Will everyone please STOP the extremely tone deaf 'Christmas Fridge' threads

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I see these multiple threads every single year and they drive me bonkers. The four days leading up to Christmas Day my feed is inundated with all the stuffed fridges, it's a complete and utter disgrace. Not just a few posters but sometimes literally hundreds of you all joining in with these enormous overflowing fridges, it's barbaric and in incredibly poor taste. I have already seen THREE seperate fridge threads today alone, it's scandalous... please people just think about what you are doing by jumping on this bandwagon. Now I take this a bit personally and here is why.... There are people in this world who are starving and many families, mine included, are having to rely on food banks this year just to keep our children fed. As in dippy eggs and soldiers on Xmas eve. Many of us are in a dire state with finances and the pressures of Xmas. The fridge threads are incredibly upsetting and triggering. By all means have a nice christmas dinner with all the trimmings but why post it and rub it in the faces of those less fortunate? They will be very lucky to scrape together a very basic dinner for the family this year?

I so look forward to seeing everybody's gluttonous greed in full swing, fridges stuffed full of obscene amounts of food and alcohol that will most likely go to waste. (And waistlines. The greed of Christmas it's all totally out of control and I despair)
All the cheese boards, cheesecakes, cheeselets, and on and on and on.
Honestly I wish MNHQ would BAN the threads, they cause many people anguish and distress.
It is one day so please keep some perspective or even better, pop a selection pack or some small treats in a collection trolley to help all the fantastic homeless charities and food banks ensure more people can enjoy a sweet treat on christmas day.

(Thanks to my local foodbank and those who kindly donated, at least me and my children have a lovely box of celebrations that I will bring out on Christmas Day for us) 🙂

Good for you @LilyBunch25 but not everybody batch cooks, especially at Christmas.

For most of the year MN mostly muddles along together and then at Christmas the divide is right there up and centre.

So there are numerous threads about million pound houses, renovations, expensive handbags, investments, pensions, 6 fig jobs, holidays. There’s even a board just for private education. But the divide is only noticeable on a fridge thread at Christmas?!

I do think that threads can be surprisingly ‘triggering’. But I do tend to avoid them. My husband has just lost his job. I avoid clicking on any threads about jobs just for my own mental health. I don’t expect others not to post about that topic though.

OP ignorance is bliss here. I hope things are better for you in 2026 and that next Xmas is less stressful for you.

You also have no idea whether people have scrimped, saved and sacrificed throughout the year to be able to afford a full fridge at Christmas. Why shouldn’t they be able to chat about it. All this ‘be sensitive, be kind’ shite rearing its head again. The OP simply wanted to make drama and get attention. That much is obvious from her use of language…..referring to gluttony, greed etc etc. simply because someone has chosen to post on a Christmas food thread. Maybe she should rephrase her own language and judgements before policing others.

Thanks for posting this. So much rubbish is talked and written about people on UC "living it up" at the expense of the taxpayer etc.

This whole attitude of 'no one can post anything which may personally offend MEEEEEE' - so selfish.

I lost my father at christmas a couple of years ago, do I resent people posting about fathers at this time, or on father's day, no.

Why is no one questioning the desperate need for validation so many people have on here

This doesn’t make any sense. MNs wouldn’t exist if people were not looking for validation! Aren’t you yourself looking for validation that your way of thinking is correct? Why comment at all to if not?

Having read some of the OP’s previous comments on other threads, I am not sure she is quite that kind and considerate herself. Some of her opinions and comments are really quite unpleasant.

Her posting history doesn't necessarily invalidate this one but it is relevant because she’s now trying to police how others respond, having previously shown little restraint in her own posts.

Where is the OP?

I was foolishly giving the OP the benefit of the doubt and feeling some sympathy. Having seen how she speaks to other people on threads, that has now evaporated.

Probably toddled off when the posts about her expensive dental treatment came to light

Trying to get MN to delete this thread, I think.

Oh dear. It’s a bit of fun.

I had to search for the fridge thread and found it eventually. Whoever started it was very pleased about it, went on about how good it is to have a Christmas fridge thread.

When I scrolled down and read some of the posts, I honestly did not see the point of it. What is interesting about a fridge with food in it.? It doesn't strike me as a discussion subject. However each to their own, it's harmless enough.

Op, you have my sympathy, it is sad that you are in such a position and not just at Christmas. However fridge threads are extrenely easy to avoid. I would not have looked for one if this thread hadn't been started and I only saw one.

Having such things rammed in your face every time you ccme on Mumsnet is a bit of an exaggeration.

I'd never seen this before! Checked a few of your links Op. All I can say, some are badly packed and lots of the food will be past it's sell by date by then! And their Turkey will be rancid! 🫣

i love the fridge threads purely because I’m a nosey bastard and want to see, and I have thankfully never been an envious type so can look at what you’ve all bought without wishing it for myself.
I do mentally rearrange a few though!

This was my first thought, the cold air is supposed to be able to circulate as well

Sweeping chimneys

The Christmas fridge threads are a MN staple. They've appeared on this site for years and years, and for as long as I can remember the objections have been around, too. They're not on a conspicuous area of the site. As others pointed out they're also clearly labelled and located where they're very unlikely to be mistaken for anything else.

It's therefore reasonable to deduce that those posters avid to tell other women off for their lack of 'taste' - the cardinal sin on MN - are seeking them out deliberately as an excuse to issue their queenly rebukes from the moral high ground.

Look at the language in the OP. The hyperbolic 'barbaric', 'incredibly poor taste', and 'scandalous' appear within the space of two sentences, followed closely by 'anguish', 'distress' and 'triggering' and a request for MN to BAN these threads.

No one has an automatic right to go through life and not be offended. We are adults, with ultimate responsibility for managing or avoiding our personal 'triggers'. We don't get to palm this off on others, whether in good faith or as a wonderful excuse to piss on other people's chips.

I know which I think this post is.

Probably upset that her ill disguised begging thread has gone awry.

What I have enjoyed are the fits of vapours about what is seemly and couth according to the Debrette's of Mumsnet.

It's a social media site. The whole idea is to compare lives.

It's to do with the Tetris skills required to fit it in!

We have 7 extra people (we're 4) on both Christmas Day and Boxing Day this year. My fridge will be very full indeed catering for this many. It's not gluttony to want to ensure your guests are well catered for.

I say 'mostly' you read 'only'.

See what I mean? That's the bad faith argument I was referring to.

As people seem to be so VERY keen to tell the OP, if you don't like a thread, just hide it.

I haven’t seen any show off your fridge threads. Personally, I’d have no interest in showing off the contents of my fridge to anyone, which is actually very full at the moment because two of my adult children are home for Christmas and so we’ve extra food to cater for them as well as guests coming over on a few occasions. Yes, we also have nice cheeses, etc but we’ve done an extra large shop so we don’t have to go near a supermarket over the next week or so. Our fridge isn’t particularly large anyway. None of what’s in it will go to waste and won’t contribute to any excess eating.

I’m sorry you’re going through a difficult time, perhaps it’s time to step away from the Christmas threads for a bit.

Speaking of rubbish, growing consensus appears that the OP might not have posted in good faith.