AIBU to ask what's the worst thing you've ever overheard someone say about you?

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Just that really. Luckily I haven't overheard anything about myself yet, but it occurred to me today that it must happen fairly often and I'm just curious to be honest! Also, if it happened to you, did the relationship survive afterwards or did you fall out?

I didn’t overhear this I saw it written down in black and white! Old manager wrote on a company document my job description and then listed all my faults next to the descriptors I.e: description, must be cheerful and pleasant (client facing role and this was 24 years ago) and she had wrote in next to it Mskittenheels “always got a miserable face” (for what it’s worth I have a very pleasant face)

I was literally 22 years old with a baby and suffering from domestic violence whilst still trying to hold down a job and keep my head above water! She was let go shortly after so I like to think karma did its job.

I wonder can people remember as clearly, a nice thing they accidently overheard someone say about them? Hope so 😘

One of my patients said to me, who was that fat old woman with the slapped arse face I saw last time?
I said that would be me then.
Silence in return.
I've since lost 5 stone so fuck you.

I was a slim size 10,23 year old and a customer asked me when my baby was due??? I was mortified/

iv been over weight since my late twenties and my mother has constantly nagged at me and put me down about. Saying that my legs were thick and that I shouldnt wear leggings at my size.

Iv now lost 7 stone and I’m now rather thin at a size 8 my health was the reason I lost the weight/ my mother told me that I look like someone out of a concentration camp and the latest comment was that I look Anorexic. My heart breaks that this woman my own mother can never accept me for (me)

You see the thing is that they are all, pathetic, jealous, incapable . INCAPABLE!!!
So start again, chin up and have a go. I am a writer and I have had it all too.
My father told me he was very disappointed in his children. And so much more but I am NOT going to be tied down with other peoples lesser expectations. If I had done what you did at 14 I would have been unstoppable. So be unstoppable now!! As for some teachers????? Well there is a whole essay bubbling on that one!!!! ( I did have a couple that were inspirational. Thank you Mr Corbett).

I will always remember being around 7 or 8 and overhearing my (extremely tidy) dad having a rant to my mum because I'd got some talc on the bathroom floor and how all I did was make a mess and blah blah blah. 50 years on it still bites because I idolised him at the time but never felt good enough and that feeling stayed with me until he passed a few years ago. I was a very sensitive child though (have got really thick skin now so he probably did me a favour!)

A report I read in which my boss' boss said I was faking my disability because I didnt act like the other member of staff who had a similar disability.

Same person also said in the report that my boss needed to keep an eye on me because I had to swop my NWD every couple of months to scvomodate a hospital appointment. It made zero difference to anyone else what day I worked. She implied in the report that I was making the appointments up and had somehow faked the appointment letters.

I know she (and others) have said worse things about me but both of these still piss me off 10years later because they are just so stupid and unfair.

Probably not the worst but one that sprang to mind is "yeah she has got a big nose hasn't she" 😂I was about 12 at the time and until that point I thought I had a normal nose, needless to say I never looked at my face the same again. In my 50s now and although I hate it I have learnt to live with it.

Not overheard, it was a Facebook status about me. Sorry, it'll be a long one!

I think i used to have body dysmorphic disorder and hated pictures of myself. Never felt comfortable in shorts but I run hot, so basically have no other options in summer.
I was at a friend's house one day and her neighbour, a really pretty woman, said how she'd kill to have legs like mine. Said how she'd tell her husband to look how toned they are, then told him not to look... It really made me feel good, coming from her.

So I changed my Facebook profile, had a full length picture of myself as my profile picture. I felt great and validated when I got a decent amount of likes (this was a good while back!) Then an hour later I saw it. 'Some people just can't help themselves but to be a slut 🤷'. It felt targeted at me and she didn't talk to me when she next came to my friend's while I was there. I asked my friend who it was about and she said she didn't know. So, I lied and said some kid who used to hang around the houses had told me she'd overheard pretty woman talking about me...

My friend asked pretty woman if it was true and she looked shocked and she only said 'kid shouldn't be listening to her when she's talking to her friends!' which confirmed it. As did a year later, when they'd broke up, I bumped into her now ex husband and he said it had been about me and she hated me for flirting with him... All over a profile picture that she'd made me feel comfortable to go ahead with, just for her to absolutely smash me back down again.

I try to tell myself it wasn't about me, she and her ex had trust issues. I'd barely talked to him so no idea how she thought it was his benefit. I sometimes feel like reaching out to her, telling her I'm far from a slut, she'd made me feel good and I was glad to have received that compliment from her... But it'd be wasted as she's clearly horrible on the inside, despite how pretty she is. Still hurts though, feels like I should just keep myself hidden away to avoid any other weirdness from people.

In a pub with my friend playing pool and three guys standing nearby talking about us and how one of them was going to ask my friend out. His friend replied, oh great, guess im stuck with the chubby one. Having always been overweight that stung and although I'm quite gobby i wimped out and pretended not to hear it.

On a positive, at my works do this year the guy I've been crushing on for a while was having a conversation I overheard (i have freakishly bat like hearing) with another guy about which girl they would go for if we didn't work together and he said instantly, my name followed by she's gorgeous. The dancing when we got to the club that night definitely proved it wasn't just words 😂

I'm the same weight and size i was in the first story so it was a huge confidence boost even if nothing would happen because of working together!

One night when I was about 10, I couldn’t sleep and was reading. My mother came in, told me to settle down. I then overheard my father tell my mother that I would never achieve anything and I must get ‘it’ from her side as it certainly wasn’t from his whatever ‘it’ was. He always thought the worst of me right through his life but I survived and I achieved in spite of his opinions.

That’s disgraceful - in that situation I can only think that they were threatened by you in some way. Were you very good at art?

There are some very nasty people around with serious psychological issues. As I said earlier in the thread, the things these losers say are absolutely no reflection on you - THEY are the ones with problems.

An old family "friend" had accidently called my dad's cell phone and left three messages where she was ranting and raving about how incredibly spoilt I am and what a horrible daughter and human being I am.

This was after I had moved home for eight months to sort out the mess after my mother died and my father was in early stages of dementia. They left a complete financial and legal mess and three houses in various stages of hoarding.
I'm still working on it two years later. It felt very unfair, but I am glad that I heard what she said so I could cut contact.

Oh, she also used things I said in desperation while venting to her to call in council nurses, get dad into assisted living and try to sell his house behind my back. The nurses were very suprised to find dad's place in order, dad well taken care or and that he had a daughter who is very involved in his life - don't know what "friend" had told them.

It was a huge blow in an already incredibly stressful situation, will never forgive her.

Aged about 20, a much older bloke at work said about me: ‘There’s something about her that would put me off women for life.’ Charming. I was pretty, but assertive. Maybe that was why.

I unfortunately have all the mental load at home, as well as the stressful job which pays the bills. We have 3 kids of varying ages all requiring different things.For a long time my toddler didn’t sleep and only wanted me at night. My husband has severe ADHD and struggles with a lot of practical life admin. He works very hard in a minimum wage job. He does all the stuff he can do - driving the kids everywhere, a share of the cooking and cleaning etc. Theres lots he can’t do, eg homework help and financial stuff.

at a party in a pub with his group of friends (who I sort of know but not very well), I arrived late as I’d been somewhere else during the day. I went straight to the loo for a wee as I was bursting and to check my make-up. Whilst in a cubicle I overheard two women in this group comment on the thoughtful present my husband had brought the birthday girl (I had actually chosen and wrapped the present). They then commented on how fantastic my husband is and how they can’t believe he’s with someone so tired, ugly and boring as me. They commented on how much personality he has and how he brings such good vibes to every get-together they have. They felt sorry for him living with someone who is so uptight.

i kept it to myself but it goes to show that people often comment without really knowing the background info. When they came to our house for a bbq, I gave them both the fatty bits of meat when serving food. Petty but made me feel a bit better.

dance teacher talking to my mum when i was about 10 'she is going to have to watch her weight as she gets older, she has big bones' which basically gave me a hatred of my big bones and thinking I am fat for my whole life. Before that I really hadn't noticed.

Fucking hell - you invited them to your house for a barbeque after they’d called you fat, ugly and boring? What the hell is wrong with you?? You should’ve stormed out of that cubicle and ripped them both a new arsehole!!

What's the s word?

Spastic a poster said further up she overheard someone at school say she ran like a spastic.

I once heard a colleague talking to other colleagues saying he bet them £50 he could shag me in the car park.
I have no idea why he said it, I had never given any indication that I would shag any of them.

I overheard two grown women at the bus stop who i have never spoken to , say that the woman (me) who owns the salon thinks she's all that she too expensive and not that great , she started to collect for the local food Pantry just to get customers ,bet her business doesn't last .
10 years later still in the salon that wouldn't last , still collecting for the local food Pantry, still being all that !

I used to wet the bed often when I was a child and when I was about eight I'd wet the bed and my dad had got me up to the toilet and changed the sheets. I got back into bed but before I fell asleep I heard my mum ask him if I'd wet the bed again. He said I had and then I heard her say that she wished she'd never had me. That comment has always stuck with me. As an adult now, I'm sure my mum didn't mean it and probably forgot she'd even said it by the next day but hearing it as a child totally affected me.

Do people just generally tell you to your face that you're an insensitive humble bragger, then?

Two boys in highschool made comments while sitting next to me. "She's a carpenter's dream, flat as a board" and "a pirate's dream, sunken chest" I can't believe now that I allowed those comments to hurt my feelings. The funny thing is that at my 50th class reunion those guys were fat and disgusting and I was looking pretty hot(even with my small boobs)

I overheard my ex on a works call tell everyone he was at a friend's house. They were asking him where he was, as they obviously didn't recognise the background and he said he was at a friend's. We'd been together years at that point.