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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that he should mind his own bloody business.....

284 replies

pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 09:38

I rushed to nursery this morning to drop DD off and as usual there were no spaces but there was a lovely big disabled one. I nipped in there, dropped DD off and ran back out to the car (I must have only been 5 minutes tops!), jumped in, popped the car into reverse and this old man holding a toddler jumped behind my car and started banging on the window.

The stupid idiot could have got himself and the child killed. I slammed the anchors on to avoid hitting him and then the penny dropped - I was about to get an ear bashing (in front of a busy nusery, full of people).

I wound down the window and he was off 'have you got a blue badge?' to which I replied, 'no I haven't thanks but I'm in a rush - good day to you'. I did up the window and tried to drive off. He junped in front of the car again - still holding the child so I carefully manouvered around him and drove off to see him shaking his fist and shouting.

Now, I know I shouldn't have parked there as I'm not disabled but if he was actually disabled himself then how on earth was he able to find the energy/mobility to run and jump behind and in front of my car all the time holding a toddler.May be he wants a badge so badly that he was willing to be run over in order to qualify!!!! Some people make me so mad. It's hard work trying to get DD to nursery (it opens at 8) and to get to work on time (I start at 8.30 and the journey can take up to 45 minutes depending on traffic) without having to stop and deal with some idiot who thinks he's a traffic warden, is clearly retired and probably has all the time in the world!!!!

I'm sure there are some that don't agree with me but I had to vent my frustration and I'm hoping there are some other working mothers out there who are also pushed for time, who can sympathise with me.

Oh, and I will park there again if there are no spaces and it saves me loosing my job.

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magicfarawaytree · 11/06/2008 09:51

PPP ... PUT THE THREAD DOWN AND WALK AWAY! -do a search on disabled parking or p&tvparking ........

bozza · 11/06/2008 09:52

A lot of the posters appear to have missed the point. Nursery opens at 8, the OP starts work at 8.30 and has a 45 min journey. It doesn't work. So no wonder she is stressed in a morning. I think you need to rethink either your childcare or your hours. Or you could arrive at nursery early to ensure you get a space and sit in the car for a while. We always get people parking on the zigzag lines at our nursery and it annoys me.

bruhaha · 11/06/2008 09:52

YABU and ignorant both my parents are disabled and it makes my blood boil when people park in disabled spaces without a blue badge - normally because they are too lazy to find a normal space or they have a big car and can't park it properly.

lulumama · 11/06/2008 09:53

you need to get up earlier

you are not the only person in the world who has to get a toddler ready and get somewhere on time

disabled spaces are there for those who have been assessed and given a badge, not for able bodied people who get up too late to get to work on time

if you are bothered about not losing your job, instead of using disabled spaces, get up 15 minutes earlier

i cannot believe you are being self righteous about it

i have done the rushing to nursery with a toddler , i sympathise with that, but i do not sympathise with your stadnpoint that disabled spaces are there for your convenience

lazarou · 11/06/2008 09:53

The nursery that ds used to go to allowed some kids to go in at 7.30am for a little bit more money.

memoo · 11/06/2008 09:54

have to agree, you shouldn't have parked there. what if you tried to park in a mother and baby space only to find they were all taken up by people with no kids? You be cross then they shouldn't have parked there, just the same as you shouldn't have parked in the disabled bay

herbietea · 11/06/2008 09:54

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Tonightsthenight · 11/06/2008 09:54

OP if you were such a special case (as you so clearly seem to think you are) then the nursery would be equipped with "busy working mother just popping in for 5 minutes" spaces.

They are not, because grown adults are expected to manage their commitments without shitting all over the needs of the disabled.

Your attitude disgusts me, get the fuck over yourself.

Cappuccino · 11/06/2008 09:54

no bozza I haven't missed the point

I don't care what her half-assed, badly organised childcare arrangements are

they are still not more important than other people's lives

coppertop · 11/06/2008 09:55

I think it's great that people who are able-bodied (if the man really was) understand the importance of disabled parking spaces not being misused. If more people did this then maybe lazy drivers would stop using those spaces and would get out of the mindset that being ignorant and lazy is comparable to being disabled.

Kewcumber · 11/06/2008 09:56

I have to drop off DS at 7.45 and travel for an hour to get to work. I've never parked in a disabled bay.

My mum has a blue badge and can't walk without pain. You are being unreasonable and whats more, you know you are, I'm just not sure why you feel the need to crow about it in front of a group which includes people that need those spaces. (His actions are irrelevant to how unreasonable you were).

If this is your general attitude, losing your job (IMVHO) won't be because you're 5 mins late occasionally but for more fundamental reasons.

Apt name - you sound like a spoilt princess.

NotABanana · 11/06/2008 09:57

You were wrong to park there.

He was incredibly stupid to risk life and limb to his child and himself.

You don't need this stress when you are pregnant so get up earlier or get better organised. Maybe walk to nursery and then go back for your car?

lazarou · 11/06/2008 09:57

There was no need for the op to park in the space, and there was no need for the man to be so aggressive, while holding a child.

End of

Good day to you

spicemonster · 11/06/2008 09:58

She needs to choose a nursery closer to work then. Sorry no sympathy. I am very clear to my employers that I physically cannot be in the office before 8.45 as nursery doesn't open until 8am.

I don't care what your excuse is, you don't park in disabled spaces. Ever.

BeauLocks · 11/06/2008 09:58

Presumably the OP thinks that because this man was (apparently) not disabled he had no right to have a go at her.

What warped logic.

bozza · 11/06/2008 09:58

No, I mean the people who say get up earlier have missed the point. Whatever she does (including parking in a disabled space) will not make a 45 min journey last 30 mins. I am not saying that there is any reason at all for her to be parking in a disabled space.

wb · 11/06/2008 09:58

Is this a piss-take?

Just in case its for real - YABVU. I hope he really embarrassed you.

As for minding his business - its everybodies business to ensure fairs fair. Parking in a disabled bay with no blue badge is NOT fair.

madamez · 11/06/2008 09:58

Still, the man was a self-righteous officious fuckwit who endangered the toddler he was carrying.

memoo · 11/06/2008 09:59

Don't mean to be rude but if your work is so important and you're worried about getting sacked, how come you can find the time to be posting on mumsnet? just interested

ByTheSea · 11/06/2008 10:00

YABU. How rude can you get?

I would never park in a disabled (or P&T for that matter) space just because I would only be a minute or was running late. Those spaces are there for those who need them.

Cappuccino · 11/06/2008 10:00

no madamez he was not

he was a bloke incensed by someone behaving like a moron

we need more of 'em imo, rather than people who don't say anything at all

herbietea · 11/06/2008 10:02

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pagwatch · 11/06/2008 10:02

perhaps he has a disabled child or parent or partner.
If I was on my own with my DD you would probably have wondered why it was my business too - but me DS has enough problems without people being frickin inconsiderate.

I ahd to manage nursery with DD and diasbled DS too.I also had to manage two school runs whilst pregnant.
Get up earlier and stop making excuses.

juuule · 11/06/2008 10:04

How did he endanger the toddler? Surely the driver of a car checks all around before moving off and surely the driver wouldn't carry on moving if there was someone in the car's path. Or was the driver being so self-obsessed that she was a danger to others?
The man was right to challenge the driver.

Original poster
pregnantpopcornprincess · 11/06/2008 10:06

Yep - holding the child. Stupid man - no matter how angry I was, I would never put my child at risk!!

I'm not looking for sympathy and I know I should'nt have parked there and ok - I won't do it again. I will endeavour to get up earlier (not easy considering this pregnancy is knocking me for 6)and try not to get stuck behind a tractor when trying to get to nursery and promise to be a good citizen.

Tis only a space though and he was a stupid old bugger{{runs away before the beating starts}}

LOVE YOU TOO KAY!!!

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