Shocked by my colleague’s reply to me

[Jenni89]

I’m a teacher and went out for a couple of drinks last night as a department Christmas get together. I was a bit late so they’d already been drinking. I drove there and someone was driving like an idiot really close behind me which I mentioned when I arrived. Another teacher said that’s probably not the first man who has tried to get close to my rear end. Lots of laughter. AIBU to find that quite shocking given the audience?

Meh

They'd just had a few

Eww. That’s pretty crass.

Not on really.

Just harmless banter. I’d have just laughed it off.

Oh god it's just a crass joke

Ffs it's fine.

Not everything has to be #offensive

A bit gross but I’d let it go. No doubt there will someone advising you go to HR

It was a joke. No need to get offended by every bloody thing.

Unless your husband declared himself gay a week ago, you’re being precious.
It’s not a joke I’d laugh at, but I wouldn’t think twice about it. I’d have smiled/fake laughed and moved on with evening.

Probably true, on the great scheme of things.

Dunno.

Mostly cheeky banter for the sake of a joke, after a few drinks, I think, oooh er missus.

However if you are much younger than the person who said it, and / or more junior in the department , and they were a man who said it lecherously while making crude grabbing gestures towards your behind then a lot less OK.

It wouldn’t personally bother me. I’d have laughed it off at a christmas party.

It's pretty mild, personally wouldn't bother me.

I'll go against the grain and say it's gross and it would have bothered me too, YANBU

Report them to the TRA. Not really, it was a silly joke, seriously move on.

You're rather easily shocked. If you have had trouble with this person before making inappropriate comments then it's worse. But as a one off stupid attempt at humour just forget it.

It was a crass joke and not particularly funny but I would let it go. I wouldn’t do or say anything but I would look upon that person very differently from now on.

It's a stupid comment but I wouldn't let it bother me too much.

Was that your first Christmas night out?

Why "given the audience"?
Either it's offensive or it isn't (it wouldn't bother me) unless the "audience" was, say, a class full of children and it had been said at work.
I'm presuming that he's male and you're female?

I really couldn't get bother about something so tame.

I certainly wouldn’t think was funny. But neither would I think it particularly shocking or offensive, given that it was at a social event where people were drinking.

It’s the sort of thing tipsy/drunk people say, and other tipsy/drunk people laugh at. You may have laughed yourself if you had had a couple of drinks by the time you told them. I don’t drink, so am used to other people finding things hilarious when they aren’t, simply because they have had a drink.

If it had been said at school, with pupils present, I would take a very different view.

Was this time you first went out to a pub?

Normal people say these stupid things when they are drinking. I don’t think it’s a great idea you going there sober and expecting everyone to behave themselves while they are drunk. It’s unfair on them and you.

The teachers I know have very black humour, a bit like fire/police, as the way to get through their stressful lives.

If it was a man, I’d be thinking he’s had a good long look at my arse in the past so eeeewwww and I’d chalk him down as a bit of a creep and to be careful in any future dealing with him, but not do anything about that one comment right now.

Lighten up.

Aah the old once a year drinkers. Embarrassing for them. Take no notice

@bitterexwife Unless your husband declared himself gay a week ago

I think you're getting confused between homosexuality and anal sex.