Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

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Due to be at the in-laws tomorrow for a full itinerary of Christmas related trips, meals and visits. Christmas is massive in DHs family.
I’m ill. Cancelling will devastate the kids.
What would you do? Go and risk passing flu on and being miserable and alone in a guest bedroom, force everyone to stay home and be miserable with me or let DH take the kids and stay home alone and miserable?

it all feels very miserable.

Stay home. I did tonight and missed a family get together.

I’m just at the tail end of recovery from the flu, it’s been dreadful. My ‘best’ day of recovery though was when my child and husband were out for the day and I could just do my own thing and sleep / rest / binge watch tv. It’s really hard trying to parent when unwell. It might do you the world of good to get a few days of rest and perhaps you could organise a fun catch up in January instead for you to see family?

Hope you’re on the mend soon xx

This actually happened to me last year…but we always planned to have Christmas morning at home and then lunch at in-laws. And then this was to be followed by 5 days of various family visit and fun activities. I was ill but there was no way I would have let this ruin everyone else’s Christmas. Cancelling was not even an option. My DH took the kids without me.

I didn’t find it that miserable at all to be honest…I was ill and didn’t feel like celebrating anyway. I had the house to myself. I slept, cuddled with my cats, watched whatever I wanted on TV, pampered myself with some bath goodies my DD had put together for me, and my lovely friend even popped in to see me with a plate of Christmas dinner!

Thankfully, I felt well enough to join the celebrations by about the 27th or 28th so I didn’t miss everything. Meanwhile, my DH and DC had the wonderful fun Christmas that was planned and that made me happy.

Could you join them on a video call for opening presents?

Stay home and get well.
Yes it's shit not seeing the kids open their presents but there'll be other Xmases.
I'd get some favourite food and soft drinks and stay at home OP. Sleep as much as you can.
Make next year an extravaganza of all extravaganza's.

Hope you feel better soon x merry Christmas

I was going to suggest this also but forgot to add to my comment 🙄🫣

I'd send them all and stay in bed. Surely that's what's best for everyone. Hopefully you get the time you need to rest and recuperate and don't pass it on to anyone else.