Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

[Motheroffive999]

Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

What's your son doing..?

who's being a martyr?

You can't take your kids to have your hair done or if you want to go to the gym, or even go away for the weekend with your friend, but normal home life? It's hardly a chore to have them around.

they have a lovely afternoon with the undivided attention of their happy, organised and relaxed mother.
yeah right, that sounds likely 😂😂 when she's not on her phone checking social media

So you work full time, AND get rid of the kids to do chores, and get rid of the kids when you have to (medical / beauty appointments, all the places which are child free)

yes, makes sense

Tf are you talking about "most" parents are at home, are you from the moon or something? Huge assumption to make based on your knowledge of only one actual person's routine.

Retail workers, hospitality, healthcare, ambulance, police, fire, carers, council, posties and other couriers, factory workers, beauticians, hair stylists, security, custodial staff, housekeepers, nannies, nursery staff, lab techs... Shall I keep going? These are all professions that may require childcare up to and including Christmas eve. "Most" parents definitely are the fuck not at home.

Jog on with your ignorant judgment. Or at least just admit that you hate your daughter in law and were hoping to start a thread full of fellow supercilious fools slagging her off.

You have absolutely no idea about other people’s circumstances.

Some kids are bloody hard work. Their parents will love them, but perhaps feel that they need a break before the chaos begins.

Your post makes out like theyre swapping an idealic day of baking cookies and playing board games with nursery. When actually, they’re likely swapping a day of tantrums, screaming and tv, with a day of peace and recuperation before Christmas.

Dont judge people. Being a parent to young children is bloody hard work so if they take a rare day to themselves, that’s fine!

Yes. The reality

It’s out of touch to think that families these days can survive on one salary or one salary and stat maternity pay because in most families I know that isn’t the case anymore.

Why does she have to Watch paw patrol all day. Does she not have toys?

Imagine a world where every parent did what worked for them - regardless of the reasons - and no-one made unkind or judgemental comments.

not wanting your kids in childcare all their waking hours isn’t being a tradwife

You assume im an oap? I’m mid twenties with a baby on mat leave right now

These are years that they won't get back with their children

But if parents aren’t using leave over Christmas, they are using it at other times of the year? It’ll add up to the same amount of days off together surely.

Back before school holidays were an issue and I had a DC in nursery I wouldn’t take any extra days off over Christmas. We still celebrated and had a lovely time as a family. I didn’t bring DC into nursery on Christmas Eve but that was only because I could bring them into work and leave early that day - which isn’t something people are able to do in many jobs. They’d go back in on the 27th when I went back to work.

Not seeing the issue here at all.

Good grief. Let people be and stop being a busy body.

I still take my kids into nursery at this time of year so I can get chores etc done AND I also sit on my phone on social media and enjoy the quiet during these times too. Balance. Lovely.

It all sounds very self-centred. Did it never occur to you that maybe your small child with underdeveloped nervous system also needed a break from the long days of chaotic environment that is nursery.

I am taking my child back into pre school when it opens on the 2nd and I’m having the day off on my own and I will not feel guilty for doing so.

He will have a great time over the break, and get lots of love and attention, but I need a break too. He gets a break when he’s off with me, but I do not.

Self employed?

there was only one baby that age in my son’s nursery and the family were building a business. Luckily I had a job which paid my normally wage for 9 months. My partner was self employed though and the first days/ weeks were tough as post c-section he had to carry on working - it was that or risk losing clients.

The person I was quoting said they would regularly finish work at 4 and pick up their child at 6 to get some solo chill time.

23rd is a working day for many, many people
Same for the 24th, some might break up at midday

Some people will have to work on the 25th too

Stop being so judgy

Honestly this is such a nonsense statement, newflash not all kids are the same. My kid is a bundle of constant energy and will focus for precisely 2 minutes on ‘helping’ me with something before he’s running amok and under my feet. I was totally the child that happily followed mummy around helping, or amused myself while my mum was busy but my kid is not that kid.

Lol I can just imagine my kids ages 6, 6, 3 and 1 being SO "helpful" in the kitchen. Or doing housework, running last minute errands, going to shops, wrapping gifts etc. So nice and serene. A beautiful time of bonding as they make even more mess, get into things they shouldn't, fight, screech and whinge for constant snacks 😂 If only everybody's life could be a Hallmark movie of happily baking together, doing puzzles and going on walks in the countryside 😂

Enjoy your quiet, I am really sorry for you nurseries are shut on bank holidays and you have to stay with your children an entire day!😂

Remember, mums! It doesn’t matter what you do, someone (often another woman) will JUDGE you. If you put your kid in nursery while you work, you are wrong. If you put your kid in nursery while you clean the house and wrap the presents, you are wrong. If Christmas is not perfect, you are to blame.

As my dear departed dad used to say, a woman’s place is in the wrong.