Husband told my sister to ‘fucking grow up’

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I’m stuck in the middle over something which happened last night. Myself and DH met up with my Dsis and her partner for a dinner in a local restaurant.

The service was a bit slow and DH was getting a bit fed up/hangry. When it eventually came out, everything was placed into the middle for us to share out (think Chinese/thai type meal).

DH immediately started serving items on to his plate and my Dsis basically asked him to stop so she could get a video. He asked why and she said so she could upload on her to her social media. He then said the fucking grow up comment and there was an awkward atmosphere.

DH hasn’t apologised and I’ve had a shitty text off Dsis today. Luckily we aren’t spending Christmas together.

I absolutely think DH was in the wrong but he’s protesting his innocence and said having waited long enough for the food to arrive he shouldn’t have been told he couldn’t eat it.

Good for your husband - I agree with him how bloody annoying.

I'm the opposite. I want to know what is happening to the world that videoing your food for strangers is acceptable and asking your family to wait for you to finish the video when they are wanting eat.

It's weird when teenagers do it. A fully grown adult? Self-indulgent and annoying as fuck.

Stopping others eating so you can upload shite on social media is self-absorbed rudeness. I think more people should be told to grow up when they are sitting there filming their coffees and meals tbh.

Amazing how many people have allowed their hatred of social media to make a man being aggressive and swearing acceptable, as the “lesser of two evils”

@CalmTheFuckDownMargaret & @shhblackbag you are my people 😂

Nobody wants to see a video of your sister’s tea, it’s odd behaviour.

Honestly I think you must live in a different world. It's nothing new either. Most families will have hours and hours of 90s home videos of families toasting before a meal, or serving up. It's just a different medium now.

I probably do. We've never done it in my family or friend groups. If that's a different world, I'm happy in it.

That’s very different to videoing the actual food. The home videos you’re talking about are generally of important occasions, and as you say yourself they are of families toasting the meal not the food itself. It sounds like this person just videoed the food with the sole purpose of posting it on social media. It’s self indulgent and odd, who wants to see a video Of someone’s restaurant food? Different maybe if she’d made the meal, or it was some very special restaurant.

Anyone taking photos of another person without their explicit consent deserves far more than he said. Let her take her pathetic snaps of lots of children eating and post those on one of the idiot websites, I wonder what the response would be?

Hangry is an excuses for a toddler your dh needs to grow up and be able as adult deal with silly people aka your sister. He should be able to tell her she is being stupid and ridiculous and start eating. No need to involve you.

Yes, this.

Seriously! Do you really not understand how Instagram works!? No one posts photos of random kids fgs, it's of the food!

No need for him to speak to her like that. Rude and crabby

They were both wrong. She should not have asked him to wait so she could video the food, it's rediculous. But also, he should not swear at her because that's not an appropriate way to speak to people.

Is your sister a teenager? Team DH all the way. I’d have told her to get to fuck too if I was feeling hangry.

I’m on dh side.

My sister in law does the same with everything, always has to be a photo for her SM pages.

Shes often told to grow the fuck up by dh and MIL.

No one gives two shits about what other people are eating and don’t care about food photos unless it’s a Michelin starred chef advertising their skills or some really obscure dish, perhaps.

I’m absolutely on your DH’s side here, and while he shouldn’t have reacted like that, I can see why he did and I probably would have responded in exactly the same way if I was starving and she’s faffing on her phone.

She does need to grow up and get a life, frankly. She’s a bit pathetic trying to show off her food. The things people put on social media are absolutely ridiculous. Imagine if, in days past, people took photos of their dinner, got them developed and went round to their mates, ‘Look what I had for my dinner!’ 🤣

This is completely different.

It will just be photos of the food, probably from above.

we went out for dinner last night and there was someone near us standing on her chair taking photos of the food from above like that, and then from all different angles. She was at it for ages and then sat on her phone for ages, probably posting it before she started eating. Her companion was doing the same thing too, it was actually quite amusing.

If I’d been dining with them, I would have been very pissed off though.

Being in the middle is a choice, no one can place you there. You H was rude and your sister is a twat, they are supposedly grown up, don’t assume the role of peacemaker you won’t e thanked. Let them sort themselves out.

Agreed! The sister is clearly a shallow, SM obsessed bore if she wants to do this. That’s fine if she keeps it to herself, but dragging others into it is not on. Well done DH.

Agree with this. I absolutely hate it when a phone is whipped out to take photos of every bloody course, plus any drinks. It is bizarre.

I’m with DH, everyone stop so I can hunt for likes on social media. No one is interested. Grow up is right

I am also on your DH's side!

Team DH, making people wait so you can post silly videos on Instagram is pathetic and spectacularly rude.