Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

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Due to be at the in-laws tomorrow for a full itinerary of Christmas related trips, meals and visits. Christmas is massive in DHs family.
I’m ill. Cancelling will devastate the kids.
What would you do? Go and risk passing flu on and being miserable and alone in a guest bedroom, force everyone to stay home and be miserable with me or let DH take the kids and stay home alone and miserable?

it all feels very miserable.

I’d suggest they go for Christmas lunch/afternoon and bring you back some leftovers! That way they don’t miss out, and you don’t have to cook but still get the excited morning and cosy evening as a family.

What would your in laws prefer you do?

i would let them go if you are not worried about being alone yourself.
can they cut the trip a bit?

Let dh take the kids.
Sorry you have the flu

I'd stay home alone, let them go. You can't rock up to your in laws with flu.

I’d cancel it for everyone, ds was really ill last Christmas and we cancelled everything until he felt better as I was worried we would all end up ill and pass it onto other people. We stayed home from Christmas Eve until ds felt better on the 28th dec.

I wouldn’t want our partners being ill and havin to deal with the same illness ds had. He was very poorly.

Let dh take the kids.
Order a fab takeaway of stuff I actually like for a change and have delivered to reheat Christmas day.
Move myself onto the sofa with a duvet and all the remotes within easy reach.
Line up a binge fest of stuff To watch on tv and several boxes of chocolates tissues and decongestants.
Hope to be better by the time they get back so i can share all the photos and videos.

Not sure your DH and kids should go if in laws are vulnerable in any way. Surely high risk that they will already have caught it off you and will spread it to relatives?

Have in-laws had flu jabs?

How far away do they live? I’d want to do Christmas morning at home with DH and DC, and then go back to bed while they head off for family and Christmas dinner etc.
But depends on distance as to whether that’s possible?

That makes sense because it was your child. But the OP is sick. She is an adult. Her husband can take the kids to his parents and she can stay home and rest ?

Well if cancelling will devastate the kids let your husband take them . You can stay home and rest . You’ll still see them in the morning and evening I’m assuming.

Send DH and kids, please do not make them skip any trips or activities. You stay at home as you are ill.
I’m amazed anyone would consider cutting fun stuff from their kids Christmas to accommodate a parent with the flu. They will have a nice time, you’re not going to enjoy anything regardless of who is with you. Stay in bed and recover.

If you truly have flu then you'll want to be in bed to sleep and rest, so no point spoiling it for everyone else. If you're certain no one else is showing symptoms then let DH take the kids. Don't begrudge them their fun. Just make sure DH leaves you some pre-prepped snacks/food to keep you going while they're gone.

Im sorry you're ill OP, but try to look at it as just another day and celebrate with the kids when you're feeling better.

Send DH and DC so they still have fun. Maybe you’ll be better by New Years and can do something to celebrate that.

Send DH and the kids, it's shit but there's nothing worse than being unwell in someone else's home even if they are family. Get DH to get you some ready meals in, and make sure you've got milk, bread etc and some pain relief. Then just enjoy the peace. It's just one day, OP, let the kids have fun and you can do your own version when you're better.

How ill?
Can you manage to still take part in things if they stay home with you? Or do you think you just need a lot of rest in which case they may as well go for a bit without you. Are they local? As in, DH can just take the kids for a meal and come home?

Sorry to be extra clear, it’s a 5 day extravaganza with different people each day.

xmas eve - my family and in laws all together
xmas day - in laws and cousins all together
Boxing Day - my brother and sisters and kids meal out
27th - trip to wales for other family members

Inlaws are 2 hours away. Kids were very excited also to wake up Xmas day with all the other kids there. It’s amazing after santas been! So it would mean me missing seeing them open presents which is really sad. Unless they came home Xmas eve night and went back Xmas day afternoon but then they’re missing out still.

no one else showing any symptoms, everyone’s vaccinated (I am too but clearly this flu doesn’t care!)

Family all want me to come, but I can barely move

If it’s flu would you even be up to joining in or doing anything? It’s crap but I’d say let the kids have fun and rest up.

Don't go and pass it on to all those people

I'd let them go without you. You can take the opportunity to really get yourself well and have another Christmas when they get back. It would be really selfish of you to go and pass it on bearing in mind how many people you would be seeing.

Send them without you. If you can barely move it will be shit anyway. If you’re very unwell you’re best off sleeping/resting in peace. It’s rubbish I know, Christmas with the dc can be so joyful and to miss out on all the family fun is crap.

I'd let DH take the kids. 1 person being ill shouldn't prevent everyone else from having fun. Stay home and enjoy having the chance to rest. Enjoy some activities with them when you're feeling better.

Stay at home. I know it sucks but don't make others ill too.

You need to stay home alone

I would ask everyone else what they would prefer.

If they were okay with me being there, I'd dose myself up and go. Sometimes being in bed makes me feel worse.

I missed my dc1's 2nd ever Christmas because of norovirus. Was sill ill, I couldn't get out of bed so there was no dilemma.