Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

YABU.

Can you link those fridge threads though? Sounds great.

Don't open the threads?

FWIW, I donate to food banks.

If all of mumsnet had to not offend anyone ever then it would be completely desolate here (and that level of censoring would of course offend someone). Also many of those on the fridge threads will have donated to food banks.

Having said that I haven’t clicked on a single fridge thread. Perfectly avoidable.

Don’t look if you don’t like them. Go onto the sex board. It’s free fun x

I'm sorry you're going without at any time of year. I would suggest for your own sanity maybe staying offline for a bit - part of Christmas for a lot of people is eating and drinking to excess.

Why open them? I’ve never opened a Christmas fridge thread. We have ham and pea soup on Christmas Eve. It’s a busy day for us, we will probably eat a bit too much on 25th, so have soup and a roll that evening.

Excess is tacky and wasteful by definition, whether food or gifts, but I don’t have to watch people do it.

Dont open the thread fridge

Why are you opening these threads then?

I haven’t seen any.

I’m not particularly interested in those threads and somehow manage to avoid them by not clicking. You could take the same approach?

A lot of people enjoy the threads and AFAIK they are within Talk Guidelines so YABU to try and dictate what’s posted. MN isn’t just for people who are struggling.

I hope things get better for you financially next year.

Mumsnet talks about all aspects of all sorts of peoples lives. If you don't like that, it probably isn't the right place for you.

Do you have the same reaction to people being photographed wearing new clothes? After all, some people rely on charity shops and hand me downs.

Many people have worked hard all year to have a full fridge and to host their loved ones. They are allowed to do this and derive joy from it.

But there’s threads about presents and holidays and “everyday bag for £1000”. Like just avoid them.

I get it’s upsetting but you are in control of what you look at. Maybe step away from Mumsnet for a bit?

Are there three threads? I live on MN and haven’t seen one.

YABU just don't read the threads if you don't want to.
You could use your logic to say people shouldn't post about their children because some people are infertile, shouldn't post about holidays because some can't afford them, shouldn't post about family members as some will be grieving.... There would literally be nothing to post about if the rules were only to discuss things absolutely everyone can have.

I haven’t seen any so they are clearly easy to avoid if they upset you that much.
Anything else we aren’t allowed to post about? Holidays, new clothes?

They are not that easily happened upon, you must seek them out.

I have used food banks.

I am scraping by. Bills are unpaid and debts are mounting.

YABU

This is where we have to develop some resilience, and learn to hide threads or not open them.

Nobody is rubbing anything in your face. No one is forcing you to take a tour of their fridge.

That said, I am sorry you find such threads upsetting. Maybe skip mumsnet at Christmas, or at least avoid active convos?

But many types of post reference something that the OP has that others might not.

Luxury holiday recommendations when others are skint are arguably more galling than some food in a fridge.

What about moaning about Mother’s Day gifts when some people have lost their mothers, or children.

You can’t censor posts like that just in case or they’d be no diversity of topics.

Why should the whole of MN have to adjust for you? Much easier for you to avoid the offensive threads.

The entirety of MN would dry up if we stopped posing about things that others don’t have or are jealous about. You mentioned your children in your post; what about those who can’t conceive and may find it painful to read about your kids. Etc.

ive not seen what u r talking about. Where r they?

I’m with op. I think overconsumption is wrong on so many levels. I’m not against those that can afford to eat and drink the best enjoying themselves, but what is upsetting is that many people get whipped up into a marketing induced frenzy and buy far more than they actually need.

i often go hungry and need to buy “essentials” ranges (which btw are often very good) and frequently look on in amazement at the cost of the trolley in front of me.. not envy, just reflective amazement.

I’ve been both sides, we had chicken nuggets one year as a struggling single mum. I worked a night shift that year on the 31st to make sure we could have a camping holiday.
now we have plenty, a utility room full of stuff but it doesn’t go without me remembering those years. It’s horrible but it will pass

Surely the issue is with you not being able to cope seeing such mentioned posts? You can't expect people to alter what they want to share incase it upsets you.
You are accusing others of being selfish but it is exactly what you are doing

Some people will have more than you and some will have less than you. That's just life. There would be many who are jealous of everything you have that you've mentioned in your post and would feel you're very lucky and be upset they're not as lucky.