I found a wallet

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Tonight I found a wallet. Lots of cards, and some cash. I was delighted. But still proceeded to see a driving licence, clearly he has dropped the wallet outside his house. I knocked on the door, I ask if Raj lives there. She said yes, I said I found his wallet. She says she's on the phone to him, I see the name on the phone. She seems happy but no offer of a reward.

I go home, knowing I did the right thing. I have money in my bank account, I can pay tomorrow's bills.

Aibu for giving back the wallet?

People say I should have taken the cash.

You're really not coming across well at all, as your comments go on. You almost sound pissed off that you didn't take the cash out!
Yes, actually, I have known deprivation, but even when I was on the absolute bones of my arse, there is no way on earth I'd have contemplated keeping the money if I'd found a wallet. Because personally, I have morals and a conscience. To me, that doesn't change, whatever your financial position.
And I'd have done all I could to reunite the owner and their valuables, without the expectation of a reward, just because it is the right thing to do. Sadly not everyone has the same values.

Have you never heard of 2 wrongs don't make a right? Other people don't get their wallets back so that makes it ok? It sounds like you only returned it because you were expecting a reward and when you didn't get one you're being bitter and regretting doing the right thing with the excuse that someone else might not have returned it. Can you not hold your self to a higher standard and be glad you did the right thing simply because it was the right thing?

Do you know what - well done you that you didn't steal the money. So sorry you didn't get thanks, reward and recognition you feel you so deserved. Most people wouldn't be quite so bothered. However your conscience should be clear. Be glad of that.

What do you want from this thread OP? Praise for not stealing? You're not going to get it, quite rightly, because you treated someone else as I'm sure you would have wanted to be treated if you'd potentially lost money like that.

It doesn't make you a saint or a hero and I managed to return a wallet stuffed with cash (probably 600/700 £ then) to its owner in the 90s and didn't expect or want thanks or reward.

Imagine finding a wallet, returning it either because you were afraid of CCTV or because it's the decent thing to do, and expecting effusive thanks or a reward for it.

And cultivating the company of people who think theft is OK.

It was weird becUse I'm not really too sure it's theirs.

Normally if something is lost than the person says "thank you so much where did you find it" and do say thanks a few times. Or say stuff like "omg we've been looking for that".... Or at least look at the wallet

Mumsnet is making out that all wallets get returned hassle free, they don't

So now you're implying they've taken something that isn't theirs while.....

Well who knows. She literally just took it from me. No thanks. No where did you find it..nothing

I live in an area of high deprivation. When I found a wallet with a lot of cash and cards in it I handed it into police and when they asked me if I wanted a reward I said no

You seem to think it's ok to keep other peoples cash. Away you go. Most working class people I know wouldn't do such a thing. Stop trying to justify the fact that you wanted to keep the cash or get a reward for handing it back

What a fucking miserable thread - let it die

Actually I've found it quite heartening. There are so many threads where people present as fundamentally dishonest, but on this thread most people haven't.

You aren't owed anything more than thanks. If the people you know are suggesting you should have stolen the money, and you're trying to get others to agree with them, your friends are kind of shitty people. I'd never even think to take money out of someone's lost wallet, why would you?! How do you know that wasn't all the money Raj had to feed his family for the next however long? How would you feel if someone had found your wallet & taken the cash? I get you're stressed about money but it's still never okay to steal from others.

Where is the reward coming from? If no one claims it, it's yours. There is no rewa

Didn't even get that

That's not the case. I found a wallet with lots of cards and I handed it to police and they asked if the owner was traced did I want a reward. I said no. They would not have given me the wallet if the owner had not been found

Police can make the owner to give you a percentage. I said no I didn't want a reward

We found a wallet outside Home Bargains a couple of years ago, it was full of cash, we handed it into the staff , I always wonder if it got back to the owner but never have thought to keep it

Well, let’s hope that if it isn’t hers she does the right thing and tracks down the owner or hands it to the police with all contents intact.

Your sense of entitlement is astounding.

You handed in a wallet you found. Big deal.

It is a public forum, why post and then try to police people's responses. Asking if you should have kept the money because you feel someone's thank you is not effusive enough for your liking IS weird. I think it is weird and I have every right to express my feelings about it as you do. "How dare you" in response to a comment on a public forum asking if you are being unreasonable, is even weirder.

Christ sake, where are your morals? Of course it's stealing. It didn't belong to you. Imagine if it was your wallet.

And?

Nope, you did the right thing. And as my mum would say, "You'll get your reward in heaven."

Earlier this year I delivered over £500 worth of computing equipment that had been left on my doorstep in error, to a house of the same number but next street along.
A guy in his mid-20s answered, casually went "Oh... I wondered where it was..." Took the stuff and shut the door! Nothing even resembling a thank you.

You’re overthinking it, OP. There was a driving license, you asked if Raj lived there, she said yes, she was on the phone to him and you even saw his name on the screen, that’s about as clear as it gets.