Does your DH like how you dress

[Travellingwifey88]

Dh hates the way I dress. Everything i wear he has a comment on. Everything

For context I don't like my figure at the moment and am actively trying to drop.some weight (have lost a stone so far) my clothes usually consist of black trousers, plain t-shirt/top or ocadsusobally jeans and a plain top

I like patterned tops but DH doesn't like flowers in tops so I have stopped wearing them. But then.oans plain t shirts make me look old and funky

When i am in the office I have a few nice work tops. He moans they are boring as well

Today it kicked off as I have a black cardigan I like to wear. My WFH soace ia cold so I need a jumper / cardigan. He hates this cardigan. I wore it. He screamed and shouted

Dd later picked it up (she's 10 but likes to wear this cardigan) she was wearing it when he came down and he bellowed at her to take it off.

Dh wants me to dress like I did when I qas 4 stone later and in my 20's. I'm currently mid 40's and a lot bigger.

This has got absolutely nothing to do with your clothes
And everything to do with him being an abusive, controlling bastard

This isn’t about clothes. You have an abusive husband.

I agree with everyone else, your husband is criticising, screaming and shouting at you for ordinary everyday things that other people do not shout about- that is abusive.

You definitely need help, OP, as his 'normal' is not normal, sorry. I would try Women's Aid and take the advice of the great posters on here.

He's a nasty piece of shit.

My husband doesn't like my tunic.

I put it on and say "its your favourite, it's tunic day!" and he pulls a silly face and rolls his eyes and we laugh.

That's the only opinion he has and he only expressed it because I complained about the tunic being annoying.

Mine doesn't comment on what I wear and i wouldn't know if he liked something or not, he gives me compliments more on the clothes I know he likes but he would never tell me he doesn't like something I wear, your husband sounds controlling and there seems to be bigger issues in the relationship than him not liking your clothes, don't let him dictate to you what you wear

Yes, my DP dresses very plainly. Grey or blue jeans, plain t-shirts, plaid flannel shirts, plain jackets, all in muted colours. Buzzed grey hair, no jewellery or tattoos.

I’ve got a dark green panel in my hair, tattoos, multiple ear piercings, tons of silver jewellery, wear Docs, biker boots, leopard Converse and creepers, graphic tees, jeans, fishnet or patterned black tights, vintage-looking 60s style dresses. He gives me plenty of compliments about my style so he appears to like it but we look totally different.

I have one or two floaty tops which are bead that he comments on "aah, the bangra look". I don't think he likes thwm much but wouldn't go so far as to say so.

His comments include
It's very you dear
You were very presentable
That shows off your cleavage
Is that new (er no, I've had it for five years, do you never look at me)

If he shouted at me like yours @Travellingwifey88 he'd be my ex.

More than 45 years ago I had a date with a chap who told me he liked girls to wear dresses and to help chose their clothes. There wasn't a second date.

DH doesn't show a preference for what I wear other than telling me I look nice if I put on something new. He did comment a while ago that I was trendier than him these days as I was wearing wide leg jeans 😂
I don't like everything he wears (hideous green trousers anyone?) but he wears what he likes while I make leprechaun jokes....
The screaming and shouting and telling you to stop wearing certain things is hideous

What an abusive twat. I don’t know whether DH likes all my clothes, some I know he does because he’s said “I really like that dress” etc but he’s never once said anything negative about what I’m wearing because frankly it’s none of his concern as he’s not the one wearing it.

As for bellowing at your DD - I’d lose my rag at that.

Blimey, he bellows at you for wearing a top he doesn't like? Can't imagine what he'd do if you actually did something wrong. He sounds a horrible specimen of a man

So he's controlling you then abusive behavioury dh has never mentioned anything regarding what I wear in 9 nearly 10 years

My OH thinks I am the sexiest woman alive regardless of what I wear, bless him. He very rarely comments, apart from a standing ‘joke’ about animal print (he hates it and compares me to Bet Lynch!). Op, you have much bigger issues here than what you wear as I am sure you know - this is the tip of a very large iceberg.

Yes he compliments my outfits, some more than others as he has favourites and I know that there is a cardigan he doesn't like the colour of but I wear it anyway and he doesn't treat me any differently.

He also wouldn't dream of telling me to use a tea towel instead of an oven glove because I am a grown woman who can make decisions for herself as to what feels best for me.

If you think about this is there anything he would ever say you do right?

Bellowing at your child is just disgusting behaviour.

No he says I always look nice even if I don’t, he did recently ask if we can make an effort and dress up for a date night but he also like to make an effort (we are usually jeans and walking boots people) so we are doing that Sunday. He is far from perfect but does compliment me. I think he knows if he said anything about an item of clothing I’d wear it all the time, inc in bed to annoy him ha.

He sounds awful! My DH definitely has opinions. He likes me in tight black clothing and he dislikes frumpy stuff. But he doesn't say it like I have to take it off, or in an abusive way or try to control me.

He just finds some outfits more sexy than others. I am fine with that as I also like him more in some outfits than others, speaking purely sexually. However that is about the bedroom and what we wear elsewhere is our business.

Wear what you like, OP. Horrible behaviour from your husband!

My husband never really comments on what I wear, except if it’s something new / especially smart, and then he might say “oh you look nice”. If he tried to tell me NOT to wear something I’d either laugh , tell him to fuck off, or both. But he just wouldn’t !

I mean, I suspect OH would like me to maybe dress a little more feminine. I'd like to as well but I feel weird in floaty girly stuff. I'd also like to wear what I wore when I was 4 stone lighter and in my twenties! But the clothing isn't your issue here. It's your OH. OP, it's not okay in the slightest that your OH shouts at you about a bloody cardigan. I am so sorry you're living with somebody who thinks it's okay to subject you and your daughter to this kind of behaviour.

Absolutely no clue as if he doesn't like something he has the sense to keep it to himself.

He sounds very abusive, I would be very concerned.

My DH doesn't appear to notice what I wear, I don't think he has commented more than a couple of times in over 30 years. Even then I probably asked for feedback.

We do, however, do some outdoor activities and he notices immediately if I don't have safety gear clipped on properly or if I've forgotten to put the proper footwear on.

No man would ever scream at me over what I was wearing and get away with it tbh. How dare he? You’re not there to perform for him like a dancing monkey.

My husband only really comments when I wear a white t shirt, because he has a weird thing for me in a white t shirt. God knows why.

He sounds crazy

I was horrified by the screaming and shouting about a fucking cardigan - but this isn't about your clothes, is it? Youre living with an abusive, controlling wanker, and it never gets better.

Can you start making plans to leave? This time next year, you and DD could be somewhere safe and peaceful on your own, wearing whatever clothes you want.

My DH does not give a fuck what I wear and I don’t give a fuck what he wears. Neither of us are into fashion, but that shouldn’t matter anyway.
I mostly wear very colourful things. Both my children mostly wear black clothes.

Screamed and shouted because he didnt like what you were wearing?! LTB

Neither has mine and I’m happy with that. I may ask his opinion but ultimately it’s my choice and vice versa.