Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

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Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

This seems posted to rage bait.
The nursery hours will be paid for regardless of if the child is there or not.
What else to you thenk doctors, nurses, ancilliary staff, pharmacists, porters, radiographers, paramedics, call handlers do on Christmas eve??????
They will be there to support your pearl clutching when you realize everyone doesn't agree with you.

My child goes to a hospital staff nursery. Lots of people work Christmas day and also many people don't celebrate Christmas too and I'm grateful for those who cover for people like myself to be able to take the time off.

I agree with you, poor child.

The mother should be ashamed k know xmas is a busy time, but children come first any day.

Happy xmas

FFS

Happy to slag off a child's mother but no mention of their father...

I'm an nhs worker on the staff bank. We don't get paid maternity leave. A huge number of nhs workers are on 0 hour contracts and are not entitled to sick pay. They may get SSP of they meet certain requirements. But not the 6 months full pay contracted employees get.

I was doing nightshift in a&e 9 weeks after my c section.

Always one she didn't mention father, otherwise I would have said couid he not help.

No point jumping down my throat because I have an opinion.

Children are more important and its my view like it or not.
Each tike I read some answers on here they are rude I thought mumsnet would be better.

whose not who's. Christmas Eve is a normal working day for most. Stop being so judgemental of other people's childcare needs.

My first dc went to a nursery which was open all year around except for 1 week at Christmas/new year. She attended 3 days a week from age 2.5, just for early years education and social interaction, for a short day 9-4.30pm as I'm a sahm. I always sent her whenever the nursery was open and it was her scheduled days, and wouldn't have kept her off just because it was Christmas Eve. So I probably did send her on Christmas Eve (I can't remember how it fell with her 3 days attendance now) without needing to for childcare, to enable her to maintain a consistent routine and maximise social interaction with her friends.
She had been at home with me 24/7 until she started nursery aged 2.5, and has lots of time with me during school holidays now she's at a prep school with long holidays, so we've had plenty of time spent together.

Most private nurseries charge if that child usually attended on Tuesday and Wednesday but the parents kept them at home, so why not send them to nursery? They'll have plenty of Christmas fun there.
A lot of parents have to work throughout the Christmas period - when there are no nurseries open and have to juggle shifts to cover BBC at home.

You clearly aren't a mum or parent so its a waste of time to try and make you understand! Parents have a right to relax, they pay money in nurseries, its ain't free, whats your beef with other people's decisions!!🙄

Your implication was that children should always come first with mothers.

That's how we end up with burnt out mothers and broken down relationships which isn't good for anyone.

Keeping children entertained and safe while their responsible parent or parents get things done, be it doing their job, some much needed respite, or just having a rare few hours to themselves on one of their limited days off with childcare options is not the terrible thing you're making it out to be.

An extra day in nursery with known care workers is not a crisis situation.

In what way is it better for a child to be dragged round shops, be tried to be krpt out from under parents feet while they wrap presents and cook food or be taken on a 4 hour round trip to pick up grandma rather than being in nursery

Children are indeed important and they need to be fed, clothed, housed and educated. Which has to be paid for. Which usually means someone has to work. This is pretty basic. I don’t see why people can’t understand this.

What then happend to the kids whose paeents dont finish work intil 5.30 then. Remembervsm awful lot of workplaces dont allow annual leave around xmas

My son had a lovely last week in nursery. Games, a Xmas party, treats, Xmas cartoons... The alternative would have been my husband dragging him around the shops or being home with his new baby sister while I try to simultaneously breastfeed, nap baby through a sleep regression and try to organise the chaos!

The reality isn't as fun as your theory of quality time with parents. My son had much more fun in nursery with his little friends!

Love how it's just the mother that should be ashamed.

If you or your child ever needed an emergency dental appointment, medical appointment, prescription or admitted to hospital. Would you tell the mums working in these jobs on Christmas eve they should be ashamed or be grateful that they are people working out there providing a service you need.

Because the newsflash, the world doesn't operate on black and white terms. Many people work jobs that requires them to work holidays and these people still manage to put their children first. Having children isn't just restricted to people who can get certain days off.

I genuinely couldn't tell you if my parents worked Christmas eve growing up. Neither will these children. But I do know that I grew up feeling loved and that I always came first. As I suspect these children will too.

Wish I never answered no more references it was my view but like a lot of comments never get all the information. Have a good at someone else. I coukd not have children. Spent xmas aline as family never bothered for 40 plus years. Had the best mother ever. Father not good. All I am saying is we all have a tale to tell let thst person tell it without berating them last time dont need it

Exactly everyone has a tale to tell. You made an inflammatory comment that a mother was selfish for leaving a child in nursery on Christmas eve without actually understanding that these parents would have good reason to do so.

I am sorry your family never bothered and you couldn't have children but that's completely irrelevant to the conversation. If you're going to make such sweeping statements about parents being selfish and not putting their children first then expect some comments back on i.

@NatalieW1907 if I understand your posts correctly, you have never been a mother, let alone a working mother? Then you have absolutely no skin in this game. You cannot possibly imagine what it is like juggling family life and working life.
When my DD was nursery aged, she absolutely loved being there and her development came on in leaps and bounds. She is a very happy and well adjusted child, and is far from being deprived of time with her parents.
Why don't you adopt or foster children, and then come back and tell us how you never need a little time to yourself?

I am one of these parents. I have already paid for the days. After Christmas we will take the kids on a week long beach holiday where they will swim and ride and eat fish and chips on the beach and make all the memories. They have a great life. I deserve a break too. Me time keeps our life more organised and makes me a better parent.

Wow try having a serious illness when young that stopped me having children, but I looked after my sisters 2 boys when they were young after she died. I then looked after my exes when his wife died. So plenty of experience with babies and fo not take the attitude that if you dont have children keep your opinions to yourself. You were lucky there are loads like me that couldn't have them. Your rudeness is beyond belief when you dont know a person's story

Wow try having a serious illness when young that stopped me having children, but I looked after my sisters 2 boys when they were young after she died. I then looked after my exes when his wife died. So plenty of experience with babies and fo not take the attitude that if you dont have children keep your opinions to yourself. You were lucky there are loads like me that couldn't have them. Your rudeness is beyond belief when you dont know a person's story

Your story has absolutely nothing to do with this conversation though. I am sorry you couldn't have children but it has absolutely nothing to do with anything here nor does it absolve you of getting replies to your inflammatory comment.

You made a comment that mums were selfish for putting their kids in nursery without any knowledge or insight as to why that would be such as a mums own health, work commitments or the actual fact is not a crime to want a break. For many people, nursery is the only "village" some parents have.

If you're going to make such ridiculous comments on a forum then expect some responses to it. Your own past and history doesn't give you some get out of jail card on this.

You are a piece of work. I will not be replying to such selfish nonsense a reply to yours was only my opinion, take it or leave it. I dont care. Get over yourself, you want to be right all the time. Must he a burden.

Mumsnet some hard core women out there. Post a message and dont like replies. So dont post absolute stupid to take it out of someone because they don't agree with you.