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Original poster

to think that he should mind his own bloody business.....

284 replies

pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 09:38

I rushed to nursery this morning to drop DD off and as usual there were no spaces but there was a lovely big disabled one. I nipped in there, dropped DD off and ran back out to the car (I must have only been 5 minutes tops!), jumped in, popped the car into reverse and this old man holding a toddler jumped behind my car and started banging on the window.

The stupid idiot could have got himself and the child killed. I slammed the anchors on to avoid hitting him and then the penny dropped - I was about to get an ear bashing (in front of a busy nusery, full of people).

I wound down the window and he was off 'have you got a blue badge?' to which I replied, 'no I haven't thanks but I'm in a rush - good day to you'. I did up the window and tried to drive off. He junped in front of the car again - still holding the child so I carefully manouvered around him and drove off to see him shaking his fist and shouting.

Now, I know I shouldn't have parked there as I'm not disabled but if he was actually disabled himself then how on earth was he able to find the energy/mobility to run and jump behind and in front of my car all the time holding a toddler.May be he wants a badge so badly that he was willing to be run over in order to qualify!!!! Some people make me so mad. It's hard work trying to get DD to nursery (it opens at 8) and to get to work on time (I start at 8.30 and the journey can take up to 45 minutes depending on traffic) without having to stop and deal with some idiot who thinks he's a traffic warden, is clearly retired and probably has all the time in the world!!!!

I'm sure there are some that don't agree with me but I had to vent my frustration and I'm hoping there are some other working mothers out there who are also pushed for time, who can sympathise with me.

Oh, and I will park there again if there are no spaces and it saves me loosing my job.

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cupsoftea · 11/06/2008 10:19

It's for a disabled badge holder - you shouldn't park there. There's a sign that says park here, take my disability - this should be in your face everytime you park there. No excuse on being late for work.

BoyzntheShire · 11/06/2008 10:21

ROFL at OP's assumption shed get some sympathy on here!! [grin

dozy tart

juuule · 11/06/2008 10:21

Why isn't getting up earlier an option? I don't understand that. Could you drop her at your mum's early and your mum take her to nursery while you get off to work. If not maybe you could drop her early at a childminders who could take her to nursery so you could get to work on time.

fryalot · 11/06/2008 10:21

my troll-dar is deffo off kilter, isn't it!

sorry for suspecting your motives, PPP.
(but I do think you were wrong, fwiw )

CrushWithEyeliner · 11/06/2008 10:22

ppp you know you were wrong and this guy sounds like a stupid fule to step in front of a car with a baby. But don't beat yourself up - and ignore the horrid comments on here, we all have off days as long as you don't do it every day defiantly..

Kewcumber · 11/06/2008 10:22

but that wasn;t your main argument? Your post said "he should mind his own bloody business"

herbietea · 11/06/2008 10:24

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eenybeeny · 11/06/2008 10:25

there is no ganging up or nastiness Gateau. People are responding legitemately to a grown woman acting like a spoilt child. Most of us tending to agree that she is very wrong does not equate to us ganging up on her. She asked our opinion and she is getting it.

cory · 11/06/2008 10:26

I find it very likely that he was minding his own bloody business. If you had a disabled family member you would know would know that it is a business that takes a lot of minding.

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juuule · 11/06/2008 10:26

And it's not illegal for ANYONE to park in p+t space (maybe inconsiderate) but it is for you to park in a disabled space (as well as being inconsiderate).

fryalot · 11/06/2008 10:27

Tis a variation on the "AIBU" "yes" "feck off" type of thread.

Tis now a "AIBU" "yes" "oh, ok, won't do it again" and someone else piles in and says "feck off" thread.

lazarou · 11/06/2008 10:28

The thing about parent and child spaces is that if able bodied people do park in them, then where are disabled people supposed to park if the disabled spaces are full?

Teuch · 11/06/2008 10:28

pop, pop, pop...

really, I am not sure which was your greatest error of judgement; using the disabled space or posting on MN about it

I will give you the benefit of doubt due to pregnancy brain

You'll never live this down you realise!

eenybeeny · 11/06/2008 10:32

what I dislike most about PPP's posts is her total lack of compassion or remorse for being selfish. She is making light of it and cracking little jokes and crossing out funny words and generally acting like the world revolves around her.

I was ill really really ill when I was pregnant with DS and I never ever took a disabled space. I would have been too ashamed.

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pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 10:33

For those who don't agree with me but have been polite, then thanks for pointing out to me that I was in the wrong.

For those who don't agree with me and who were rude and nasty to me then I hope that you feel better for all your name calling.

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Gateau · 11/06/2008 10:34

Sorry, but I disagree. There has been nastiness on here - but you have your opinins and I'll have mine about that.
Yes, most of us are very annoyed at what ppp has done, but some of the posts have a rather nasty way of telling her.

herbietea · 11/06/2008 10:35

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pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 10:36

Thanks Gateau. I suppose its no different to listening to the school bullies in the playground except they can't hit me on here.

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eenybeeny · 11/06/2008 10:36

actually you did a lot of name calling to the old man in question without knowing his motives. So please dont try to take the higher ground here. This is an emotive subject and anyone with an ounce of common sense knows that it is an emotive subject and would not be so flippant about it. You can not just do whatever you like and then act all wounded when people get upset about it. We are not all obliged to hold hands and be nicey nicey no matter what anyone does.

kayzisexpecting · 11/06/2008 10:37

No matter what the OP did she did not deserve the nasty name calling and having Cappacino threatening violence. That post has been reported.

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CrushWithEyeliner · 11/06/2008 10:37

PPP don't sweat it honestly we are all allowed to mess up esp when PG you didn't do anything evil ffs

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pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 10:37

I called him an idiot for putting his grandson at risk. Being called a troll, dozy tart etc is somewhat more personal.

Don't get too excited though, I'm not crying!

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eenybeeny · 11/06/2008 10:38

If you define nasty as getting upset and angry at someone behaving like this then yes I have been nasty as have others. But to me nasty means treating someone badly when it is unprevooked.

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