To think people are being bloody lazy

[SourGrapez]

Not trying to be goady (but probably will be 🙄). I keep seeing post after post about how parenting is “relentless” and “breaking people” and I just don’t really get it?

I’ve got 3 kids, all fairly close together (2 under 4 and DS8), work part-time, house isn’t a tip, kids eat actual food and go to bed at a sensible time. No screens during the week, no running round after them like a headless chicken. They sleep. Don’t beg and boss me about. They behave. Life ticks along.

Obviously there are tired days but some of the stuff on here makes it sound like people are barely surviving and I can’t help wondering what’s going wrong? Kids don’t need entertainment 24/7 and they don’t run the house. If you start as you mean to go on it’s… fine?

I don’t drink wine every night, make healthy dinners, don’t co-sleep, don’t negotiate bedtimes or bathtimes. Maybe that’s the difference? Or maybe people just don’t like being told no anymore (including adults).

Not saying I’m perfect, just genuinely confused how basic routines have become some kind of impossible feat 🤷‍♀️

And before the SEN brigade come and tell me how it’s different with their children, we already know and obviously this isn’t about them.

goes to make tea

Exactly. Work part time...so what 20 hours or less a week. I work over 40. My spare hours is catch up. Yes parenting is hard if you are a single parent working full time...and in my case both sen kids, oh and im menopausal and looking after elderly parents.

Well done you. Have a sticker. If I were to be goady id say you were lazy only working part time...

Why do you care? Just to feel superior?

God, you sound vile and incredibly narrow minded. Just because this is your experience doesn't make it so for everyone else.

Try a little grace and compassion next time. But I agree with you that it must be very easy for you if you had time to write this ridiculous post!

So we're a brigade now are we?

It does depend on the kids personalities. I have 2 easy children who are now teens so they have been a pleasure. My sisters eldest is “spirited” shall we say. It’s a completely different ball game. My sister is a great mum this little girl is just very hard work.

Also part time working is a huge luxury. (In my world anyway. All of my friends work full time). So I think if you work part time with 3 easy kids then life should be great. Lots of variables make it harder for other people.

Im a single parent and that does make life harder but I found fixing things etc harder on my own rather than the kids themselves being harder. In lots of ways I found parenting easier without having to take another persons views into consideration.

If you are enjoying it and finding it easy then just enjoy it and don’t worry about what other people are doing or finding hard.

Got to facilitate the man's life.

Looking after his child, cleaning for him and his child, believe him when he says of course she'll be able to go to university one day when his kids are older (and he thinks she'll have given up on the idea or if she hasn't, she won't be going out with the other students, she'll be running home to put tea on), not think that he'll decide that a 30 year old is too old to be wanting him to pay for her to go gallivanting about getting a degree instead of being at home with the kids...and then decide he's ready for some fun with somebody else who isn't tied down with 2+ kids and is 'young minded' or more worldly because she's travelled, studied, got a career of her own instead of working part time in a job that didn't require degree level qualifications because it fitted around babies...stuff like that.

I'm guessing you will have a fucking rude awakening when they become teenagers OP. please update this post when they do. 😂😂😂😂😂

What a triggering post. chefs kiss

YANBU.

Ok.

I'm with you on this 100%. The victim mentality is real.
I am, however, fully braced for the teenager years, and what maybe awaits....

Don’t you wish you’d lived a bit more of your life before saddling yourself with all these children? I was 25 when I had my first which felt young compared to my peer group but I’d definitely lived a bit first- spending my teenage years and early 20s childfree. I feel your post is defensive and you need to prove yourself as some super parent.

Exactly what I was thinking!!
Some parents darent say no, and also you need to step up to the plate and instill discipline, not difficult.
Good luck

There's parenting and then 'parenting'.

For example is your DC greater depth in all subjects at school? Gently preparing for the 11 plus?

Play an instrument?

Play an individual and team sport?

Have regular playdates?

Regularly exposed to new experiences, environments, culture etc?

No mention of that - your parenting post is mostly based on being fed and watered at the same time each day with time for unstructured play.

Easy parenting comes from luck, good health and general circumstance. All of those things have aligned for you but loads of people have challenges. Call it good parenting though if it makes you feel better.

I thought this thread was going to be about weight loss injections. 😂

So your husband is a predator?

I was going to say something about this but you've put it perfectly, thank you

I'm going to offer my first ever ODFOD

Same. So many people desperate for “a break” who sounds like they hate parenting. It’s all very odd. School holidays ? Nightmare - stuck with kids all day. Weekends ? Who can possibly cope

🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏 ok so a 22 year old working part time with plenty of energy is COMPLETELY different to a 30 or 40 year old single parent working full time! When I was 22 I was a step mum to a 5 year old. It was easy. I had so much energy. I could run around with him on no sleep, and only sugar to keep me going, etc. Now I can barely function on 8 hours sleep and a balanced diet.

Not the same at all.

Plus. Good luck sticking to no screens in the week when your son gets into gaming and he's left out of the social group if not catching up each night.

✨⭐️🌟💫

Interesting that the comments are nearly universally negative and yet the voting is nearly 50/50

You also caring for a sick mum?
Or were you clever enough to ensure she didn't get sick?
Also, if you develop a chronic condition, which is very common in today's world, you may find yourself exhausted easily.
Then someone else that used to be like you, will look at you and think, what a lazy cow
All she has to do is get up

I always forgot to vote!
Thank you for reminder 🤣

Why did you write the post out of interest? Are you genuinely curious to find something out? Are you linking co-sleeping with kids who are out of control? Do you post advice on the threads where people are struggling? What would your advice be? I am genuinely curious.

But I do take issue with how you talk about the “SEN brigade… we already know…” etc.

It seems to me that by writing that you are being rather dismissive of a whole, varied group of parents and carers of children whose children have different needs to yours. Also suggesting I think (by “we already know”) these parents harp on about their kids’ difficulties. I’m wondering if you have any experience of parenting or caring for a child with additional needs?

I had my first at 23
I felt amazing then 😉
Give it time, life is very unexpected.
A lot can change, and when it does you'll become a much more empathetic person.
Or you'll become bitter, unable to cope with life's sudden changes.
Good luck