Child in nursery today and tomorrow 8am til 6pm

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Who's children are still in nursery today and tomorrow.

My daughter in law is working 8 til 6 pm today and tomorrow in the local nursery for babies from 6 weeks to 4 year old pre schoolers.

They have maybe 10 children in each room still, this close to Christmas.

Most have older siblings and they drop off saying they are not working but want a nice chilled day at home.

I know some parents have to work but most are at home.

These are years that they won't get back with their children , I know that they need to do last minute prep etc but leaving children at nursery until 6pm on Christmas Eve is such a shame for the children and the staff.
Am I being unreasonable?

Oh my god do you have nothing better to worry about? My kid is in nursery today until 6 and tomorrow until 4 - he’s then off for 8 days with us. He’s three. Today I’ve been rushing around to ensure everything magical he wakes up to Xmas morning is taken care of, and to nurse away a flu I’ve not been able to fend off because every weekend this month has been spent making sure he has wonderful Christmas memories, and I work Monday to Friday.

Despite all this; even if all I wanted to do was lay in bed to get some headspace and recovery, before I head into 8 days of no nursery - that’s ok too.

Honestly, we have enough judgement over everything we do as parents today, don’t add to the list for the sake of it. Reflect on yourself instead.

Are you an active babysitting grandparent? If so; don’t forget, many parents do not have this. All time that is not spent working is spent with their kids. And deep cleaning a house, prepping the dinner, wrapping gifts, and running out to do some last minute shopping is impossible with a toddler in tow.

These smug posts really wind me up actually

My little girl is in nursery today, I am off work.

Weve just spent a busy weekend with both Saturday and Sunday doing activities for our little girl including meeting saturday.

Not long ago we went away for a week to a place tailored to children- the trip was for her fun.

Do I feel guilty my dc is in nursery today? HELL no. I am relaxing, wrapping presents and its so rare that I get this time to myself. My little girl loves nursery and will be happily playing with her friends - everywhere is busy I dont know what else I 'should' be doing.

Does this upset / offend you?

Interesting post..

Christmas Eve is a normal working day (ie not a bank holiday) so I’m not sure why you think most people aren’t working.

My daughter started reception in September. She always asks me to put her in late club so she can play with her friends.
Am I missing out on time with her or am I allowing her to enjoy playing Lego and painting with her friends after school? It’s basically a play date.

None of us have nursery aged kids (several of us have teens) and noone is off today in the office. We are all working tomorrow too.

My daughter is in nursery today. Last year she was in nursery on Christmas Eve!
She absolutely loved it, the staff and the children had an amazing time hyping them up for the big day.
I have to pay for all-year round (nursery don’t give me a choice to be termtime only) so she can go, it keeps her routine, and gives me a chance to get things ready.
It is absolutely not shameful to have children in nursery on Christmas Eve and will give them a lovely fun time before they go home to their families!

My dc is older now but I’d have put her in nursery for at least half a day so I could do shopping or clean/ prep.

If someone is paying £70-100 for a day of nursing, why on earth would they choose to keep the child off and either drag them around shops, hide from them while they wrap presents or ignore them while they try to wfh (which many can manage with older ones). The kids will have much more fun doing Christmas crafts with their friends. If the nursing doesn't want kids in, they need to close and not charge parents.

Quite.

My child is in nursery today and we have enjoyed the time together as a couple and DD will be having a brilliant time in nursery. We have the next 10 days together packed full of things to do with her. I don't feel any guilt in taking one day to ourselves.

Just to add, I have no family support with childcare and rely on nursery, and as others have said, the days are paid for already, at £80 per day I would rather not waste the money!
I often worked Christmas Eve (and sometimes Christmas Day) until I changed careers. It’s not anything to feel bad about, it’s called earning a living to be able to buy a few presents and keep the heating on?

I really doubt ‘most are home’ 🙄 How would she know? It’s not something I’d ever mention to my childcare provider.

That said, if you have a child booked into nursery, you pay for those days whether you use them or not.

Unless we were travelling, if I was paying £60 per child for a day of childcare, yes, I’d use it. So I could rest up and get everything ready for what will probably be 2 weeks of having them at home while nursery is closed.

In a country where you get months of maternity leave why does anyone put their 6 week old in nursery? And before someone says I don’t know how hard they have it I had my first at 16 no maternity leave didn’t live with parents and still wasn’t hard up enough to warrant putting a 6 week old in nursery.
Why does anyone in the uk do it? Genuinely curious

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jeeze guys

I'm off today and my son is in nursery.

It's one day out of two weeks off with him. He's off dancing with his little mates whilst I lovingly prep diet exclusion stuff for him and chill out a bit.

I have 3 days off with him a week. I think he can manage without me for another few hours.

This!

I work full time and used to use that time to get last minute jobs done so I could enjoy the evening with my children or when the older one was at school we had a special trip together.

Do you work full time op?

Presumably your daughter's nursery stays open for the kids whose parents work Christmas eve? Do they let the parents who don't work not pay for that day?

I’m afraid I read your post and just thought ‘stop negatively judging people you know absolutely nothing about.’ You’ll find you will go through life happier if you assume the best of people. Maybe it’s so that they can spend a much needed day with the sibling. Maybe they’re setting up a magical day for the preschooler. Who knows. Just assume the best and stop judging.

Children up to 3 years old are better at home so if an implicated parent can be sahp it's ideal. From 3 and over they will have the benefit of socialising with others. Their brains have matured and they understand the concept of "mum/dad works but will come and pick you up". I don't know why people who can stay at home with their young children choose not to. Career important to the point that you can't give your child the security and attachment it needs. Only talking about those who are financially able to but choose not to obviously. I used to be a nanny* *when younger and 2 of the mothers didn't work but were very "busy" eg nails, hair, pilates, spa, lunches. The children were more attached to me than their mother which was incredibly sad..

If DH wasn’t at home today my DC would be in nursery because I have so much to do and they would just be bored at home whilst I wrap/run errands!

My 7 year old DD has been in a gymnastics class all day today 9-3pm while I furiously type on my laptop and do my work in the cafe there. Sorry that I’m not in an apron wafting whimsically around a cinnamon scented kitchen, fetching eggnogs for my husband. I got bills to pay. She’s had so much festive fun in the last few weekends, I think she needs a break from the festivities and wants to just do her gymnastics and have a nice time. I will be working probably until 11pm tonight to get my work done given it’s been a short day today.

the world doesn’t stop at Christmas

When my son was at nursery Christmas eve we finished work at 2. I went to collect him and staff turned me away with instructions to go treat myself to a coffee or something as I’d already paid for the day and deserve a break.

It was very appreciated.

Yes spending time with your child is great but they are already getting that with christmas day, boxing day etc.

Loads of people are still working and some are working right through Christmas.