Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

[TempNameForObviousReasons]

I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

No.

I wanted to shout it to the world that I had a full fridge, fruit basket, drinks chilling on the balcony and 5kg sacks of rice and pasta in the coal bunker with 22.5kg of potatoes, 5kgs of red and brown onions, a tub of herbs on the windowsill and could easily feed both my children for two weeks instead of sending them to their father's from the afternoon of the 25th until school resumed because I did not have the money to feed them on what I earned working in the NHS after paying rent, bills and childminding fees. It looked wonderful. It all tasted wonderful. It was the first time I had ever felt secure about food and I would have loved other people to see how happy I was.

I still enjoy seeing the threads because I still remember that first Christmas Eve where I had made it through the year. Which is pretty much what midwinter celebrations have always been, after all.

The idea that having a stock of food that could insulate you from bad weather, payroll fuck ups, businesses going under on payday and benefit errors is nothing to be joyful about and should be stopped because it's 'bragging' is about as tone deaf as it gets.

Nah I'm going for bun fight.

Most people don't deliberately seek out threads and then start a TAAT berating everyone for posting on them, when it's really really easy to just hide them.

Unless you think being on the bone of your arse turns everyone into a bitter killjoy?

Because for the vast majority it doesn't.

Who made you click on them?

@TempNameForObviousReasons

Just click hide when you see them. Then they are gone.

Hope you have a ok Christmas.

Stop clicking on them then

It’s quite easy to avoid such threads. I haven’t seen any.

In case you didn’t know, it is possible to hide threads from Active without clicking on them - there’s a little minus sign next to the thread title. Then they shouldn’t show for you any more.

Just hide them.

I see them, and I have about a fifth of what they have (in my fridge.) Do I care? Nope. Don't give a shit.

Then don't use Active?

Or don't open them...

Honestly it's ENTIRELY on you

I only saw them because of this post

By the way, if I knew you in person, I would happily take you to my full fridge and give you enough food for the week, along with some treats. Because I know what it's like to be cold and hungry.

You will not be able to take my joy in not being in the place anymore, though.

Thank you for sharing. I have never seen those threads on here, but then I don’t really come on here unless I’m bored!

How People choose to live and spend their money is their choice, and maybe they have saved into a club at work, or saved their Clubcard points, or saved on the Iceland bonus points the whole year for this holiday.

Personally, when our children were younger, I used to save a few pounds a week for Christmas, thus Christmas the children are away with their children, we are having soup Christmas Eve, egg chips and beans for Christmas Day breakfast, homemade vegetable curry for dinner, and probably bubble and squeak - my husbands favourite - for tea.

Lidl are doing bags of veg for 5p, so get have a lovely lovely vegetarian Christmas for a pound or two.

I’m sorry OP, I can easily imagine how you must be feeling. I’ve been there in years gone by.

I hope 2026 gets better for you, and that this time next year this is just a memory. I’m proof that things can change for the better, and change on a sixpence, so keep the faith.

And remember - your kids won’t remember what they had for Christmas Eve tea, or even what Father Christmas did or didn’t bring. They’ll remember their mam, and snuggling up together to share that box of celebrations; they won’t remember any lack.

Happy Christmas to you all.

You are being unreasonable.

A lot of people have saved all year for Christmas and they are entitled to enjoy it and discuss it and share it.

You dont get to dictate what people do just because you dont like it.

You can just not open the threads.

Sorry but you have just been really rude and insulting about a bunch of normal people who are basically just excited about Christmas.

I say this as someone who has never commented on, or even seen, a fridge thread.

Clearly so she could look at the content of the threads, and then come onto AIBU and create a thread complaining about them! 😂

Do people actually share photos of their full fridges? That’s almost as boring as peoples ’Christmas Present pile’ pictures.

Why can’t people just live their lives without needing to share this nonsense online??

The only reason why we'll be having a good Christmas food wise this year is through a £100 grant from a charity. If the Christmas fridge threads upset me (they don't, not all people struggling feel the same way) I would simply not open them.

It's your responsibility not to open threads that trigger you.

I enjoy them and don't believe they are about greed. It's a bit like watching a Christmas cooking programme. I am sorry you are struggling, though and wish you a better time in the new year.

You can hide threads if that helps?

Love cats. They’re great therapists. We should celebrate them especially at Christmas 🐈‍⬛❤️

YABU read a different thread.

do we need to ban luxury cars now in case you see one and it makes you feel poor? There will always be people with more than you. There will always be people with less than you. It’s life

Are you kidding?

Being skint and resorting to foodbanks, when you’re a parent and want to give your kids the whole world, doesn’t sap
your joy?? Couldn’t possibly make you feel angry, and defeated, and like lashing out?

I think the person looking for a bun fight has Tinsel Tits.

Would you say the same about people posting pictures of their kids’ present piles on social media?
Not picking on you in particular, it’s just that you see so many threads on here about how gauche and vulgar it is when people post pictures of the children’s present piles (that I assume they’re also saved all year for), yet photos of fridges filled with treat food is ok?

To see them you have to open them. Don't open them. Problem solved.

It doesn't turn you into a condescending killjoy as a rule no.

Newsflash: Plenty of us have been on the bones of our arses and are genuinely happy for those who are not.

How have I been on MN so long and never seen these threads?

@TempNameForObviousReasons if you think so ill of them, have you posted on the actual threads to tell them so?

You don't have to "log on" and go to active. Just Google AIBU or Mumsnet Chat and go from there.

Anyway - no, it is not one day. My fridge is overflowing because all three of us are at home for most meals until 6th Jan so we already started on the food!