Am I being unreasonable to interfere with brides choice?

[Allequal]

I was shopping in an asian bridal outlet this week and saw a large group of white british ladies trying on Indian bridal outfits. I assumed they were all getting married but I got talking to one of them who explained to me that she is getting married to an Indian chap and that the other ladies were her family and bridesmaids. To which I responded "oh so they are all trying on the dresses to help you decide?" And she said "no they are picking outfits for themselves.

I was absolutely horrified and explained to her that in this shop the type of clothing is just for the bride, and that if her whole family are wearing bridal outfits the grooms family will be confused as to who the bride is, and it will detract from the day because there would be a lot of scandal and gossip during and after the event.
The bride was angry and basically told me off for interfering, said she was happy for her family to look beautiful on the day but I tried to explain to her that it isnt about beauty, it would be like seeing an Indian bride in an English shop and her whole family and bridesmaids are all planning on buying a white wedding gown to turn up to the church together. You know it would look ridiculous and would become a family joke eventually
But she basically said I was rude and the shopkeeper asked me to leave (naturally wanting to make a lot of sales).

Was i unreasonable for interfering? I just didn't want her big day to be spoiled.

I’m a white woman who had a wonderful experience shopping for wedding outfits in Bombay Stores in Bradford. My friends and I were guests, and extremely grateful for the advice and guidance offered by the salespeople and the other customers about what would be appropriate. Thank you for trying to help: how ungracious this group sounds!

If there's "scandal and gossip" it will just be because people are being judgemental. You said your opinion - fine. It wast ok to keep arguing your point - its nothing to do with you.

Yabu, the bride was there and hapoy with the way things were

Do you honestly think it would be judgmental to be surprised if a load of guests turn up to a wedding in wedding dresses?!

I think it was kind of you to let her know because I think a lot of people would be mortified and greatful to hear it, but when she said she didn't mind you probably should have just left her to it. Maybe his family are more relaxed and won't be worried (or confused)

I would have kept my opinions to myself because it's none of my business!

Being married to an Indian chap myself I am amazed they could afford to kit everyone out in a bridal outfit, especially if the shop specialises in bridal outfits only 😮.
Nothing wrong with offering advice but you have to be prepared to offer it then walk away, sounds like you kept it going hence the shop owner asking you to leave

I know it wasn't my business but I saw a situation where there is a lack of cultural understanding, and something she is happy with today could lead to her feeling mortified tomorrow.

Any decent shopkeeper should have guided her guests to choose party wear, but this shopkeeper saw an opportunity to pray upon someone who didn't have a full understanding of what they are doing.
This isn't like saying you are happy for your guests to wear white, this is like every female guest wearing a white wedding dress with a trail. It would be a big regret. I didn't want to hurt her I just wanted to help her or I wouldn't have said anything 😔

You tried your best. She’ll maybe have a think and discuss with her in-laws how it should be done.
i’d appreciate the advise even if it did cause some embarrassment to myself at first.

You did nothing wrong. Some people just don't want to be told. Such a faux pas at the wedding could cause repercussions for years afterwards.

Well I am hoping that after they found out the price of the outfits most of the guests went somewhere else for a party lengha but who knows.
I know for sure when the woman sees her fiance and tells him what happened he will tell her the shopkeeper was trying to rob them. He should have told them

If you were giving helpful/friendly advice then more fool them for being antagonistic.
Why were you asked to leave by shop owner?

Not your circus

@SproutingBeetsthat’s such a fab store, so much to look at in there. My parents always go when they visit us, her for fabric and my dad used to go to the coffee shop, not sure if it’s still there. I’ve even had my eyebrows threaded there!

Sounds like your heart was in the right place but your delivery could have made her defensive. Hopefully she’ll discuss with her partner and realise that you were just trying to help.

not unreasonable to say one thing. When you had said something once that was the time to stop.

No the shopkeeper is not to blame and just because you want to interfere doesn't make it right, you mentioned it once there was no need to obsess, now you want permission of mn to be a busy body, it is all weird, and I imagine these women are capable of using the brains they were born with wh they choose too?

The shopkeeper told me to leave because he came over to ask what was going on (in urdu being all discreet and I responded in English why wasnt he being honest with the girls and he kept responding in urdu that its business and he has to make money and I told him he was taking advantage because they were English and he kept telling me to respond to them in urdu) he got angry because I was responding in English and giving the game away basically.

I'd honestly have been appreciative of the advice from someone who clearly knew more about the culture.

Welp, you tried.

I see your point and that you were just trying to help.
I would've appreciated your advice on this.

The bride may be unaware of the etiquette, if you knew an asian lady going to a white British bridal shop with her bridesmaids would you remind her that bridesmaid don't wear full-on white wedding dresses? It wouldn't occur to me to say that

I wasn't insulting he intelligence, my delivery was gentle and her response to me was gentle that she was happy with her family looking pretty and It was still a conversation when I was explaining the difference between bridal and party wear, it was only when the shopkeeper came over that it got heated, because I think that put doubt in her mind about what I was saying. There are cultural nuances here. If she was in an English bridal shop and her guests were thinking of buying white wedding gown I wouldn't have said a word, because clearly she knows what she is doing. But I saw someone making a major faux paux who might not have really understood what she was letting herself in for. Not only that, asian clothing stores dont generally offer refunds, only exchanges so It would have been a very expensive mistake for everyone if she had found out later.

But none of it ia your business why are you so obsessed with all this you made a comment in passing why is that enough for you, are you one of these people that need to feel wanted? are you lacking attention? It is all really weird

I think you were 100% in the right.

Bizarre the bride didn’t appreciate your advice. If I was marrying somebody of a completely different culture I’d appreciate all the advice I could get.