DS reception nativity - what would you do?

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DS has ASD diagnosis and is in the process of obtaining an EHCP. He has just had his nativity today, he got upset as it started and didn’t leave a teacher (who is not in his class) knee the whole time. We only had tickets for today. Am I being unreasonable to suggest to his teacher that I attend tomorrow and sit on the side with him so he can join in. The TA in his class was occupied with the other children which I totally understand. I know he will get upset if my husband or I are not in attendance tomorrow and I want it be inclusive for him and him not to miss out. He will not have the understanding to reason with him why we won’t be there tomorrow.

This wonderful utopia will never exist.

My DS sits with the TA and she takes him out when it gets too much for him. I was going to have him in the evening performance too so DH and I could watch together but I realised it wasn’t fair on him after watching the morning one. He was jumping around excited but this caused other parents to stare at him and I started feeling anxiously self protective and wanted to tell them all to fuck off. It’s sometimes fairer to keep them out of it when it’s too much.

That's lovely to hear and great that your school is so inclusive. I was surprised by all the comments saying not to ask as my son's school would also be happy to accommodate this. Must have been so lovely to see him on stage.

I was surprised too. My 4dc have been to 5 different primary schools between them (not their fault 🙈) and each one of the schools would have accommodated this request.

OP I’m sure a nice box of biscuits wouldn’t go amiss for the staff for Christmas 🎄