Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

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Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

Oh well done, so not only your child is at nursery when he could be with you, they are also probably spreading your flu to everyone there just before Christmas!👏🏻

It's unusual for babies that young to go to nursery in the UK. Usually babies are at least 6+ months, more likely 9-12 months when starting nursery.

Bore off, OP. Not your kids, not your business. And I do hope your daughter in law isn’t coming home from work and badmouthing the parents who pay for her to be employed. Most unprofessional.

I’ve managed to do all that with multiple small kids at home full time so it’s definitely possible.

I am a GP and my child is at nursery. I assure you there are still plenty of people needing GP appointments today!

Does it make you feel good to sit around judging people in your spare time? That’s sad, I bet you’re a real high flyer in your life.

I did put my 3 yr old in nursery today, even though I had the day off. It was my day following working in the run up to Christmas to wrap gifts, clean and change beds.

Your post however makes me think very poorly of your daughters professionalism, talking about the customers who are paying her wages to her Mummy. It’s pathetic.

My child doesn’t have the flu so he’s not spreading anything. I hate to break it to you, we don’t live in a world where you can keep children at home just because you’re sick even when they’re not.

Christmas Eve is a normal working (unless you have annual leave to use up) My children used to go to nursery on Christmas Eve because I was working and had paid for it. I doubt many parents are at home with their feet up!

I wonder how many of the judgers would be horrified by a child going to a grandparents for a few hours, or family friend?

In my experience fees have to be paid whether children are there or not. This is because staff have to be paid…. they show up for work in anticipation of a full register. Unless of course the nursery enforced closure say on Christmas Eve and the staff HAVE to take days out of their leave entitlement. Nurseries are usually closed between Christmas and New Year so staff are already having to take holiday entitlement for those days.
Christmas Eve is a normal working day for most people and they still need childcare. They reserve and pay for a place in nursery. It is up to them if their child attends or not on any given day but not many parents will refrain from using an already paid for day in nursery assuming their child is well.

YABU to be so judgy.

my daughter was booked in yesterday and today and didn’t make it in today due to a fever. I wanted to have two days to myself to get prepared, plus if she doesn’t go in for a long period it’s harder for her settle when she returns. Thankfully I have carry over annual leave from returning from Mat leave to use to treat myself to a few hours of non work house work but next year I won’t have the annual leave and will probably need to save it for sick days like immunisations etc so will need to work.
Not like mums that do this are sat with their feet up when they actually should be as they all probably need a break!

Its a normal working day. If your dil was a single parent with nursery age kids where would her kids be today while she worked?
For lots of children nursery or school is a safe, warm place with routine - I know many children happy to return to school. Not everyone has a hallmark style christmas break full of family and fun and tables laden with food.
All of that aside people have paid for a service and if they want to chill for a few hours good for them! Nursery age children are relentless and maybe its the only time older kids get 1 on 1 time with parents

OP I hope you don't use shops, delivery services, public transport, utilities, medical professionals, banking services or anything else on Christmas Eve as you might be forcing some poor little love into childcare!!
Lots of parents rarely get a break, begrudging them a few hours in the days before Christmas to get things prepped for Christmas is mean spirited.

If the parents are working, it’s one of your business. If they want a rare day to themselves before Christmas (likely so they can get something practical done without kids running around!) it’s none of your business.

If the nursery staff don’t want to work on Christmas Eve or the nursery thinks they shouldn’t work on Christmas Eve then the nursery should be closed or have limited hours.

Some people have jobs that aren't forgiving. Would you want your emergency nurse or doctor to say, "sorry, can't sew that massive cut you're bleeding out of, didn't want my child to be at nursery on Christmas Eve"

Work as a nurse so yes nursery needs to stay open.

There are also many hard working people who shock horror have to actually work on Christmas day/ night and many may be leaving young children at home with relatives. Not everyone will be able to get leave that day and nurseries will be closed.

Someone needs to keep the country running christmas or not!

They're socialising and likely doing christmas activities. I had my friends 3 year old DD from 10-4.30 yesterday so her and my DS could play together and her mum could do some last minute prep as shes a single mum and works term time.
They had a great time together and it will hopefully mean her mum is less tired for Christmas which is better for her and her DD.

The DIL is working at the nursery....

Maybe some dont celebrate Christmas so its a normal day to them?

It reminds me of someone who used to work at my kids’ after school club. I paid for my children to stay til 6pm, usually I’d get there between 5 and 5.30pm but one day a week I couldn’t get there til 5.50pm, I was never later than that. The kids were always the last ones there. The staff member clearly resented this and wouldn’t even speak to me, as soon as she saw the car pull up she’d practically push them out of the door. Completely the wrong attitude to be working in childcare. Fortunately she no longer works there

8 pages and OP has not returned. Why am I not surprised?

Involved parent.

If those are the nursery's opening dates and times then why shouldn't parents, who will be paying regardless, use them if they need them?

It's a shame for your dil but whether the parents are chilling at home or working flat out it shouldn't matter. They've paid for the service and are likely still paying for the days the nursery will be closed over the holidays.

I used to finish work at 4 and collect at 6pm on standard days when my child was in nursery. Some days I was flat out during jobs,some days burnt out and needing an hour and others....a myriad of reasons. Its no different. If the nursery is open and you are paying for the service, why not use it?

I bet the staff are annoyed at those children.

Ha, that did make me laugh. It’s hardly quality time with the children, them getting no attention and everything taking longer because of it. Far smarter to send them to nursery for a few hours, blitz the jobs efficiently, and then they have a lovely afternoon with the undivided attention of their happy, organised and relaxed mother. There’s no need to be a martyr.