children still call me Mummy, even though I've said numerous times that I don't mind if they call me Mum! I'm mid 40's and still call my Mum 'Mummy'.