Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

I agree that the OP can just avoid the threads. Goes without saying really. Just wondering why one is considered vulgar and braggy but the other is ok? (I think both are vulgar and braggy FWIW)

I’m just baffled as to why anyone wants to take a picture of the bloody fridge! Let alone post it for anyone else to nose at. Bonkers.

We could put this thread to good use and post about all the food in our fridges.

As this thread is clearly a windup. Temp name for obvious reasons is about right.

I had a heart transplant earlier this year and am immune suppressed, and as a result all that cured meat, cheese, smoked salmon I’m no longer allowed to eat because it poses an infection risk is deeply offensive and I demand that people stop talking about it.

Please can MN HQ ban the use of the words salami and smoked salmon forthwith.

I don’t like greed and I don’t like food waste .
I do however like treats and nice food ( don’t drink alcohol) so while I won’t have a stuffed fridge , I will enjoy something different from our usual day to day food we have and desserts which we rarely have .
sorry you’re having a tough time xx

The cheek of OP telling people what they can and can't post on here! Fuck. Right. Off.

Agreed. Both are obscene. I find the rich people type ones less obscene than the look at the 200 parcels of tat wrapped in pink fluff for my little princess thats sweatshop primark tat that will be chucked out in a few weeks. At least the Hermes bag was made by a well paid adult and will be loved forever.

You took the words out of my mouth! I’ve seen threads about dresses where people are suggesting ones that are indeed of pounds and the poster is even looking at those price ranges - not my life and I couldn’t afford that however we’re all different so I just don’t read them and the posters are doing nothing wrong at all. We’re all different, we all walk different lives and sadly there will always be situations where people are better off than others but that’s how it is

Maybe it’s the same people who take pictures of their dinner as per the “DH told SIL to fucking grow up” thread. ;)

You made it sound as if these threads have thousands of replies and photos.

OP it is possible to hide entire topics in 'settings'.
Settings -> talk settings -> manage hidden threads and topics.
Select 'Christmas' and press HIDE.

I am sending you best wishes because I have been on the bones of my arse in the past and it stings, horribly.

Ah OP - I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time - Xmas makes it all feel so much tougher.

I get the posters on mumsnet just sharing in a lighthearted way (saw the threads - no caviar or anything ridiculous). I think people are just excited to treat themselves and have a few extra things over Xmas.

I also think people don’t understand poverty (and you truly don’t unless you’ve been properly hard up or on UC making every penny count.)

I hope you have a lovely Xmas with your family and experience what it’s all about being with each other and can focus on that rather than comparing.

Love a fridge thread off to have a look ❤️❤️❤️

Oh ffs. Stop looking if you don’t like them. I recognise the username though. 🙄

Ive just had a look. I can see why that would upset you op. All this lovely meaninful joyful chatter and pictures of food bursting. It must be so painful. People have no idea.

One day itll be you though and you’ll appreciate it more than most people.

Not being goady, I promise, but I’m on here daily and I’ve literally never seen - let alone clicked on - a ‘Christmas fridge’ thread!

I’m truly sorry for your situation, genuinely, and I agree that a lot of SM blather about Christmas is just displays of obscene consumption, but it’s really not difficult to completely avoid it all - which I do, along with multiple other threads on topics that I’ll swerve instantly just from their titles. I don’t think other people should be prevented from starting or contributing to them, though.

Oh I entirely agree, both are shit. I was just wondering why the threads about big present piles attract so many people agreeing that it’s vulgar etc, but the reaction to the fridge threads is entirely different. They’re both the same in my eyes.

I imagine those who have no issues with a fridge thread are also less likely to have issues with a present pile thread.

I wouldn't post pictures in either one but as I said, would simply just ignore them.

When I was a teenager, I had a weekend job in Asda and I can remember feeling rage - RAGE - when a man came in just before Christmas and spent about £250 on wine. The things I said in my head were unspeakable. I just about stopped short of wishing him dead, I was that bothered by it.

Now I have become the person who spends hundreds on wine, food, gifts etc, and someone somewhere would doubtless feel that way about me. The point is, you don't know what anyone's life has been like, just because you see a full fridge today. People who have been poor never forget it. And speaking for myself, I am ten times more likely to stuff my fridge and buy wastefully because I can and because I remember those days. And I am still envious of people who are the 'next level up' etc, etc.

Haven’t seen any 🤷‍♀️

I think YABU - I didn’t have a relationship with my Father but I don’t moan about Father’s Day threads.

I’m in the middle of a divorce and spending Christmas on my own, but I don’t moan about threads that mention family Christmas plans or relationships.

I mean, no-one would ever be able to post a thread about anything? Personally, I’m not in the least bit interested in people’s fridge contents so I just don’t click on the thread…

A few years ago I was relying on food banks, This year my situation is completely different and I donated £200 worth of groceries & £100 of Christmas sweeties to our local foodbank. Doesn't last forever ♥️

But YABU. Just don't click on them.

What are you on about, I've never seen one post about people's fridges or contents.

And even if there were loads of these posts, which there aren't, why shouldn't people be allowed to show things that they are excited about because you're in a less fortunate position? Should we also not show our holidays, our kids, our engagement rings????

Dont know if this is helpful or not went tesco today and brocoli, parsnips, carrots, potato's, brussles all 15p - i got it all for 75p which i thought was decent. I know it costs money in electricity to cook and I dont know your finances so not trying to spend your money... just thought it might be useful information.

Also it is very glutenous to post all the food you have, but for some they save all year for these luxuries so I wouldn't begrudge anyone the overflowing fridge if thats what they have saved for and chose to spend on - there are so many things that dont need to be posted on the Internet, including piles of presents but each to their own. You have to protect your own wellbeing and filter what you are seeing OP

OP, my financial situation has fluctuated over the years. I’ve swung between having very little, not knowing where the next meal is coming from, to being much more comfortable. When I was struggling, it never crossed my mind to begrudge others having more. And I was hungry, so I certainly wouldn’t have opened a thread to read with a title like the example you posted. To do so would have felt like a form of self torture.

I hope your situation improves very soon. In the meantime, I strongly suggest you don’t expose yourself needlessly to things that will upset you. Including mn threads.

YANBU i hate seeing our fridge at Christmas. I feel guilty thinking about the waste and excess. We get given meat from my husbands job. (Gift from boss) I will see if the food banks take it. It’s obscene the level of greed and waste that goes on at this time of year. Ps I love Christmas and am not tight with what we have. I just feel it’s unjust and out of proportion. I try to give away what I can.