To not look after DSC with a chest infection whilst DP goes to a football match

[sorrytorun]

On antibiotics for pneumonia. Feeling awful. Haven’t been able to leave bed for a week.

DSC (5) is with us this weekend. DH has announced today that his 5- aside football team is playing a charity match today. He will be on the bench 🙄 he’s asked me if I can look after DSC for “3 or so hours” whilst he goes or whether he should take him with him.

i said I was feeling rotten and usually I’d be fine to look after DSC but can he take him with him today.

he said “you could watch a film with him?” I said no again and he flounced off saying he won’t be able to come off the bench now.

Aibu?

Because she is very ill with Pneumonia
Because it isn't her child and therefore isn't her responsibility

I don't think the op is married to this man, presumably she has to subordinate herself some more if she wants the 'privilege' of being his wife.

<sigh>

YANBU

Are you the "D" H?
Petty?

1. This child is not OPs child, it is her partner's
2. Her partner should be spending time with his own child during the time he has custody
3. OP is very sick.
4. Her partner should be taking care of her, not fucking off to a football match

Yes, single parents do have to manage but OP is not single (although she may wish she was now), nor the parent of the child.

If OP was a single parent, she wouldn't be looking after her step-child would she?

So another EOW dad who can’t even spend the limited time he gets being a parent and instead delegates childcare to his nanny with a fanny he shacked up with very quickly so he can swan off living like single bloke.

They're ten a penny on MN

Do not marry him.

Do not have children with him.

You will regret it.

When people show you who they are, believe them.

WTFF? It’s the father who is the parent, semi-detached at best, semi-single.
OP isn’t in this picture at all except as one of the crowd looking on, essentially.

(What they are watching is yetta nother bloody twat of a father preferring to spend his limited time with his 5-year old son by leaving him in the care of someone else, who’s presently half dead with ‘flu. Everyone in the crowd looks like yer man in ‘The Scream’ by Munch)

Even if the poor little sprog fancied that, OP shouldn’t be out spreading germs, and possibly passing out into a cauldron of Glühwein at the festive market!

@sorrytorun hope you feel better soon.
Unfortunately your "partner" is yet another selfish, useless, part time sperm donor.

I'm unclear from the op if the child also has a chest infection? If so, then it would be unfair for them to be sitting out on the touchline for 3 hours. BUT that does not mean that you with pneumonia should be the one looking after them indoors!
If the child is well then wrap them up and off they go, but good luck having a 5 year old sat spectating for that long.

Tbh even if they were your own child you'd be handing them over to someone else to look after when you've got pneumonia wouldn't you?

Has your dh always been that selfish?

Hope you're feeling better soon

Decent fathers also manage to prioritise their young kids ahead of their hobbies - so what’s your point? 🙄

Here we all are discussing the issue at hand, and yet the OP now appears to have nothing to say!

Even if this was your own shared child, he should be letting you rest and handling all parenting responsibilities. He isn’t going to work, it is recreation.

Husband should be looking after you and his son, not buggering off to football.

No, That's was my point, really. If I sent that message to my DH's parents, they wouldn't come round, they'd be on the phone to him to read him the riot act (and tell him to sort his s**t out) faster than it would take me to make another cup of lemsip. But then they raised DH properly in the first place, so he wouldn't actually do that anyway.
If the OP's partner is in a childish strop because he thinks she's being unreasonable, a word (or several) from someone else to tell him that he's being a twit might have the desired effect.

Quite. So why isn’t this single father managing?