Does your DH like how you dress

[Travellingwifey88]

Dh hates the way I dress. Everything i wear he has a comment on. Everything

For context I don't like my figure at the moment and am actively trying to drop.some weight (have lost a stone so far) my clothes usually consist of black trousers, plain t-shirt/top or ocadsusobally jeans and a plain top

I like patterned tops but DH doesn't like flowers in tops so I have stopped wearing them. But then.oans plain t shirts make me look old and funky

When i am in the office I have a few nice work tops. He moans they are boring as well

Today it kicked off as I have a black cardigan I like to wear. My WFH soace ia cold so I need a jumper / cardigan. He hates this cardigan. I wore it. He screamed and shouted

Dd later picked it up (she's 10 but likes to wear this cardigan) she was wearing it when he came down and he bellowed at her to take it off.

Dh wants me to dress like I did when I qas 4 stone later and in my 20's. I'm currently mid 40's and a lot bigger.

I mean, he does like what I wear, but if he didn’t, that wouldn’t stop me wearing it it’s not his fucking choice! Why are you letting him dictate what you wear?

I don't think my husband has passed a single comment on how he would like me to dress in 26 years of marriage.

Do you like what he wears?

Is he abusive in other ways too?

What an abusive twat.

I can honestly say I have no idea. He has never really commented on what I’m wearing that I can remember.

I think this is bigger than your clothes. Your husband shouldn’t be screaming and shouting at you. Nor should he or you think it’s acceptable for him to dictate what you wear.
This sounds controlling. Do you have a network of good people to talk to?

Sorry but your husband sounds like an abusive dick. You shouldn't be screamed and shouted at because you put a cardigan on. You should wear what you like and no one should dictate what that should be. It's abusive.

Have you tried telling him to fuck off?

He screamed and shouted about a cardigan you wore indoors??

That man has real issues.

He screams and shouts at you?! Not on. If it wasn't your clothes, would it be something else?

My exH wanted me in tight fitting things, but he didn't scream and shout over it. And hes still an ex.

No way is this a happy healthy marriage.

Will be tip of the iceberg of a rotten marriage

Thoroughly depressing to imagine your poor kids

I’m dying to know what this specimen of a man looks like. I’m assuming women are falling over themselves when he walks down the street.

To scream and shout about something you are wearing is not normal. As someone else wrote above, is he like this about other things? The most I’ve had is “I’m not… sure about that one but you still look great!”

He screamed and shouted over your choice of cardigan?

Seriously worrying. Do you feel safe?

My DH is very honest and if I ask he will let me know his thoughts but if I don’t ask he never says a word about what I’m wearing, in fact he always says I look lovely. The only one thing he has ever said is that he dislikes jumpsuits on women, I’m shirt so it’s not an item of clothing that suits me anyhow, but that’s it. He also rarely comments on other women right to be fair.

yiu shouldn’t be getting yelled at for wearing a cardigan that’s nasty, he sounds awful OP and your poor daughter, who made him the fashion police.

I have no idea. I wear what I like,not what he dictates.

He screamed and shouted because he didn't like your cardigan, then bellowed at your daughter? This goes way beyond the issue of not liking your clothes. In what world is it reasonable to scream at a woman and bellow at a child over a cardigan? Are you frightened of him?

Yeah like others have said he’s mental. He shouldn’t be yelling at you over clothes.

But yes, my husband does like how I dress and always compliments my looks. I dress quite sexy - weight has fluctuated by 3 stone over the years. He actually prefers me heavier. But even at a big size I still dressed quite sexy - not mutton dressed as lamb but with attractiveness in mind.

If you’re feeling unattractive it sounds like you’re almost trying to dress for invisibility? You can look amazing at any size with the right clothes. At a bigger size I like a baggy high waisted trouser with a slim fitting / skimming top. Dark colours, red lip for the pop.

But do it for yourself not for him. When you feel sexy you can find a new husband who’s nice to you ;-)

Yes DH loves what I wear but even if he didn’t I would still wear it. Is your husband abusive in other ways? Because this is not normal

I’ve not asked him but I suspect he would like me to dress up a bit more. I’m very much jeans & top kind of person. So he has to put up with that.

I would be interested to know what your DH wears. Is he in good shape?

I’ve never asked my Husbands opinions on my clothes

He’d never offered an opinion

He thinks spending more than £20 on any item of clothing should be a crime

He’s never shouted or screamed at me about anything in our 20 year marriage

OP, your problems are not clothes, they are your abusive husband

I don't think DH has ever expressed an opinion on my clothes to be honest.

Also in almost 20 year together he has never 'screamed and shouted' at me. About anything. That's not normal.

He sounds like a bully. My DH does like what I wear but if he didn’t I wouldn’t give a toss; I dress for me, not anyone else. You’ve got a bigger problem going on here than your wardrobe.