Scratchcard Win

[MissLead]

So yesterday we had our annual pre-Xmas family meal (my brother, sister partners and kids).

every year we have done this I’ve bought everyone a scratchcard as a bit of fun.

BIL won £50k on his card yesterday and is not going to share it!

I think he should!!!!

What an odd assumption.

This is why you shouldn’t do scratch cards 😅

years ago, I worked with someone who would buy us all a scratch card on their birthday (team of 12) when a young new member of staff won 1k the birthday woman went mental. Completely nuts that she brought them expecting no one to win? 🤦‍♀️

OP AIBU

PPS YABU

OP No I’m not, you’re all not nice!

🤦‍♀️

Needing attention much? 🙄

I think people are being a bit harsh. Obviously he doesn’t have to share, but with family, I absolutely would. It sounds like 3 families. At a minimum I’d give the other 2 families 10k each, you’d get to keep £30k!

The likelihood of this happening was always on the cards (sorry!)

If I had drawn the lucky scratchcard in this situation, I think I would have liked to have given everyone something, from £100 - 1000 apiece depending on the number present. Then I think the rest is for the winner, who would probably spend it on the mortgage or a holiday/car/whatever. But I do hope the buyer got their £1 back!

I wouldn’t expect them to share, I would be happy for them.

If it was me that had won I would probably have paid for a family day out with some of the money but I wouldn’t share it equally between everyone.

I don’t believe this anyway

The inherent lack of generosity among some on Mumsnet never fails to surprise

As if Op is going to say "no"

😂

It's not a "lack of generosity" not to share your Christmas gift 😂

That's going to end up an absolute binfire, though, if you share it according to who is perceived to really need it. Everybody will have an idea as to why they do, and possibly why others don't.

Gambling (if legal) is random, and it doesn't discriminate based on the need of the gambler (or the person on whose behalf somebody else has gambled). One person may have lost their job, contracted a serious illness and be about to lose their home if they can't come up with £10K immediately, and win nothing; somebody else who is already a multi-millionaire might win an extra £50K that they'll barely notice - and they may spend it on illegal, immoral or otherwise objectionable things.

You see it on gameshows too - especially ones like The Wheel where the prize is invariably tens of thousands of pounds and only one person wins the whole lot. Obviously some of it depends on skill, but an awful lot is purely down to luck. You get one person wanting to give it all to buy Christmas presents for hungry, homeless orphans, and they go home empty-handed; but the person wanting to spend it on 100 pairs of ridiculously expensive Kanye trainers to keep unworn and on display in their boxes goes on to win it.

That's just how chance works. If you want a guaranteed return on your work or financial outlay, you stay well clear of gambling or other luck-based outcomes and go down the traditional channels of exchanging an agreed X for Y instead.

I think this is a bit mean - if I won 50k on a scratchcard given as a surprise/gift at an event I would absolutely give everyone a token gift. Even £500 would be a nice gesture. And really beneficial for not souring relations completely!

if the scratch card was a gift then you have no say in that gift once it has left your hands. If it was a group activity/ game that you were all in together then you should have had rules (ie split winnings, put any winnings towards the cost of the meal etc). Your BIL is not in the wrong for keeping the money.

It's a really interesting question. £50k is significant money, but not life-changing unless it's the deposit on a house. Personally it's not enough for me to want to fall out with my family but I am acutely aware that I am 70 and have already earned everything I really need and most of what I would like, so sharing it would be more of a pleasure than hoarding it.

I'd definitely share if someone bought be a scratchcard and I won 50k. But how much?! Whats reasonable? 10k? Half?! That's awkward, id probably feel a bit cheated too if he didn't, to be honest.

You are an absolute chomper

His scratchcard

This might be a getoit of jail card if he gets to use it as an excuse to not see you again

I would have put the card in my bag and said "Shucks I lost again"

It's clearly not a bit of fun if you expected some of the money if anyone won. You should've made it clear that the gift actually isn't a gift or a bit of fun at all.

What if a winner wants to use the £50k to pay off debt, new car etc

No! You must split it. It's been decided after the event

Oh wow, I would be seething with jealously-I know it's wrong but you expect them to win £50-£100 max on those things if anything. Mind you I would never gift a scratch card-9/10 no one will win anything and I would never introduce anyone to the possibility of a gambling addiction!

i would share - with my kids and immediate family

he is a bit mean! without you buying that he would not have it!

YABU.
It was his gift, his winnings.
Don’t be bitter about it.

You hadn't said he had openly.statednit. You may just have assumed if he hadn't been forthcoming with immediately wanting to share? He might want to sleep on it.
Obviously not then!
I thought it was open to discussion - why would you post otherwise?