Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

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Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

Oh dear... wat an attitude to spending time with your child

It’s amazing how many pps haven’t read the OP, so keen are they to jump in and attack.

As for those who say DiL should get a different job where she isn’t judging parents - they have clearly never worked in a nursery. 😆 Parents are judged especially those who are at home when their babies are in nursery on Christmas Eve, but as they won’t say this to parents’ faces it doesn’t matter

Nursery should shut at 4 on Christmas.as eve

Please don't judge. Even if they are home these may be parents with no help whatsoever who desperately need the time to prepare for the lovely Christmas they want to give their kids.
Nursery will be giving them a lovely time with lots of Christmas activities and fun I'm sure.

As I said, I was talking about the 2 mothers who did not work yet had a full time nanny. Surely you can see the difference btw your situation and theirs? If you can't stand to spend time with your children then why have them in the first place? I loved being at home with mine- sometimes it was tough- but I would make the same choice again. But I wasn't in a career where I would have gotten dusmissed after a long break so not comparable to your situation.

Good choice to have a nanny. I have seen too many childminders and nursery workers not being able to attend to children's needs because too many of them. And I'm talking about the good ones here, not the negligent/abusive ones.

As a former nanny I respected the working mums but I felt sad for the children of the Lady of leisures who just didn't want to have anything to do with their children. I think that's why they bonded so strongly to me, their mums weren't capable even when present..

You said you had a day off so you could keep them home. Chances are your whole household is contagious even if not showing signs yet. Given the time of the year, it’s not a very considerate thing to do.

If you have to work you have to work!

my kids def went on Christmas Eve and it would still be busy at the nursery was next door to a hospital so no early finishes for those parents!

as for those who are not working, I would judge those who leave theirs until 6pm on Xmas eve but speaking more generally I think it’s fine to leave your child somewhere where they are happy while you do the last minute shopping and running around

I actually think it’s great that people working on Christmas Eve don’t have to worry about childcare, and people who have been busy working before now get a chance to have a breather or do their Christmas jobs without trying to wrangle a toddler. Or yeah, watching a Christmas movie and eating half a box of roses, because that’s valid too! I definitely sent my kids to nursery sometimes when I was off because I needed some headspace and peace, and this time of year is notoriously difficult for family life and mental health for many people.

let’s stop shaming people (women, really) who use the support available to them!

There is plenty of time after Christmas when nursery will be closed (and you may still be paying) for family time, having paid for 23/24 I don't blame them one bit, use it to recharge or start to prepare Christmas, particularly if you are hosting. I would draw the line at sending our youngest once the eldest had started school, and I'd probably collect earlier. But if nursery make you pay you may as well use it. You can bet that if they have less kids in, they will pay less staff and take the money rather than pass on the unused hours.

I don't know anyone who isn't working who puts their kid into nursery to be honest, especially Xmas eve.
Ours is closed, I'm working though, but DD would have stayed home with dad regardless as he is off.

Whose

Not normally the grammar police but your post has annoyed me. They are open for a reason. You aren’t in these parents’ shoes so don’t judge.

and no, my kids are home with me all day today and tomorrow, so that’s not why your post has annoyed me!

Well colour me shocked
nine pages of froth and not a peep from the OP

I never once said I had a day off, I am also wfh today and tomorrow. Regardless that’s not your business - I unfortunately don’t have the luxury of taking my child out of preschool every time I am unwell. I follow policy, and unless he has symptoms or is not well he goes to preschool. My husband and I both work and have no family close by or available to support us, I simply cannot take a day off work to look after a child who has no signs of illness just in case! That may not seem considerate to you, but the society we live in isn’t considerate of parents and their need to work due to rising cost of living. Welcome to the real world, sounds like you don’t live in it - lucky you!

Seems like quite a few people do this as evidenced by this thread. I love the excuses too: „they would rather be there than with mummy busy in the kitchen etc.” Little kids love participating in day to day tasks especially with the people they love the most. I don’t understand why people continue having children if they see them as such an inconvenience. Just feel sorry for the kids.

You are being massively unreasonable and really judgemental about something that has zero impact on your life. Have you considered getting a hobby or alternatively just being a bit more understanding that not everyone wants to live their life like you might.

Yes you are being an unreasonable busy body judging everyone else.

Poor kids.

It is heartbreaking. One day people will look back at this time and say “what the hell were they doing”.

People have paid for it. They are at work and they have older kids to sort out and tons of preparations to do. Not everyone can just take the days off.

Is this a joke? Parents have to work. Children. In nursery have a ball at xmas.why on earth would you want to spread guilt

Funny. Not once did I tell the nursery staff what I was doing with my day after dropoff - work, day off, going back to bed.

Is this a joke? Parents have to work. Children. In nursery have a ball at xmas.why on earth would you want to spread guilt

Tell me you've never tried shopping with a baby/toddler who hates shopping without telling me you've never tried shopping with a baby/toddler who hates shopping.

When mine were little all my clothes came from supermarkets because that was the only place open in the evening when they were in bed and they HATED shopping.

'Keep doing it and they'll learn to tolerate it/behave' Nope. Everyone will just be miserable and crying.

There's no way I could have done my Christmas shopping in the days leading up to Christmas with my DC. So either everyone goes hungry or they happily toddle off to childcare blissfully unaware I'm not actually working.

They are now older and begging to go shopping. It's about playing the long game. I love going shopping with them now.

I've worked in nurseries for years and yes it is very annoying having to work xmas eve but some parents also have work to go to, it was the children that would be in bang on opening time till bang on closing when their parents are at home having a "chill day" some were even late. Parents think we have xmas things going on when in reality we are scrubbing the place and taking all the decorations down for it to be ready for January.

I’m a head teacher and my 2 year old went to nursery yesterday and today even though I’m off. To be honest I’m fucking knackered and burnt out and needed two days to sort my shit out and give my older children some time (cinema/nandos) so that I’m ready for the next week and a half to be the best mum I can be and hopefully give them all decent memories of Christmas x