If your partner has a football season ticket…

[HomeAloneBoxingDay]

Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day?
Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

How the fuck is it a social class thing? I’d love an explanation.

My parents go on holiday with DH's parents twice a year. They bonded when we were wedding planning.

Yes I would expect him to go.
You keep saying you only ask for 2 days a year. So not birthdays? Or Easter? Or valentine's day? I don't see boxing day as being a family day particularly, it has always been traditional for sport to take place on that day.

Op. I’m afraid if you’re like this in real life all the time, then he’s probably just trying to escape. Hopefully, you’re not.

Because apparently every single shop pub and coffee shop is shut today according to the OP

I assume you are in Scotland ( reference to Munro)? Pubs are open , not just in cities but in tiny villages . I have a friend who is very rural and she is currently in a pub ! Lots of shops open too .

I think you’ll find at this time of year, family is family, even Auntie Joan who is my mums dads cousins daughter third removed gets invited 😆

So you honestly are trying to say that of the remaining 363 days of the year - none of those are family time?

No room in the car.
But it’s also a really deprived place, town centre is mostly boarded up, I’d rather be at home.

Yes the 93% must be talking utter rot! I don't get how the OP staying at home in a gigantic strop translates as her 'compromising'!

And? For some people that is normal.
My in laws were invited to my dad’s Christmas party. My DH is one of 4 and their Christmas invites always include extended family. Not everyone says yes but it’s not unheard of for extended families to socialise together.

Do you ever see your adult DC over Christmas?

We are all gutted there is no Boxing Day football (well one match tonight.)
We have been watching AFCON.

Season ticket holders for a PL team and DH has been going since he could walk. Past years different permutations DH/sons/I have used tickets but if there is a match of course we are there!!
Feels very much a part of the festivities to us and a lovely tradition.

If you know he is going maybe next year you can plan something?
I would never want a partner who stopped me from doing something like this!!

If the sexes were reversed and you wanted to go to something you always did and he tried to stop you ppl would be screaming about controlling behaviour.

So, there’s nothing open, nothing to do, so you’d rather your dp just sat in all day with you, no other friends or family available . It’s been glorious where I am today, what a waste of a glorious free day.

For 363 days of the year my expectations are pretty low. But for Christmas Day the family are all together (their choice to be ‘home’, no demands from me) and Boxing Day my family go to their in-laws, but it would be nice to not be abandoned by my partner.

Abandoned 😂😂😂

Nothing open.
Yes I would rather my partner be here.
No, my family are all with their in-laws today…or dead.

Beginning to get a whiff of Jackonory about this thread

6 years together and she’s only just realised he like football on Boxing Day.

Lives in the arse end of nowhere so remote literally nothing opens on Boxing Day

Sneers at people who don’t agree with her as not understanding the class issue

Can’t fit in the car with her DH

The town he goes to watch football is a God forsaken slum straight out of Shameless

Cant visit any family because there’s no room at the inn

Hmm the shark well and truly been jumped

My dh has been at the football. I cosied up on the sofa with the remote control, a box of chocolates and a blanket. It's been gorgeous!

Where have I said that I tried to stop him?

No room in the car? Why, has he taken all the family? In which case it is family time, hmm?

Also - you would rather be at home - happy days as that's where you are. Just used it (I mean going forward) to have a lovely day of what you want. I have done a few jobs, read my book, had a lovely long bath and hair mask, eaten some delicious leftovers... now going to sit with a glass and watch a film with DD.

Couldn’t you do similar? Or knit, cross stitch, bake, go for a walk, a bike ride, a run, put up some shelves, sort your screwdriver collection, plan next year’s holiday, have a snooze, paint the bedroom – I don’t know what you enjoy doing but unless he has left you alone with three screaming 2yo triplets I would have thought you have something you like to do?

You are not compromising because you are not doing it with good grace, you are in a strop. Some people love football. If it’s part of their life then if you love them then you live with it. You keep going on about just 2 days, but surely when the football can’t be moved, then your day together can? It can’t only be Boxing Day and Christmas Day that you are both off work. You sound very intolerant.

He does. He takes the kids too. Boxing Day is glorious. I sit in my house, alone, eating snacks. It’s heaven. I’m always grateful when our team is at home. It’s been a long, peaceful day 😃.

Then put boxing day in your "363 days per year" of happy alone time

and do something with your partner another day

it's not that hard 😂

It's pretty obvious your mood will let him know that aren't happy about him going which indirectly makes him feel awkward about going in the future. It's a sneaky way of trying to stop him.