Would you spend Xmas away from your kids?

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Due to be at the in-laws tomorrow for a full itinerary of Christmas related trips, meals and visits. Christmas is massive in DHs family.
I’m ill. Cancelling will devastate the kids.
What would you do? Go and risk passing flu on and being miserable and alone in a guest bedroom, force everyone to stay home and be miserable with me or let DH take the kids and stay home alone and miserable?

it all feels very miserable.

I woke up with vomiting on Christmas day once. Dh took the kids, food and presents to inlaws overnight whilst I stayed in bed ill.

I'd have been no good or fun for anyone anyway so they did the right thing.

We celebrated a few days later when I was better

Stay at home while your DH takes the kids. You being unwell is no reason for everyone else to miss out.

Let the kids decide? I'd have been miserable without my mum at Christmas when I was little, whatever else was going on.

Just stay at home and let the kids go with your DH. It sounds bliss to be home alone. Apart from being ill of course!

Let them go and stay home resting.

Please don’t take the flu to your in laws. Talk it through with DH and DC and see whether they’d be happy to go without you, if so, let them, you can do a second Xmas dy with them when you’re better. Sorry you’re ill 🤒

You can order take away so you don’t have to cook

My son is an adult, in his 20s. I didn’t want to potentially take a bug to my mum who is in her late 70s.

bugs and viruses pass so easily.

I would let children and husband go, yes.

It is 4 days. You might be feeling better by Christmas day. Can you join them going by taxi, public transport etc? It sucks I understand. My little one got sick yesterday and I am upset as I will not be able to take him to church tomorrow, but what can we do, is what it is. But I would say let them go tomorrow and then join them later if feeling better.

It is crappy to be ill in bed when it’s Christmas. But to what extend would you be able to enjoy their company anyway?

Id let them go and stay at home. Can you join them a bit later in the course of the five days?

I am going to be without my kids at Christmas as I’m divorced and we alternate year on and off as it’s unfair to make the kids split Christmas Day. We take a week of the holidays each (this is by agreement and suits everyone even though I do not like my exh)

It is what it is. We will have a nice NY week, which is a “freer” and sometimes nicer week anyway.

Sorry your unwell :(

Can you have Christmas morning as a family get up early, open presents and put a brave face for an hour ❤️

Then go back to bed, rest and let your Husband take the kids off for a few days whilst you recover,

feel better soon

That's awful op , however I'd say let them go and get DH to.film.it

If it’s flu I’d rest. Are there any presents it would be ok for them to bring home and open with you after?

Stay home alone. It sounds relaxing to me. I'd be having to pretend to DH and DC I was more disappointed than I really was to save hurt feelings.

I’d stay in bed and ask them to bring home leftovers

You stay home and be ill at home get them to set you up and obviously return if you get worse..

I do every other year because I co-parent. I would let them go so they don’t miss out. Can they come back sooner, after the waking up with other kids? So on Boxing Day?

You should do right by the kids and your wider family by encouraging them to go and you stay at home. It’s gutting but can’t be helped. Going is very selfish. How would you feel if an older person got it from you and was very sick?

Maybe hold back some presents the ones you were really looking forward to them opening ?

If you can barely move then you cannot go. I had the flu a few weeks ago. It was horrendous. In my family if someone is ill then they stay away.

I think that this really sucks for you OP and it’s a hard pill to swallow but I’d let them go. If you’re out of commission then apart from seeing them open their presents, I’m not sure what would be the point in them staying. This is of course me assuming that you can look after yourself and not NEED DH in order to survive the next week or so.

You can’t go. You will get other people sick.

if everyone else is vaccinated, it’s tricky. With that many points of contact, odds are high there is someone who is immune compromised. At the very least everyone needs to be informed about the known risk. Since your husband and children are in attendance, they may have to stay home.

Stay at home and send them with love and the promise of a smashing day when they get back. I’ve just caught a miserable cold from a colleague. I will be past it by the 25th, but no one would’ve wanted me around in the state I was in on Dunday.

Stay home. Let them go and appear to be fine with it. Rest, look after yourself and get well. You'll be ill wherever you are but there's no need to spread the illness or the misery.
Hope you perk up soon.