Uninvited guests. People expecting to be invited into your home unnanou

[Owlmoonstar]

How do you feel about this?

If someone knocked your door, completely expected, expecting to be invited in, would you be pissed off?

What would you do in this situation?

You don’t have time to put the kettle on!?

That's when guests are useful. Let them put the kettle on and entertain the kids, and you can chat while you carry on with what you were doing.

I do, (or I don't open the door) but I shouldn't have to? Surely it's basic manners not to think your time is not more valuable than someone else's, and to check if they are available?

There are many days when I don't have lunch until 3:30 when I make a snack for my kids after school. (like most people!). But I should be expected to find time to put the kettle on and have some boring chit chat with someone who's too bored and can't find anything to do?

My kids are not toddlers anymore, I am way past the babysitting age , especially for adults 😂

You realise that some of us do have jobs, and no, don't have time to faff around, put the kettle on?

Why do you think working from home is any different from working in an office?

Do you think my hairdresser has time to put the kettle on when they're busy with clients back to back? Do you think my kids teacher drop the class and go and put the kettle on during a class? 😂

Are they just popping in for a moment to drop off presents etc. or are they expecting to be fed and entertained? If it's the latter and I didn't like them, I wouldn't invite them in.

Apologies. I hit quote before posting and now I can only edit and not delete!

I'd let then in and be polite but I don't like it, especially week days which are usually pretty full on after work as I have DC and I don't like the routine being disrupted. Even weekends I usually have a plan in mind of what time I will do what housework, go for a walk, prep dinner etc.
Luckily I don't deal with it much anymore, I used to live in the town and people would often pop round whilst out. I'm now in an area that's not quite 'middle of nowhere' but there is nothing in walking distance and it's not an area anyone would be passing.

They are checking. When they knock. If it's not convenient that's fine.

If you're actually working then you say that and send them away.

It depends who it was. If it was friend or family of course I would invite them in.

I have no problem with people dropping in, but you take me and the house as you find us and, if it's a bad time and I'm going out or something, we say a quick hello and walk out the door together. But then I like company and was brought up in a house where this wasn't an unusual occurrence. Not sure how you'd go about learning to love it? I guess you might be able to change your mindset to accept it occasionally?

First of all they couldn't be expecting to be let in as I wouldn't turn up unannounced at someone's house so they wouldn't do it to me.

If they did come it would be just to chat on the doorstep.

If they wanted to come round and stay then they need to ask and give plenty of notice.

when you turn up unannounced, you are not "checking", you are imposing.

You check by sending a quick text or Whatsapp. Or you try to call if you really can't get round writing 2 sentences on your phone.

I'm so sorry. 💐

Ten minutes ago I'd be a bit miffed ( great word , haven't said it in years ) but would invite them in .
Now , they can piss off as I've just put my dressing gown on !

I know it was a typo but it’s making me giggle at the thought of your poor invited guests being greeted with dismay as they arrive completely expectedly

I have no problem if someone texts me and asks to pop round in 10 minutes - that fine and I can either say yay or nay depending on when I’m doing, but I don’t like people showing up unannounced. Then the choice is taken away unless away to a large extent.

Are you working from home tomorrow? Is your hairdresser or your child’s teachers working on Christmas Day ?

I’ve worked from home for the last 5 years, my company are fully supportive of me making a drink 🤣

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

What are you on about?

I am not a toddler, I am not asking for permission to make myself a drink 😂😂my company are fully supportive of me making a drink 🤣 fantastic if you need their support, well done to them, but I am BUSY! When I have back to back meetings and I need to take a break around 3:30 when my kids come back from school, no I don't go faffing in the kitchen.

You might have a very little cosy little job, with the ancient mindset of going on endless tearounds in the office that has followed you at home but putting the kettle on is so low on my list of priorities in life 😂I don't need to make bloody tea in the morning when I am working. Or simply I am in the middle of a call and I am not putting someone on hold for no reason. Because I don't want to.

The point being, if I don't take a break because I am, again, BUSY, I really don't have time to waste to entertain some bored idiot who comes unannounced because they need a handhold to entertain themselves 😂

Or I have decided to take a break and pop to the gym or go for a run at lunch, and I have no interest in changing my plans either.

I don't know if you are ridiculous or not, but you are ridiculously entitled if you expect others to drop everything for you😂

A few things: 1) tell them now isn’t a good time so next time they should check before arriving; 2) start to put on a coat and say you’re heading out so next time check before arriving; 3) answer the door on a mobile phone and say now isn’t a good time so check before arriving; 4) simply don’t answer the door; 5) answer the door and be grumpy since they can’t get the message any other way; 6) answer the door in a towel and make it really awkward.

🤣

Get over yourself.

We’re all busy!

If you are working from home then that is different and your dc won’t be there will they.

you dont' seem to be right now 😂

You can't be that busy either if you have all the time in the world to host random people popping in during working hours. Would they come and visit if you were in the office? I bet they wouldn't , so what's the difference

I‘m not at all busy now, I’m drinking wine and awaiting the delivery of the traditional Christmas Eve take away, I won’t be busy until I go back to work in 3 weeks.
The question wasn’t during work hours anyway was it? It was how do you feel about people popping in unannounced and my initial answer was to said that if it was Christmas I’d probably offer them wine. you’re the one that’s focussed on the work day - there are plenty of other hours in the day - more than enough time to put the kettle on.

If I knew them I'd open wine