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GreyBeeplus3 · 21/12/2025 21:01

Be honest,
Would YOU share if it had been you?
And will you be doing scratchcards next at years meal?

Firefly1987 · 21/12/2025 21:02

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/12/2025 20:54

That's why it's a pretty shit gift. 99% of the time, it isn't even a gift because you don't get anything and the odd time that you do, the person wants their gift back.

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Definitely. It worked out for my nan she gave her friend one and she won £50-which is just perfect really. I think that was the first time I ever heard that people actually gifted scratch cards, not something I'd ever thought of doing! Good job too because I'd be gutted forever if I bought a mega winning scratch card for someone that wasn't me lol.

MyAmusedPearlSquid · 21/12/2025 21:13

I mean surely it's his as you have given them out but I've never been in this position unless you set out ground rules before hand

Zanatdy · 21/12/2025 21:16

I don’t think he should be expected to share. Personally I would though.

lessglittermoremud · 21/12/2025 21:22

Just asked the family what they would do in that situation and we were split 50/50 on opinions here, 2 of us would share it equally amongst how ever many people there were, 1 would keep half and then split the other half between the rest of the group and 1 would keep the entire amount as the scratch card was a gift and you can’t dictate what someone does with something once they’ve given it to you.
For what it’s worth I would share it equally if I had won, my DH would have kept
£25 000 and given the other half to be split and our children 1 would share equally and one would keep the lot 🙈

Stickyplasters · 21/12/2025 21:25

Everyone will always ‘share’ until they are put in the position to do so and then the ‘rules’ suddenly don’t apply to them. It’s bullshit. You are just annoyed he won and you didn’t. Accept it. Move on.

21secondstopassthemic · 21/12/2025 21:34

Ewww, you are so grabby!

champagneplanet · 21/12/2025 21:37

Personally with family that close and the fact that it’s Christmas I think i’d share, but if I won £50k i’d probably treat the close family anyway (eg: a holiday) but maybe that’s just me.

Do you all buy scratchcards for each other or just you for other people?

CocksBolingey · 21/12/2025 21:37

You bought everyone a scratch card. His won. The winnings are his and his alone. Be happy for him.

IForgotTheApricotJam · 21/12/2025 21:49

Yes Yabu as you didn't set a rule beforehand about sharing.
You can't retract a gift, you are just being greedy as it's a big sum.. Unfortunately you have learned the hard way.

ProfMummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 21/12/2025 21:58

Might not expect him to share out equally, but a nominal sum wouldn't hurt. Even £1000 each isn't going to make a dent in 50K for goodness sake. Giving you or any family involved absolutely fuck all is greedy IMO.

Unless they are up to their eyeballs in debt, or flat stoney broke, to keep it all sounds like the sort of person who will also plough through it in no time, but he'll burn his bridges too, and the family won't forget it if the chips are down.

Plus future Christmasses are going to be awkward as fuck, that's if they even get an invite!!

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 21/12/2025 21:59

MissLead · 21/12/2025 15:27

Absolutely

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Bullshit 😂😂😂

ShyMaryEllen · 21/12/2025 22:01

I never got anything that could make one of my children richer than the other (eg lottery cards or premium bonds) when they were children, but as they are now adults I get one each for the family at Christmas (and one each for their partners) and those who are at the Christmas table scratch them between courses. The others do it when they like, but obviously in private. There is no expectation for anyone to share. If I won a big prize of any sort I would split it three ways - a third for my husband and me and a third for each of my children - but I wouldn't expect them to do the same. £100k (for instance) is a life-changing amount, but split between six it is £16600 each, which would be lovely for the non-winners, but wouldn't make such a big difference to the winner.

I think I'd expect the winner to throw a party or something for the whole family, but they should keep the rest for themselves.

dannyufcfan · 21/12/2025 22:17

I do think it's really shitty of your BIL to give you nothing. Really poor stuff.

25flyby · 21/12/2025 22:30

vanillalattes · 21/12/2025 18:58

It's not being an arsehole to keep the winnings you won from a gift, though.

Gifts shouldn't come with expectations.

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It’s not really a gift though is it? Otherwise the Op would be a twat for giving 5 of them cardboard.
Everyone knows it was just random chance he got a lucky ticket - it wasn’t Op choosing to give him £50k.
Most people share cracker prizes or hand round the chocolates they win at after dinner bingo. Its Christmas, sharing and being generous is part of what makes it special.

25flyby · 21/12/2025 22:43

I don’t know how many sisters there are but say there are 6 adults, that £8k each with the winner getting the extra £2k.
I mean that would make for a great Christmas for everyone involved.
As it is only one sister and BIL are pleased. The Op rightly or wrongly is resentful. Christmas is marred by this.

Kickinthenostalgia · 21/12/2025 22:44

I mean in our house the general consensus is if you win big we share it. Obviously every one is different. But fair play to him. The most I’ve won on a scratch card is £120 🤭

AmyDuPlantier · 21/12/2025 22:49

A family member won millions on a gifted scratch card and nobody once suggested it should be shared. Why would it be?

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/12/2025 23:14

ProfMummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 21/12/2025 21:58

Might not expect him to share out equally, but a nominal sum wouldn't hurt. Even £1000 each isn't going to make a dent in 50K for goodness sake. Giving you or any family involved absolutely fuck all is greedy IMO.

Unless they are up to their eyeballs in debt, or flat stoney broke, to keep it all sounds like the sort of person who will also plough through it in no time, but he'll burn his bridges too, and the family won't forget it if the chips are down.

Plus future Christmasses are going to be awkward as fuck, that's if they even get an invite!!

But it's not greedy to give someone something with a tiny chance that they may win something big and then expect some of it back just because they got lucky and won?

Don't give it in the first place if you expect something back.

25flyby · 22/12/2025 04:49

AmyDuPlantier · 21/12/2025 22:49

A family member won millions on a gifted scratch card and nobody once suggested it should be shared. Why would it be?

Because sharing the luck/money/love is what decent human beings do? Especially when any one of them would have got that card.
It’s not earned money. It’s not even gifted money. It’s a bit of good luck that someone gifted them the chance to have.
And it’s bloody Christmas. If you can’t be altruistic then, when can you be?

If you get a scratch card for your birthday then yes it’s yours. TBH if I won a substantial sum like £50k I would absolutely give some to the giver as a big thank you.

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/12/2025 05:55

That’s the problem with people, someone has a bit of luck and they then expect the person to share it.

Not a chance.

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MissLead · 22/12/2025 06:14

Namechange2211 · 21/12/2025 19:23

I don’t believe this anyway

If you haven’t got the guts to be nasty without changing your name - then don’t bother at all.

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grlwhowrites · 22/12/2025 09:19

It's tricky bc I do see both sides. If your brother had come to dinner all excited and said "Omg, I won £50K on a scratch card!" you'd be over the moon for him but wouldn't expect a penny. It feels different when you've bought the scratch card for him so I get why you're feeling the way you do.

As you didn't have any rules in place around a big win, it absolutely is his money and he's doing nothing wrong by keeping every penny. You wouldn't expect him to give you part of any of the other presents you may have bought him and that'll be his logic. For your own sanity, just try and pretend he bought it himself so you can make peace with it and not feel so disappointed in him.

If it were me and my sibling had bought me a scratch card and I won big, I'd feel terrible not giving them something but your brother isn't in the wrong to keep his winnings. He may feel guilty later down the line when the dust has settled, though. Also, if he tells people the story, I'm sure many people will automatically ask, "did you give your sister any of your winnings?" If enough people say it, he might start rethinking his bold assertion not to share with you.

In the future, definitely put some rules in place! Maybe that whoever wins big gets to keep half the jackpot and the rest gets split between everyone else playing?

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 22/12/2025 09:32

Papyrophile · 21/12/2025 19:33

It's a really interesting question. £50k is significant money, but not life-changing unless it's the deposit on a house. Personally it's not enough for me to want to fall out with my family but I am acutely aware that I am 70 and have already earned everything I really need and most of what I would like, so sharing it would be more of a pleasure than hoarding it.

It may not be life-changing to you, but it would be for many, many people. Maybe it's a London vs the rest of the country thing?

As you acknowledge yourself, it would be if you were able to use it to get on the housing ladder; so if you're use that same amount of money for something else instead, why wouldn't that be life-changing too?!

Even if you didn't splurge it on any big-ticket items and just kept it in the bank, it would be mentally life-changing for a great many ordinary people to be able to know that, if the boiler goes, or the car needs an expensive repair, or if your child wanted to go on an expensive school trip, or if you lost your job, or if you were going to see a temporary drop in your wages on maternity leave - it's all covered and no need to stress and fear it.

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 22/12/2025 09:43

Firefly1987 · 21/12/2025 19:39

Oh wow, I would be seething with jealously-I know it's wrong but you expect them to win £50-£100 max on those things if anything. Mind you I would never gift a scratch card-9/10 no one will win anything and I would never introduce anyone to the possibility of a gambling addiction!

But why woukd you buy a card with a potential top prize of, say, £250k and then just assume that there's no chance of it winning more than £100? If these cards did have a maximum prize of £100, only desperately poor people (who probably shouldn't do in the first place) would buy them.

It's a bit like insurance in reverse (excluding car insurance as you have no choice in that): something bad is extremely unlikely to happen to you or your home, but you know that it still potentially could - hence you choose to pay your premium to be protected just in case it does happen.

When you hear of massive winners in the lottery/scratchcards, they're always just some ordinary man or woman who cannot believe their luck. Somebody is going to win, so if you're just an ordinary man or woman, why couldn't that be you?