I found a wallet

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Tonight I found a wallet. Lots of cards, and some cash. I was delighted. But still proceeded to see a driving licence, clearly he has dropped the wallet outside his house. I knocked on the door, I ask if Raj lives there. She said yes, I said I found his wallet. She says she's on the phone to him, I see the name on the phone. She seems happy but no offer of a reward.

I go home, knowing I did the right thing. I have money in my bank account, I can pay tomorrow's bills.

Aibu for giving back the wallet?

People say I should have taken the cash.

This precisely. How would you ever trust people who would think that.

I really don’t think her ethnicity is relevant, no matter how hard you try to shoehorn it in.

She may have thought you would be offended if she offered money. If she had offered me money, I would have declined and found it embarrassing.

A few years ago my young son found one of those plastic bank bags with a load of notes in it in a soft play place. We went with him to the counter and handed it in and a little while later a visibly stressed, teary but very relieved mum approached us to thank us. It was her bills and food shop money and she thought it was gone for good. The soft play treated my son to a hot chocolate with all the toppings as a reward, which absolutely made his day.

Not Sure what you want from this.
The internet telling you what a great human you are of the opportunity to have a moan that you didn’t get huge thanks and cash?

Well done OP, you did the right thing.

That’s the most important thing.

It’s people doing the right thing that keeps us all going, whether we get thanks or rewards or whatever.

I hope that your life will always benefit from the kindness and honesty of others.

You did the right thing, the woman was happy im
surprised you think it was reward worthy.

was getting my nails done the week before Christmas and my nail tech who I’ve known for years and really like told me she’d found a bank card and that she hadn’t used it. I was so shocked that she’d even thought that she might.

She said all of here friends were surprised she hadn’t just used it but she’d never do that because “all the shops have cameras and stuff”.

it really made me think differently of her

Aw I'm sorry. She should have prostrated at your feet.

Same. I would have thought WTF why is she paying me. But people like the OP are shameless and think they're owed money for not stealing.

So you think that because the wife was not jumping with joy , you should have kept their money?

She may not have even known it was missing so you handing it to her is the first she knows , therefore she’s not feeling relief as she wasn’t worried !

Why do you expect a reward ? How do you know they aren’t on the breadline and that giving you £20 won’t mean they have to miss a bill?

You did the most basic thing - you didn’t take something that does not belong to you . You don’t need a reward for that.

You do know your address is on your drivers license? And you know how addresses work?

DH found money hanging out of an ATM last Christmas so he took it into the supermarket and handed it in. The woman couldn’t believe he’d been so honest, she said barely anyone would do that and would have kept it. He was shocked she thought most would be so dishonest. Anyway they gave him a box of chocolates.

I would always do the right thing here. If I found random notes on the pavement with no clue as to the owner, I’d put them in a charity box.

I know this might shock you but this is happening all over the world including not far from us in the Ukraine.

Heard it all now! You want a reward for not being a thief?

I don't know why people are finding this so complicated OP.

Well done for finding the wallet and being thoughtful enough to find its owner and return it to them. You absolutely did the right thing. It's a shame they weren't more grateful but there you go. "The better part of valour is discretion."

Why? It wasn't yours. Apart from anything else, you don't know the owner's situation.

Well done for your honesty, it's good knowing people like you still exist.

I voted YABU

for expecting a reward!!

and for posting about It!

total non story.

No? You don’t deserve a reward for picking something up outside of a house and returning it to the house. You would deserve a conviction if you stole money from it though.

I'd think carefully about the people you hang around with if they are saying you should have kept the money. It's not yours to keep!
Imagine it was to go towards rent, the supermarket shop, his kids shoes, the vet bill. And you want a reward? Really?
Do you take stuff out of the office fridge too? Or people's bags? Because it's really not all that different, you know.

What’s Gaza got to do with it ffs. People are obsessed with bloody Gaza. What about Sudan, eh?

Maybe wherever she comes from has the culture that it’s not surprising for someone not to rob you and it’s the expected thing, rather than being hugely surprised and grateful that someone hasn’t robbed you. I’d love that to be the same here.

This has happened to me twice both times I dropped it back and I would never accept any reward anyway . Unfortunately a few years ago I had mine lost and the person took £140 before hand it back in in a local shop

Who is saying you should have taken the cash? Unless you're a low down, dirty thief, then this wouldn't cross anyone elses mind!
I have a feeling there's a horrible undercurrent to 'people' saying that you should have kept the cash when you told them what happened.
Returning the wallet intact was the correct thing to do. Imagine if the roles were reversed? No, you wouldn't like it either!
(I have to say, I wouldn't have been so rude in continuing my phone call if someone had the decency to return something I'd lost! That was definitely bang out of order).

I'm always sceptical of people who start a post describing how they did what any decent human being would do.

you don't need a medal
you don't need to ask for opinions
you don't need to ask if you should have done the wrong thing
you won't get the street lining up with a guard of honour giving you a round of applause and throwing rose petals at your feet.

you did the right thing, well done.

Why the fuck were you delighted to find a wallet?

We had a Christmas card delivered a couple of years ago. Our address but not our name. Opened it to see if there were any clues and there was quite a bit of cash inside, for a new baby going by the message. So I looked up the name on the envelope on Facebook and it was someone local. I messaged him and said what had happened, saying a card had been delivered to us at house number/road, and he said oh yes, I’ve just bought no 2 but we’ve not moved in yet, could you just put it through the letter box which I did. I did think he might pop by and say thank you but he never did.