Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!

[confusedgoldilocks]

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

We still need to see the bookends 😃

How is it taking the piss?? OP said for them to order whatever they liked. A £40 bottle of wine isn't that wild and there wasn't a wine menu anyhow so presume they just asked for a sauvignon blanc or whatever and no one knew the price until the bill came. They're the ones who've paid for it and said not to reimburse. They couldn't be less piss-taking!

Picture upthread

OP picked the venue, and kept encouraging them to order more and more as it was “her treat”. £300 for three people, for three courses, nibbles, coffee and multiple bottles of wine, is really not a lot. You could probably get pretty close to that in PizzaExpress.

Based on what info?

You just cannot take someone out for a meal and they end up paying £300, then you expect £300 tickets to a show as well. That is preposterous. You need to pay that money asap and to say you do "not feel like paying" is a terrible attitude.

All else pales by comparison.

In offering to take people out, you should have researched prices and places too. I am surprised she managed any gifts at all when she is £300 down to begin with.

What a weird take on the situation. OP quite clearly says she encouraged them to order whatever they wanted and she'd pay. She tried to play Lady Bountiful but didn't have the money to follow through; she completely embarrassed everyone and needs to pay the money back.

This is actually quite well executed. But I think outside of Halloween the taste is very specific

Show the bookends! 😂

Is this thread genuine ?

Once again... she has!

Yep. Do this. Only option really.

I don’t understand why you got your friend a calendar and expected expensive tickets in return knowing that you o es them money for the meal?! And why wouldn’t it check before encouraging the ordering of things that you had funds?!

This is very strange.

I would just be honest. Ask if they are supposed to be you. If your friend says yes, tell them how offended you are. Take it from there.

So you took friends out for a meal but couldn’t afford it? And all yours cards were declined so you had no way of paying it even by splitting it up between cards or offering to only pay half? How much did you think it would be?

And now you think they have made / have had made bookends to look like you in order to insult you?

This sounds spiteful and cruel of them and completely over the top compared to not being able to pay a bill.

A real friend wouldn't do this. I think if you look back over your friendship you'll see there were other examples of off behaviour, gaslighting, making fun of you dressed up as misunderstandings or "just a joke".

I can see why you're upset op.

She hasn’t! The image posted was the figurine, we haven’t seen the bookends.

I thought she'd just shown the weird figure?

Sorry ignore, it wasnt her post

Thanks 👍

It is witchcraft

I really cant work out what is going on in this post however you do seem to have raised some red flags. You sound emotionally imature. Why the heck would u take someone out for dinner and encorrage them to run up the bill if you couldnt afford it? why are you sending random pics of yourself to friends? I have a family member who does this and eveyone laughs at her. I think the calender was a poor choice of a gift you sound quite full of your own self importance and i think your friends are trying to tell you something.
Use this as a wakeup call/ learning curve. Get some councilling and move on.

Are you any good at art and crafting, OP? Because if someone did this to take the piss out of me I'd be sending a similar themed item back to them.