to think that he should mind his own bloody business.....

[pregnantpopcornprincess]

I rushed to nursery this morning to drop DD off and as usual there were no spaces but there was a lovely big disabled one. I nipped in there, dropped DD off and ran back out to the car (I must have only been 5 minutes tops!), jumped in, popped the car into reverse and this old man holding a toddler jumped behind my car and started banging on the window.

The stupid idiot could have got himself and the child killed. I slammed the anchors on to avoid hitting him and then the penny dropped - I was about to get an ear bashing (in front of a busy nusery, full of people).

I wound down the window and he was off 'have you got a blue badge?' to which I replied, 'no I haven't thanks but I'm in a rush - good day to you'. I did up the window and tried to drive off. He junped in front of the car again - still holding the child so I carefully manouvered around him and drove off to see him shaking his fist and shouting.

Now, I know I shouldn't have parked there as I'm not disabled but if he was actually disabled himself then how on earth was he able to find the energy/mobility to run and jump behind and in front of my car all the time holding a toddler.May be he wants a badge so badly that he was willing to be run over in order to qualify!!!! Some people make me so mad. It's hard work trying to get DD to nursery (it opens at 8) and to get to work on time (I start at 8.30 and the journey can take up to 45 minutes depending on traffic) without having to stop and deal with some idiot who thinks he's a traffic warden, is clearly retired and probably has all the time in the world!!!!

I'm sure there are some that don't agree with me but I had to vent my frustration and I'm hoping there are some other working mothers out there who are also pushed for time, who can sympathise with me.

Oh, and I will park there again if there are no spaces and it saves me loosing my job.

Jesus there ARE worse things you can do than park in a disabled bay. Bit of perspective here. She was wrong but that doesn't mean she needs a public hanging for 5 mins in the wrong bay.

too true. but that is a different thread. this was one about parking in a disabled bay and calling somone names for telling you off.

"Any sympathy for PPP seems to be construed as an attack on the rights of the disabled - not true. But I think we need to give a bit more understanding of working mothers and the pressures they face daily in a society with some of the highest childcare costs in the world. We have all been there racing to work, trying to get reluctant toddlers to nursery whilst pregnant, etc etc...."

so why not be a sahm, and then everybody's happy...........

[Laz stirs the pot some more]

Herbietea, I am sincerely sorry to hear about your situation and I would be so pissed off if I was caring for a disabled child and saw some woman flouncing into a disabled bay. I never defended her use of the bay at all but I think her pregnancy gives her SOME justification in making a poor decision.

Lazarou, i did become a SAHM after DD2 cos I couldn't hack it anymore and couldn't afford the childcare

Both my parents are disabled and it drivers me to distractions when people park in disabled bays when they shouldn't. My dad can not carry anything and my mum can not walk far so the disabled bays near shops etc are a lifeline for them and they could not go out with out them. However I find it disgraceful that the op has been threatened (It does not matter that the BULLY does not know who she is or where she is, a threat of violence under any circumstances is unacceptable in this day and age), and been called really awful names.

Yes she was very wrong and I totally understand people telling her so but the viciousness of some posters is way OTT and utterly disgusting.

i dont think pregnancy does give any justifiction IMO.

am 16 weeks pregnant myself, suffering morning sickness and spent yesterday at st thomas's having a heart scan done on my baby, which i have to repeat it 6 weeks time. i am a carer for my disabled dh, plus 3 other dd's/ i do NOT abuse disabled bays. i only use them when my dh is with me.

misdee! I have been awol from MN for a while and didn't realise you were pg again! Congratulations!

thank you

My MIL regularly uses her mother's disabled badge to park in spaces even when she doesn't have her mother with her because she says she's doing her shopping for her.

Some people just don't get it, do they?

Why on earth, op, should he have to prove to you that he's disabled??? I'll be sure to get you to check out my neices stoma next time we need to use the space at the hospital, check it meets your standards. And I'll remind her to look a bit more 'disabled' next time, incase we have to justify it to anyone, jeez....

Erm....call me thick if you like, but the overall thrust of this thread seems to be:

OP: Am I Being Unreasonable?

Everyone Else: YES!

OP: Oh, ok, sorry then, I now realise I was being unreasonable

Lots of other people: Tough, we're still going to go on and on and on at you and talk about you as if you had committed mass murder.

does that sound fair? You wouldn't treat a child who'd done wrong like this - you'd accept their apology and then move on.

Yes what she did was dumb and stupid and really annoying for disabled people. But you know what? She knows that now.

End of.

LittleMyDancing, you're right. I'd not read the whole thread so didn't see OP saying she was wrong etc.

Can I just go off on a tangent on this thread? PPP has accepted that she is wrong to park in a disabled space, but now I'd like to address the issue of getting to work on time when your work is 30 minutes away and it takes you 45 minutes to drive.

So how d'you do that then? D'you speed, by any chance?

I think she originally said 'can take up to 45 minutes depending on traffic'

but hey, why not, let's crucify her some more.

I don't think it's crucifying her to ask her if she speeds to work. I'm just very surprised she hasn't been challenged on that and the fact that she mentioned it is further evidence of her trolling.

littlebella - I expect she makes use of the school bell/work continuum just as I do. There is a wormhole of flexible time that can wink open to enable working parents to get there in acceptable relative time. Obviously it is only relative and occassionally the window winks shut - usually when your boss is actually waiting by your desk or ambushed you as you walk past his office .

And no I don't speed. Traffic rarely allows.

LOL

Is asking if someone speeds hanging drawing and quartering them then?

I thought it was just asking them a question. (Have just read the thread a bit more and seen that the OP is apparantly a regular but am still feeling a bit sceptical)

Bit nosey here, just wondered what job you do PPP that allows you to mumsnet off and on through the day?
And - have they any vacancies?

that is one very long name

Yup - the full 30 letter max I will have you know!

"TIS ONLY A SPACE" how would you feel if you couldnt park at a mother and baby spot because some lazy person parked there because it was closer and they were "in a rush"? It doesnt matter if the man was disabled or not, its sooo annoying. Other parents might of been in a hurry to but have more respect/decency to park in a space thats not for them. I hope u get clamped next time!
p.s i think nurserys should have more parking spaces tho!

this is just pathetic